Date: 11/7/2002 6:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
My mom and dad are really negative.. they never support me or believe in me. My mom is practically pushing me out of school.  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 36901
You've brought up a good, but hard to answer question. I'm sure that some parents are too negative. I think in general that they don't mean to be. They just want the best for their children, but don't always know how to go about expressing that. I have several friends with teenage children and it seems like it's harder to raise teenagers these days. They seem to want more independence than generations before them and don't reguard their parents as authority figures anymore. For teenagers reading this, I'm not sterotyping or saying that all teenagers are the same. What I wrote is just what I have observed personally from the teenagers I know.  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
My parents are positive with me graduating, thinking about college and every thing.  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 55330
yes!! you've seen my post on how negative my mom reacts when i get a B on a report card. i honestly dont think they mean it to come out that way, but they get so caught up in it... things just happen.. which totally sucks for us kids!! im sorry your mom treated you like that hun!  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
i've always been lucky when it comes to this kinda stuff, my parents have always been very supportive of what i've to do or not to do. the only time they ever got on my back about this kinda stuff if i received a mark at school and they knew i hadnt tried my best. this wasnt too often but when this did happen i could totally understand it. one thing i dont understand is when parents get almost obesessed with their child's sporting involvements and no matter what their kid does it never seems to be good enough. perhaps parents have to take a step back and see their real motivation for this: Is it that they honestly believe that their child could do better (and wants to do better) or are they trying to live their dream through their child? some parents seem to have impossible standards set for their children to reach. it really isnt fair to place such pressure of someone so young  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 7092
I was never afraid of what grades i brought home, my parents were happy if i did my best. I treat my children the same, as long as i know they tried.. With sports both my kids played baseball, they played as long as they wanted too, when they didn't they quit, its just a game for them to enjoy, and to have something to do they were interested in. I think we all raise our kids the best we can, and hope for the best..  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 10534
yeah i think they are...some of my friends parents expect their kids to get straight As, which is hard. their parents wont be happy with their report card even if it was like 3 Bs and 3 As. I think that's really good! but some parents don't. arghh i know a lot of parents like that....not mine though..  |
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Date: 11/7/2002 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 7092
I was never afraid of what grades i brought home, my parents were happy if i did my best. I treat my children the same, as long as i know they tried.. With sports both my kids played baseball, they played as long as they wanted too, when they didn't they quit, its just a game for them to enjoy, and to have something to do they were interested in. I think we all raise our kids the best we can, and hope for the best.. |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
When I know that they have put their all into it and came out with a C then That's okay with me. But when I know that they are not exercising the extent of their potential then, I'll give what I call a little positive reinforcement. The words "I can't" are not allowed in my home. I always tell them yes you can if you just try. And of course I help them to understand or do what ever it is. I help my son with his home work all the time. My son is in kindergarten this year. He's only five and he can count past a hundred and can write in cursive handwritting. I know his potential, and I won't let him get away with the bare essentials. Or by just getting by..  |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 20702
I think, and I am not defending them, but, I think that parents are this way because they either did not get the chance to excel and they are just wanting their children to do and be better than them, or, they just can't face the fact that their children are NOT PERFECT. Peace......Angelreader  |
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Date: 11/7/2002 6:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 7092
Sorry about the double.. |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53052
it's great to see so many opinions.. i know there is no role model for parenting or how to raise a child.. and it is harder now a days yes... i think the amount of negitivity towards the child will eventually effect them in thier lifes as adults  |
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Date: 11/7/2002 6:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53052
release me that is a great way to raise a child... take away the strong negitive words like can't |
Date: 11/7/2002 6:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 19625
I think so... Half my friends call me real upset because their parents are all mad becuz they have B's and they "Could Have Done Better" My friend was telling me this afternoon when she was getting her hair cut that her mom wouldn't like it, I said What if it was cute, and looked really good. She said her Mom Still wouldn't like it becuz it wouldn't be good enough. Erin-  |
Date: 11/7/2002 7:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 52866
I once came home with a B in algebra in seventh grade and received a lecture from my dad telling me I need to try harder and yada yada yada. ALGEBRA...in SEVENTH GRADE...isn't that a good accomplishment in itself?? I try sooo hard to be the perfect kid in their eyes and I don't get positivity...I get negativity...  |
Date: 11/7/2002 7:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 53311
Yes, I think they are. My sisters and I are having a very tough time with my parents. They say many mean things to us, and it is starting to get to my sister and I. Right now, I think that my parents are the number one cause for my depression. I can't smile anymore because of them. Ugh, it's just so hard these days, too stressful.   |
Date: 11/7/2002 8:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 26452
Yes, I do agree with you. Parents are pushing their kids too hard lately...But, my mom and step-dad are actually pretty understanding, they are normally pretty supportive in what I do. they were very pleased when I got student of the month the first month of school, and they're happy when I get a C or B, and very happy if I get any A's. She knows I am HORRIBLE at math, and she understands if I get a D in it, and she knows I'm trying hard....But my dad on the other hand,has a freaking fit if I get anything below a B. And I always get a lecture on "How much better I can do" and that "if he ever came home with a C he got grounded for a month" etc.  |
Date: 11/18/2002 9:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
Yes, I agree with you. My dad ALWAYS compares me to my brother! I was also GROUNDED for getting a 2.8 g.p.a. instead of a 3.0. That ticks me off! I could rant and rave forever on this topic. Favortism ticks me off!  |
