Date: 8/16/2002 2:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 21266
tell her that its all innocent and if she doesnt believe you then she's not a true friend for not trusting you either
-AHD  |
Date: 8/16/2002 2:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 40530
Ditto to ABSZ  |
Date: 8/16/2002 2:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
Well, if you say that you're friendship with her is basically the same friendship with your boy friendship, then I would write her a letter saying how your friendship with her means a lot to you, but you can NOT choose between them because it's wrong.. If she is making you CHOOSE between her and her ex then that is completly wrong. Just because it's her ex and she doesn't like him any more doesn't mean you can not be friends with him.. Just let her know that your friendship with her means a lot to you but you won't CHOOSE between them.. Good luck.  |
Date: 8/16/2002 2:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 23396
If she doesn't want you to be best friends with him just b/c he broke up with her means that she isn't a best friend.Just let her know you are there if she wants to talk or if she feels like being friends again. Just give it time it will pass over.  |
Date: 8/16/2002 2:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 225
well if she cant trust u then she obviously isnt a good friend
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Date: 8/16/2002 2:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 55300
hmm...the world doen't usually see girls and guys as just friends, its really hard. You need to explain to her that you are frineds with him and it would be unfair to him to just drop a friendship because she said so, and that you would never stop being friends with her because your friends with him.(this is really hard isn't it...I've gone through this)--Dragon_tears  |
Date: 8/16/2002 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 61834
If she is your best friend quit hanging out with her X. Respect her wishes, but don't let her control you.
RacerX |
Date: 8/16/2002 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 61673
tell her that you've known ur guy best friend for a long time and ur just really good friends but she is also a great friend. try sitting down and talking to her about it. maybe she really doesnt hate you, maybe shes upset about the breakup and is trying to find an excuse to be mad at other people. and try making her and ur guy friend talk things out better and make sure everything is ok between them. then maybe she wont be so angry with both of you. good luck!  |
Date: 8/16/2002 5:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53311
Well hun, if she can't trust you, then I don't think that she is a good friend. I don't really know what else to say...  |
Date: 8/16/2002 6:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 53054
some people have a problem with other people when they have a failed relationship as they have to have someone to blame...like im nont saying that this is your friend but im saying that it is a fact of life.....tell her that he is only your friend and you would never of tried to break them up.....but if she doesn't trust you then is that really a friendship like truthfully rienndship is a thing which TRUST is needed! *hugs* i wish you the best of luck....do what is in your heart and not anyone elses. TeeNLiFe  |
Date: 9/9/2002 5:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 57158
This is probably about me, and matty, and if so, here's my comment. I told you lots of times that my trust isn't easily gained, but is easily lost. Like dragon tears said, it's hard to see a girl and boy being just friends, and i was confused, i had no idea what to think. I really wanted to believe both of you, but i was hurting so much i couldn't. I know this sounds stupid, but bear with me here. I don't want to lose you as a friend, i never did, i never will. The thing that bothered me the most, when matty and i were together, was the fact that i felt as tho i was being pushed away from you two, like you didn't need me anymore, i was just another face in the crowd, so to speak. I didn't know who to be mad at, you or matty. I ended up being mad at myself, which made me even more angry that this fustration wasn't aimed at either or you, which made me worse, and so on. I guess the thing is now, i envy you, or maybe even jealousy, i don't know, because you have a better friendship/relationship with matty than i'll ever have again. I wanted to be you, after him and i broke up, i wanted to feel those things i did when i was with him. And i didn't want to ruin anything, so i backed off from both of you, so i didn't interfer with what you have. I still don't, that's why you don't see me talking about matty with you or vis versa. It still eats away at me deep down, but not as bad. I try to be a good friend, i do as much as i possible can to be one, but i'm not perfect, and i possess a lot of flaws within me, and a lot of times they play a role in our friendship, and no i don't have control over that. I'm really sorry for all that i ended up doing, i realize my mistakes now tho, but i can't go back in time and change them. *hugs* i really am sorry tho. Love, Mel.. ~*Dangerously Tempted*~  |
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Date: 9/9/2002 5:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 57158
In my 10 page story, the part where i ended up backing away, lemme sort of rephrase that a bit. I wanted to be you at that time, then after a little while i backed off. I lost what i had, and i didn't want to do something to make the same thing happen between the 2 of you. I guess what's goin on is, i used to rely on both of you, AAAA LLLOOOTTT, but then after it all hit the fan, i took up my indepenant nature, and relied on myself. I still do, and i probably will for a while. ~*Dangerously Tempted*~ |
