Joey has a problem. He wants to be a programmer. Joey's big problem is that, while he wants success, he does things to make sure he will never have the success he dreams of. Joey constantly prioritizes trivial accomplishments that have immediate results ahead of potentially much greater accomplishments that have no immediate result. For example, once when I asked him what he was doing he said he was sorting rubber bands. Sorting rubber bands? He picked up a big box of rubber bands at a garage sale and was sorting them by size. He was proud of that.
I asked him why he wasn't studying programming instead. He said there wasn't time to finish anything he might start so was waiting until tomorrow. As is always the case with Joey, when tomorrow came, he had other priorities.
Joey is smart enough to know that he doesn't need to sort the rubber bands. Psychiatrists might say Joey has a fear of failure, so he does things he knows he can succeed at rather than attempting the things he wants, but might fail at. Joey's dreams are crippled by his fear of failure.
On the rare occasions when he does work with programming, he's usually going over the same exercises he already knows. Joey will never get out of his tiny apartment and fulfill his other dream, that of owning a home, unless he learns to master his fear.
Joey doesn't realize that if he doesn't learn to take the risks and steps necessary to accomplish his goals, then he is the failure he fears whether he ever writes a working program or not. In such cases as these, failing to act is a greater failure than acting and not succeeding.
In acting, you give yourself a chance to succeed. If you don't, you can learn from unsuccessful attempts and may succeed on the next try. You can only succeed if you act. Inaction teaches nothing, offers no rewards, and keeps you from your dreams. Fear and inaction steal your life away while you passively watch the years go by, and the dreams die.
Joey wants life to be better, but he's unwilling give what it takes. He'd do well to remember what Abraham Lincoln said, " in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years." Joey isn't putting any life into his years, he's putting fears into his years. Day after day, year after year. It's a dirty shame that a fear of failure stops anyone from trying that which they long for. We'd still be living in caves if everyone did that.
"If you have the will to win, you have achieved half your success; if you don't, you have achieved half your failure." - David Ambrose
"The man who succeeds has faced failure more times than success, but he never gave up." - Tom Dean
"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved." - Jeremy Kitson
"If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page." - Mark Houlahan
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