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Date: 3/3/2003 8:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 43807
hmmmmmm.....  |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
oh that is so hard  I really don't have the answer here...but I'd be inclined to make sure the friends spouse KNOWS you do not want the affair...and take it from there....like if they don't try anything again....maybe not mention it....but......EEEEEEEEEEEK tough....one I hope to never be in!  |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 45619
i dunno.......say you didn't tell and that person finds out later that you never told them.....it may look like you actually wanted to have the affair....i would try to tell them in the best possible way.  |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 45948
Either way sucks!! If you do tell, it's more than probable that your friend is not going to believe you anyway, and if you don't tell, it will be on your conscious forever....hmmmmm. I'm not really sure what I would do in that situation.  |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 5301
...sometimes, silence is best. A thing like this has a tendency to backfire on you. The other party will refuse to believe you and you may find yourself an outcast by both people involved. It's a touchy situation. Use very good judgement before you even get involved. Can you talk to your friend's spouse and have him/her clean up their own mess without you getting too deeply involved? This too may backfire. Your friend's spouse may claim that you've been chasing him/her and now you're starting a vicious rumour to split them up. It really is a no-win situation.  |
Date: 3/3/2003 9:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
if he is doing that there isn't a marriage left to save becuase if it isn't you it will be someone else  |
Date: 3/3/2003 11:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 3998
how close are you to your friend? and how was your relationship with the husband before this? i think you have to put these into perpective befor you go make any decisions... and how well do you know their relationship, has she ever told you about problems? or ewww this is a tough one okay maybe knowing how you stand with them both and the relationship, then you will have to do what you feel is the best thing here... sorry, roseann  |
Date: 3/4/2003 5:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 59163
depends how good a friend it is. but i'd probably tell just because its not fair to the other person.  |
Date: 3/4/2003 5:40:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24845
This is just hypothetical, this hasn't ever happened to me. LOL. But I agree You'd keep your mouth shut. What is that saying, "the road to destruction is paved with good intentions. Thanks everyone.  |
Date: 3/4/2003 6:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 38474
Well I did have this happen once and I did end up with the good intentions biting me in the butt. I told my friend but not right away. I waited for a couple of weeks before I said anything. I kept thinking "Jimmy" would lay off and leave me alone. He didn't so I told her. I let her listen to the answering machine tape of his frequent calls. She was TICKED!! She did dump his sorry butt finally but our friendship was never the same after that. She told me she wasn't mad about me telling her, she was mad because I waited so long and asked another friend for advice on the situation. Yea right, she was just plain mad when she found out "Jimmy" was a TOTAL slime who hit on her friends........  |
Date: 3/4/2003 7:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
you rat on the lowlife, thats only what a real friend does  |
Date: 3/4/2003 8:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 54532
Dont tell.  |
| Date: 3/4/2003 10:28:00 AM From Authorid: 62059 I would tell my husband and he would have a talk with the guy. It's very unlikely the situation would occur, because I think they have a lot of respect for my husband. However, if it did, most of the men I know are guys my husband works with and military. There's too many marriages that fail in the military and I wouldn't want to be the one to screw one up and get the guy in hot water. Besides, I used to be in the Navy too and there's somewhat of an honor code. You never rat out a guy who is cheating. But, there's nothing wrong with having my husband handle it..Hawk |
| Date: 3/4/2003 10:30:00 AM From Authorid: 62059 Just too add, I don't have any female friends, so "friends spouse" wouldn't apply to me. That's why I used a different example above...Hawk |
Date: 3/4/2003 5:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 8629
That's a tough decision... Most likely, I'd stay quiet and pretend it didn't happen... Unless it occured again. I'd warn said husband about what I would do if he ever brought it up again.  |
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Date: 3/4/2003 6:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 57404
I wouldn't say anything, I would just tell the spouse that if they try it again, that you will tell their spouse. If you tell your friend what happened, it may not only cause problems in their marriage, but also cause a rift between you and your friend. Jealousy, etc. If it happens again, then I would take that chance and tell her. Good Luck God Bless  |
Date: 3/5/2003 9:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 61104
I think that you should wait until that person is asking questions about him and wondering if he is being faithful and then casually bring it up.  |
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Date: 3/5/2003 9:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 61104
I also think she needs to know that this problem is there so that they can talk about it and decide whether they want to try to fix it. |
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