Date: 8/31/2002 12:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 44850
what did she do that 'disrepected you as a man' in public?  |
Date: 8/31/2002 12:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 42792
disrespected you as a man in public? What did YOU do?  |
Date: 8/31/2002 12:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 61782
I really think that you two should think about the kids. Is it worth leaving them? Well if you think that it would be better for them that way then go your separate ways. Maybe you two just need time. But that time doesn't have to mean forever. Give it a few weeks or even months if you have to. Whatever you do, don't lose touch with each other. I wish you the best of luck with everything.---Evilgeminitwin23  |
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Date: 8/31/2002 1:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54959
You say what did I do like i dont admit to my faults. I am the exact opposite I alway sit back and look at all situations in someone elses perspective. At that monment I wasnt doing anything. What she did was use certain tones in her voice and facial expretions and it was in a very public. place. evil thanx for your comment I hope all goes well and she see's how much I care for her. camero1198 |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I agree with Evil on this. What did she do that disrespected you? Since you two have kids, you need to talk about what will happen with them. Maybe you both need some time apart, like Evil says. Not for a long time though...just for a while. Just dont loose touch either. I hope that everything turns out alright. Let us know what happens.  |
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Date: 8/31/2002 1:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54959
thanks punk...camero1198 |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 50435
Here's the lowdown: My feeling about your situation is that she's realizing that her life is effectively over. Now, what I mean by that is she can't just go out and get her nails done whenever she wants, she can't go on a trip to Cuba with her friends on two weeks notice, and she can't really go out, period...without making sure somebody will be with the kids. I don't think she's happy with this. Sure, she has the joy that the kids bring her, but that's something that can be experienced at any age. She's watching one of the most exciting times of her life pass her by, and she has no way to grab a hold of it. From the sounds of it you are making all the effort. Maybe it's over, lad. I hope it all works out for you both, but be prepared to have to find someone else. And make sure you guys both do what is in the children's best interest...  |
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Date: 8/31/2002 1:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 50435
What is this 'disrespecting' thing? Please don't tell me it's the same as what those bruthas and Slim Shadys out there think it is. Don't go on a fit for something that is essentially petty... |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
wow you guys are soo young to begin with! i am one to keep the personal relationship and problems out of the public eye.. no one needs to know about them except the people involved.... yes i do agree with evil abotu thinking about the children... would it be a better life with the 2 of you together and constantly fighting and the kids hearing or two happy parents who love them but just live in seperate homes... they are at an age now where if you two seperate your 1 year old won't really remember the break up, yoru 4 year old will need some explaining and will probally understand to some degree and it won't be too hard. is it better 2 happy parents or 2 disgrutled parents.. just because you are "seperating" doesn't mean it's over  |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
Maybe you do need to give her the space she needs. As painful as it is, maybe you should separate a while. You are both so young to be dealing with so much. Not that I'm saying that you can't handle it. But, it must be very stressful at times. I myself am going through some marital problems right now too, so I know personally how hard it is. I wish you the best. Snookums  |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 44850
LOL, we aren't implying that you don't own up to your own mistakes . . . what we are saying is that the phrase 'disrespecting you as a man' sounds a bit suspicious, that's all ...  ... good luck with your situation, tho! |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 45551
all i'm gonna say is before you move out if you want your kids get a free consultation with a lawyer, i garuntee it will be the smartest thing you ever did. if its not going to work out between the 2 of you, you need to do whats best for the kids. i have my son right now cause she walked out and i'm in a custody battle right now. i shudder to think of the possibilitie of her getting custody.  |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 46005
Wow... well I will tell you my opinion. Im 22, and my husband is 24. We got married when I was 20, and he was 22. It was rough, I mean *real rough* we argued a lot at first, and of coarse money was always tight, and we always had others in our business.... but like you we never really told anyone...... Sometimes man, you just have to let the other person go, and if they really love you they will come back! You can't do anything to make her different, as she cant do anything to make you different, you both just have to decide whats best. Also who both of you are right now, will be very different in a few years. People change, and yall will too! Just do whats right by the kids. Dont put them in the middle......  |
Date: 8/31/2002 1:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53806
well first off it's obvious that you both love each other. Now the way you both are going about it is all wrong instead of trying to change things about each other...accept each other as you are. Every now and then people feel overwhelmed by it all (especially when you have children) PLEASE don't pack up and leave home that's the easy way out......How will you explain this to your kids in the future when they ask didn't you love us enough to stay with us? I'm in no way saying stay anywhere where you are abused in anyway...what I'm saying is stand strong and pray about it. Your love for each other can get through the hard times....talk to her again and and try to come to some conclusion about how you both will make this thing work....I garantee you that if you tell her you love her for her and that you are not asking her to change a thing about herself but to be considerate of your feelings.....sometimes women don't think men hurt unless they are yelling, throwing things or crying....so we take your feelings for granted most times....I bet when you tell her this it will soften her heart and want to work it out with you.....fight for what you want and you shall have it.  |
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Date: 8/31/2002 2:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53806
I agree with GALLY somewhat she might feel trapped and this could play a major role in the way she is acting....let her have one day out the week just for herself to recoup her thoughts and just have fun....maybe she can see a movie, get her nails done and hang out with the girls.....she will feel renewed. having two kids and one on the way is alot of responsibility for you both.....just being pregnant is stressful she's moody right now all women are when they are pregnant. |
Date: 8/31/2002 3:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 22852
You sound like a very mature young man and I respect the fact that you care enough to try and work things out. Maybe you should let her go, I am sure with 2 kids and 1 on the way it won't be long before she is back. At the age of 22 to have 3 children is very hard, heck I am 39 and have 2 kids, one grown and in the service and one at home and I sometimes have a hard time. And the fact that she is pregnant makes it that much harder on her and you. So have faith and give her the space you both most likely need. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope all turns out well.  |
Date: 8/31/2002 4:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
All I can say here is that I feel for you and your situation. I know that all will work out for the best one way or another. I realize that it's difficult for you to really imagine life without her right now but it might be the best for both of you in the long run. My best advice to you is don't leave. Insist on staying there with the kids. Tell her that if she wants to leave, it's her choice and that you can't stop her. At least you'll have the kids. I wish you all the best and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Take care, my friend.  |
Date: 8/31/2002 6:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 53659
you might have to let her go for a while if it was meant to be she will come back to you don't leave your kids they need you.  |
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Date: 8/31/2002 7:03:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54959
Thanks you all for your comments. I was at work or I would have gotten back sooner. The reason I have left is her choice. I dont want my children to be moving from house to house so I told them stay and Ill go. Also I have tried talking, I even wrote here a letter expressing my feelings and it all seemed good, but all in all I really feel the love for me is gone. hopfully in time it will change. thanks camero1198 |
Date: 9/1/2002 8:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 16069
Your wife made it clear to you that she needs some space. Give her some space or else she will end us restenting you. You will grow farther apart. But still come to see your kids anytime you want, or even take them with you. Good luck to you and your family!  |
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Date: 9/1/2002 8:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 16069
How could you just let her keep the kids? |
Date: 9/1/2002 8:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54959
I let her keep the kids because she is a VERY good mother. And all of our family is in the town she is in. I talk to them every night and I still see them, that is were there beds and toys are. They need to be at home so they feel secure. My son starts school on tues. and has it on thurs. also and a doctors apt. on wed which I will take him to all of them. It really hurts to know they are not sleeping in the same house I am and I worry about them too much, but they need there security and not bounce around from house to house. camero1198
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Date: 9/1/2002 8:49:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 54959
Thanks again for all the comments. I am taking into consideration the fact I should stay with the kids and let her leave. The only thing is I am staying at my moms which is a better environment for me as far as having someone to talk to(My bestfriend lives here and it help to kick back with someone to get my mind off things.)So maybe I will when I get my head together, the separation is hard on me because I want to be with her so bad. camero1198 |
