Date: 9/8/2002 5:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
well, i say you talk to him about it. explain to him how you feel about him. he can't help how he's feeling, but he should understand your part of the situation too. i'm sure he will....i hope everything goes well!   |
Date: 9/8/2002 5:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
Sunny, this post breaks my heart. I can see how he must feel and I know the look in his eyes when he sees your rejection.. The coldest thing to do would be to distance yourself from him now although I'm sure that's your first instinct. Have a heart, though. The poor guy has poured his heart out to you and he's dying inside from the rejection. It's a double-edged sword. To act otherwise would only lead him on. It's a difficult situation and I don't know quite what to tell you. Take care, my friend.  |
Date: 9/8/2002 5:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 49498
this always happens, theyre like the ones who care for you the most and everytime they just wanna be 'friends'. That can hurt a guy real bad, but do as you must, right?  |
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Date: 9/8/2002 5:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
okay, i wasn't finished sorry. i just don't act totally weird around him, i mean don't avoid him, or talk to him less. maybe yall need to spend a little more time apart. but don't let him think it scared you for him to confess his feelings for you. don't let him think he made a mistake, keep yalls friendship going. |
Date: 9/8/2002 6:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 17014
This is hard. I was in the same situation and made a few wrong moves and a guy that I had leaned on as a confidant tried to move up beyond the friendship level that I had so greatly treasured. When I gently pushed his intentions out of the picture and showed that I wanted nothing more than friendship, he shyed away and he wouldn't return my calls. I was so afraid of this happening nad I had hoped that it wouldn't but it did. It's all in how he handles rejection I guess. My friend didn't understand that even though he expressed to me how he felt nad I said I didn't want that level, that we could still be friends. I guess he felt weird about staying friends....Be gentle with your friend in letting him down. Pull away slowly and he should get the hint.  |
Date: 9/8/2002 6:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
Why would you stop hanging with him? If he is your friend treat him like one,.  |
Date: 9/8/2002 6:22:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 20956
The thing is Frank that i saw the look in his eyes and it killed me. Thats why i am so confused and scared and i dont want to do the wrong thing. I know that you cant choose who you love and i wish i had the same feelings for him as he is a fantastic guy. I dont want to hurt him but at the same time i want to make sure that i dont lead him on. I just want to make it all go away and for us to be how we used to.  |
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Date: 9/8/2002 6:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 20956
Ocean Goddess, i dont want to stop hanging around with him, its my best friend!!! I just dont want to do the wrong thing by him. I wound NEVER EVER want to hurt this guy but i dont know how i can handle this to make sure this doesnt happen. I thought about perhaps pretending that this never happened in the hope that it would make him feel better but at the same time it might make him feel worse because he might feel that i am just ignoring is feelings and not acknowleging something that would have taken alot of courage to do. I just want to make everything better and normal for the both of us, but i have no idea how. and it scares the absolute crap outta of me that i am going to lose my bestfriend in this |
Date: 9/8/2002 6:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 61782
Try not to cut him off completely. Just talk to him and tell him your feelings.--Evilgeminitwin23  |
Date: 9/8/2002 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 21435
Hello Sun Angel. Shades of deja vu. I don't know if you've read the posts I wrote where I mentioned a girl named Cynthia. Much the same thing happened to us. We were very close for about 5 years. On into high school. When I suggested that we go off to the same college together, she said no and I was crushed. I withdrew into myself, got a job out in the oil fields offshore and nursed my pain for three months. As soon as I made landfall, she sought me out. Of course lots of things were said, but the thing that she said and I'll never forget was: "Kronk. Don't think that I don't love you, cause I do. It's just that there are things I have to do on my own. Love me like a sister." We spent the day together and everytime I tried to manuever around to "us," she'd turn around and say something like, "do you know that I fart in my sleep."..She was a riot and I'll never forget her. Be kind, Sunny. Make him love you like a brother Good luck, my friend...Write on..  |
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Date: 9/8/2002 6:49:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 20956
*sigh* i am going to try Kronk, i really am |
Date: 9/9/2002 2:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 61673
ive had to go through somethin like this before. I felt so bad but I told my friend that I just wanted to be friends because I didnt want anything to change between us and if anyhting happened, I didnt want it to ruin our friendship. It took him a while to be ok with it (i think he still likes me a little but at least everything is ok between us) just tell him how you feel and im sure hell understand. well good luck and let me know how everything turns out. *hugs*  |
Date: 9/12/2002 3:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 8424
Thats how a lot of marriages start out, I would rather be married or just together with someone who was my friend at first then a regular JOE...  |
Date: 9/12/2002 5:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 31048
*Sigh* this sounds all too familiar. My best guy friend has told me he wants to be more than friends atleast 10 times now, and everyone's been telling me he's totally in love w/ me and whatnot...but I only love him as a friend, and I don't know how to break that to him without breaking his heart  .  |
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Date: 9/12/2002 5:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 31048
Oh yeah, and I'm doing the same thing with trying not to be alone with him...every time we're alone he'll start putting his hand on my leg or asking me to sit on his lap, and it's awkward since I'm not attracted to him in that way. Is that what this guy does to you?? |
Date: 9/12/2002 10:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 56369
ohhh this is too hard for me!! sorry!!  |
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Date: 9/15/2002 5:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 20956
LOL! Thats okay Honey Soul, thanx for reading |
