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Date: 3/3/2003 7:11:00 PM ( Admin-DNL )
I don't think you need to be put on prozac, you have a reason to be depressed. It will hurt for a while, maybe even a long time. I wish I could give you some great advice that would help you out but I really can't. I am very sorry for your loss though *hugs*. were here for you |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:13:00 PM ( Admin-DNL )
but about the weight thing, please be careful with that. If you think you may need to see a doctor or a therapist to talk things out maybe you should. |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:15:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
Dani I'm always like this.....if I get sick or depressed like this I drop weight super fast....never intentionally just the high metabolism and stuff.....but yeah I try and monitor it carefully.  |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 54968
You just have to move on with your life. You can't bring your cat back. It was probably better for him to go to kitty heaven. Crying wont help the situation. Think of all the happy moments you shared together. Think of how YOu made a difference in his life. *HUGS*  |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
it does take time... you just got to remember your kitty is in a better place now  |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
Aw sweetie. I'm sorry. You have a reason to be depressed. Losing a loved one, even when it's a pet, hurts a lot. I cried for a long time when my old dog died on Christmas morning. Dad just told me to get over it and all. But it's not easy! I loved that dog with all my heart. People said that I should get another dog, but I didn't feel comfortable with that. Not that soon. I guess some people just dont understand how much it hurts to lose a pet that close. I'm sorry. I hope things wil get better.  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
By far easier said than done... |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
ya know I try and remember the good times....I can for about five seconds then my mind goes back to friday afternoon when all I was doing was holding his limp body repeating over and over 'I'm so sorry please forgive me,remember I love you more than you'll ever know'  |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 5301
...That's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do too. You have a good friend for many years and then you have to be the one responsible for taking it's life away. I had my cat for seventeen years, through good times and bad and when I was feeling lonely or sad, my friend was always there for me. I was a wreck the day I had to euthanize him (he had cancer). I know how you feel. Time will heal that wound, but it may take a long time until you forget the light dimming in your pal's eyes. I'm probably just making you feel worse now. Sorry about that. I still have my kitty's pic right above me where I am now, three years after his passing. I will never have another friend like him. I hope you can cope with this without having to rely on chemicals. And please try to get some rest.  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:32:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
well I definately don't want anti-depresants....and I think it's obsurd that my father suggested it. |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
Time heals wounds and I can understand why you are so sad about this. I had to put down one of our dogs a few years back. Funny, I was never really close to that dog, but when we had to put it down, I had trouble getting over it for a few days. Eventually, you'll heal and you should do what other people suggested; just think about the good times. And if you can't do that, get involved with an activity so you don't think about it as much. I feel so sorry that your cat died. "hugs"  |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
it could be worse, you could be a two foot tall midget with fat ankles  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:38:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
atleast then i could hold the midget back base LMAO |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
yeah, I have no clue what you just said |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 39350
I had to put my cat down in 2001 and I only had him for 6 months and It still hurts cuz I miss him. But I do promise you that time will ease your pain and to take it slow before getting a new pet. But make sure u give love to another because ur pet would want that. Giving your love to naother pet keeps ur pets spirit alive. *huggs*  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:49:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
ooh I misread it I thought you said i could HAVE not could BE....my bad |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
once again getting another one wasn't going to be a go out and do this tomorrow type deal  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 5301
...I can't help the way I look! |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
yeah I knew I was gonna offend someone with that statement, just never thought it was gonna be hekler |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
Hekler just totally confused me *worried look* |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
oh I got it now |
Date: 3/3/2003 7:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 59418
Oh becky I'm so sorry! It must be a really horrid time for you right now! I hope you feel better soon...metal princess  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
don't worry about it hekler I need the chuckle |
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Date: 3/3/2003 7:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 5301
...sorry about that Becky...I shouldn't make a playground out of this post. |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
awwww, I'm so sorry about your kitty. I love my kitty, too, and I'm sure when she dies, my heart will break. It's hard for non-animal lovers to understand that, for an animal lover, losing a pet is like losing a family member. You are undergoing grief now, just like you would with a person, and you need time to heal. Talking about it helps a lot, too.  |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 24845
I'm sooo sorry about your cat. I know you don't want to hear it, but it will get better. As far as your dad goes, he's a man, LOL> They don't get us girls. We are so much more emotional than men. At least some men. (to you sensitive men out there) The pain eases after awhile. Like I said I'm sorry.  |
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Date: 3/3/2003 8:16:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
Molly I can't even talk....every time I try I start bawling all over again.. |
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Date: 3/3/2003 8:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
I know it will get better and I do want to hear that.....but I want the pain gone now ya know?....I don't LIKE being like this... |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
huggs Becky!  |
Date: 3/3/2003 8:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 56489
Becky I know how you feel, been there done it, & it gets better after lots of bawling, I used to talk about my dog I had to put down & even 4 years later if I were to tell the story, I know I'd till get all choked up & cry, it just shows you'll never forget them their always in your heart, it just pain mellows with time, I promise! I'm sorry for your Loss!  |
Date: 3/3/2003 10:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 28193
I'm really sorry about this....we have had a lot of pets. I didn't want to answer your posts, because I have two cats on my tag. I know how hard it is for you. I am really sorry, I wish I could make the feelings go way for you.  |
Date: 3/3/2003 11:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 13609
aawww Becky, your going through a rough time, i swear it WILL get better! Just think of all the good things in life and dont think negative thoughts! When we had to put one of our cats to sleep i thought i'd be sad for ever, but ya know it does get better..sorry about your dad, hes a man they dont understand! lol *hugz* a bunch cheer up!!! Luv,  |
Date: 3/3/2003 11:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 3998
oh dear becky, it is soo very hard and i am praying for you... it does take time, it may only be a short time for you or it could be longer. everyone heals differently. however, you will heal! and i mean that! i have been through this before with one of my dogs.. my dad went out and bought my brother and i a new one 2 weeks later and we had to give the poor thing back cause it was just too soon... it wasnt until about 8 months later that we could get another.. so keep this in mind as well, you father may perhaps just wants you to feel better soon and this is his way of trying to help his daughter deal.. he doesnt want you to hurt, and sometimes dads... if not " men" have a different way of coming across.. i am praying for you and feel for you as well! keep us posted okay! roseann  |
Date: 3/4/2003 1:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 49374
Oh, Becky, I'm so sorry :-(. You really grew attached to that cat, didn't you? Life's like that, unfortunately. We all end up leaving this life in some way or another; I just wish I could help. Take care :-).  |
Date: 3/4/2003 2:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Becky, I've loss a lot of pets through out the years that I loved, but the extra special ones that stand out, still bring tears. I had to have Teddy put down in 1980 just after my brother died and I still tear up once in awhile. Bandit died 8 years ago after 14 years and we had a great history but I cry with him too. But Buffy Jo was my kindered spirit in animal form. Even the mere mention of her name brings the tears. I had to get her put down 6 years ago and she will forever be in my heart. The hurting you have now will ease up a little bit everyday. But the love you have for Shadow will always last. I'm sorry your dad doesn't understand as men sometimes just don't get it unless they felt the same way about a pet. You have got to be strong though for Shadow's sake. Do something in his memory such as donate time in a animal shelter in his memory once a month or give a small donation once a month in his name. Make Shadow's memory, everlasting somehow and it will help you be able to come to terms with him not being by your side except in spirit. God Bless.  |
Date: 3/4/2003 7:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 61847
I'm sorry that you had to put your cat down. It is a hard time. My mom had to put her dog down a few years ago because he was just old. She loved him very much, but getting a new dog after a while helps. I have two dogs (a golden retrevier and a rotweiler). Take your friends advice, get a new cat in about a month or so. Until then take Dimeatap or a sleep medcine to help you sleep. They do work. Just know that he is in a better place and that he loved you very much. That is all you have to remember. Focus on the good things. Not the bad. Remember the day you put him to sleep and remember when you first got him. It does get better over time. You just have to have faith. If you want to talk message me okay. Luv  |
Date: 3/4/2003 9:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 38474
Becky, I am sorry for your pain and the loss of your friend. Yes I know it was a cat, but I consider my animals as friends and I am sure you do too. I also had to have a cat put down. I know the pain you are feeling. I had my kitty Mal Mal for 15 years. She was my best friend growing up and I will NEVER forget her. I keep a picture of her here at my computer desk. She was very sick, cancer, and I realized no matter how much I wanted to keep her alive for as long as I could I couldn't let her go through the pain she was in. I admire your strength in putting Shadow's well being first over your own. It has been almost three years since I had to have Mal Mal put down but I think of her daily. Trust me eventually you will be remembering Shadow and smiling instead of crying. The pain you feel now will heal but it does take time. Give yourself time to grieve, this isn't something that you can get over in a day and your father should realize that. Sometimes parents just don't get it. I did get another cat but not right away. I lost Mal Mal in Sept of 2000 and we got Miss Lucy Furr in the late fall of 2001. She is the devil incarnate, lol. The cat is pure evil but I have come to love her just as much as I did Mal Mal. Animals are just like children, although another might come, you can never replace what the lost one meant to you. Take as much time as you need to grieve for Shadow and please don't let anyone make you feel like you shouldn't. If you need something to help you sleep Tylenol PM might help. I have used that and it has helped me in the past. If you ever need anyone to talk to please feel free to message me. Huge hugs.........  |
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Date: 3/4/2003 12:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
Thanks all....I did want to address the few who suggested taking something at night....I won't do it...past history....I get hooked on sleep aides relativly easy and I don't want to go back down that road... |
Date: 3/4/2003 7:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
Hi Becky, I know just how your feeling..I had a small dog for 19 years. The vet had wanted me to put him down but I just couldn't..He slept with me cuddled up next to my side..He had had several strokes and it had gotten to where I had to feed him with an eye dropper..The night he died I knew it would be the end..I took him to bed with me , he layed curled up to my stomach,, When morning came he had passed away...I cryed for months and just felt so empty inside...I never got another dog to take his place inside the house..I just couldn't..It's going to take some time for your pain to heal but it will..As long as you have the love for your kitty it will stay in your heart and always near you..If you truly do want another kitty, don't give up on your Dad..Sometimes we as parents see how painful a death of an animal can be on our children and we try hard so they don't have to feel that pain again..Dad's act tough but most of the time they have a heart as sweet as a kitten...Keep trying.....I hope your soon feeling better.  |
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Date: 3/4/2003 8:38:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16845
thanks nan....I don't know what to do about dad...I've given both parents the cold shoulder today....not really to be mean....but one of those I didn't want to say something I'd later regret type situations....like I said had he been not so blunt and cold about it....I wouldn't be having issues....and it's hard to look on one side of my room to see no liter box or food/water dishes *Sigh* |
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Date: 3/5/2003 1:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 55059
Try sleeping with a stuffed animal. I know its not the same as the kitty, but it can trick your mind, and help you fall asleep faster. and your Dad...hes a man- they dont have the same type of emotions as females (in most cases). Try going to friends for comfort. And theres always good ol' USM. We're here for you.. *MooChickMoo* |
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Date: 3/7/2003 7:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 61847
I also agree with Moo, when you first bring a dog home, your supposed to put a ticking clock next to them to help them sleep. You can trick your mind into thinking the stuffed animal is your cat and you'll get to sleep. I've have loads of experience in this field. Message me if you want to talk. Well God Bless and I hope that we on USM can help. |
