Date: 1/29/2003 7:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 60018
Wow, I wish you good luck! Sounds crazy but I really do think you will get the upper hand   |
Date: 1/29/2003 7:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
Blizard thank you I sure hope so, we want her so bad.  |
Date: 1/29/2003 7:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 31255
The judicial system sucks. IF she told her lawyer she wanted to live with you guys and you want her with you than her being with family is definately better than some foster care. I don't know what the judge was thinking! And having her back with her mother of course is just putting back in the same situations with the same probs, things aren't going to change there. I really hope the best for you all and I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. I really do hope someone makes the right decision...  |
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Date: 1/29/2003 7:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
Toodles thank you so much. That is what me and her father was thinking also, wouldnt it be better that she was with us then foster care, but the judge said no...so now we are also changing Judges thankg goodness maybe this new one will see it different.. |
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Date: 1/29/2003 7:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 31255
is their a social worker involved with this whole case, just out of curiosity? |
Date: 1/29/2003 7:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 50364
I am so sorry you have to go through this, My husband and I are in the process to adopt my 2 cousins 4&6 yrs old, We have been going to court every 3 months since May and it seems nothing gets figured out. To boot we live in Cleveland, Ohio and we go to court in Pittsburgh,PA. I wish ya Luck and I know good things will happen for you. Chelelea  |
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Date: 1/29/2003 7:39:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
toodles yes there is and she keeps dropping the ball on everything...ughhh i just want to pull my hair out. |
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Date: 1/29/2003 7:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
Chelelea thank you i will also keep you and your family in my prayers.. |
Date: 1/29/2003 7:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 46069
i hope it works out cuz.... seems like this has been going on for such a long time... why they dont let her real father raise her i dont know... stable loving family or foster care?.. hmmm i think loving home  |
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Date: 1/29/2003 7:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
cuz thank you, thats what we thought also. but the meeting on the 3rd is with SRS for her mother and us to talk about whats best for her. truely i think this one is a waste of time do to the fact her mother has so many negelct cases against her any ways. |
Date: 1/29/2003 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
You are going to get mad at me for what I am going to say, but please, I don't mean it badly. If it has been 10 years since MD and you have even seen this almost woman child, the damage has already been done. She will not let you have any control in her life at this late date. What can happen is that this child could create a rift between you and MD, that will cause so much destruction. I know you love her and want to help but sometimes help means just being on the sidelines and being there when she asks for help. Her being in foster care might be the best thing as she will have to conform to certain rules that you all won't be able to enforce. She already skips school knowing she will get in trouble with the authorities. I have a feeling she is doing more than skipping school too. I hope I am wrong but I've seen similar stuff and the devastation it caused when the kid turned on the parent they went to live with.  |
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Date: 1/29/2003 7:55:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
Penny I am so NOT mad at you for offering me advice. Your advice is very true she could very well do this, my only think is I can't throw her away (do to my own issues) so I at least have to let her know that we are trying and if she comes to live with us then I will be posting alot about PLEASE SEND ME YOUR PRAYERS LOL but really MD and myself have talked about her driving a wedge between us and all we can do is pray that it dont happen. thank you Penny for such wonderful advice.. |
Date: 1/29/2003 10:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 56369
I hope to god, you will eventually get custody of her. By the way you described the whole situation, you seem able to love and care for her, and that seems just what she needs. Good luck! I sincerly hope it works out  |
Date: 1/30/2003 7:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 51049
I hope that everything works out in your favor. I
know that certain things like this take time, but
I hope in the end it is all worth it. Good Luck.   |
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Date: 1/30/2003 7:51:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
Honey Soul thank you so much. I do care for her alot me and MD have our 2 together but we have room for more.. |
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Date: 1/30/2003 7:52:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
FireCracker thank you for your support, me and MD are at our ends with this all we want is a better life for her.. |
Date: 1/30/2003 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
awww sweetie, this is sad...for the young girl and for your and MD, I'm sure sometimes these welfare officials dont know what day it is!!! makes you wonder about the Judges also, the sad part that in the meantime nothing changes for the young girl and she will not improve her life one little bit until these officials get their acts together...I hope all goes well for her hun...such a shame...hugs Zema  |
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Date: 1/31/2003 12:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
thank you aunty, you are so right... |
