Date: 4/10/2002 2:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 30747
This is tough. I'm going to tell you what I think. I think that if he has another girl on his buddy list and she wasn't there a couple of weeks ago..that is good enough reason to be suspicious. I may be wrong but I'm only now learning to trust men myself so I'm not really one to advice on the trust issue but I can say that for the most part...you'll never have an answer unless you ask the question. Good luck.  |
Date: 4/10/2002 2:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 21034
hey i went through that a little while back. My ex-bf treated me like crap and i didnt know if I could trust men anymore. one day i just had to suck it up and get on with my life. If I didnt move on it was like all those crappy ex's were winning and I didnt want that. When you get your heart broken or your trust betrayed it takes a while to love or trust again. But when you do get those feelings back it makes you realize how stupid you were being and how much stupider the one who hurt you IS.  hope I helped. Love Ninna |
Date: 4/10/2002 2:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
I am the same exact way. I am in my first relationship ever in my entire life, and I am his first fiancee/girlfriend. Well we both trust each other 110% even, but, I think its just because you love him so much you are afraid and paranoid of the what if's that could happen. Like, what if he cheats on me. When you know he won't.  |
Date: 4/10/2002 2:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34758
maybe it's just a girl thing!  |
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Date: 4/10/2002 2:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
LOL I think its just a girl thing |
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Date: 4/10/2002 2:37:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34758
well that's a relief! hehe! |
Date: 4/10/2002 2:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 13897
oh i totally understand you! we hear all over society of men cheating on their girlfriends, wives, etc. and vice versa. i think it's natural to be afraid of that... if you have a really good relationship, maybe you can talk to him about it. =)  |
Date: 4/10/2002 2:49:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34758
we do have a VERY good relationship, and i kinda think i should talk to him about it and tell him how stupid i think i'm being... but i don't know. we have a long distance relationship as well so that makes it twice as hard, but he totally trusts me so i should trust him too. ugh... oh well... i think i will talk to him. thanks everyone!!!!  |
Date: 4/10/2002 3:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 48279
I have that same problem. My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. Me and him have been together for a little while now and still havent met her. He talks about her a lot too, but I talk about my best friend a lot also. Its just cause she is a girl I know, but it's odd. He never even suggest me metting her. I dont want to say anything, and it bothers me so much. Whenever he says her name I get irritated inside. But I know he wont cheat on me with her, but it's still so weird. I totally know where you're comeing from. I think you should just ask him. After reading your post, it's inspired me to ask my boyfriend and maybe meet his mysterious best friend. So I hope I've helped you 'cause you've helped me. I thought I was alone in this jealousy issue. I think 'cause it seems so pointless to be jealous, but still ... I am. So I think you should just ask him. Make it simple ... like "Oh, who is that girl?" ... like it's no big deal you know? Good luck! I'm sure it's nothing anyway =)
~Heres a name for you  |
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Date: 4/10/2002 4:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34758
good! glad i could help. hehe. yeah THAT would bug me if i had never met her, but at least he mentions her! i would definitly talk to him about that. hehe.. i think next time i'm at his house and on his computer, THAT is when i'll ask! i'm not gonna bring it up now cuz i haven't been on his computer for a while and he knows that. this whole jealousy thing SUCKS! |
Date: 4/10/2002 4:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 49914
that was interesting if it bothers you that much i would talk to him about it you might be suprised  |
Date: 4/10/2002 5:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 11593
I can't help you, because I am jealous and have a bad time trusting people myself.  |
Date: 4/10/2002 7:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 51225
When you've been burned in the past it makes it hard. But I think you just need to give it time...you'll find you can trust him I think. Hope I helped...*hugs to all* Good Luck!
~Dreaming Of Life~
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Date: 4/11/2002 6:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 52702
girl your man isnt doing anything behind your back because if you know him like you think you do then he isnt doing anythink just give it some time you will figure it out |
Date: 4/11/2002 11:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 37812
Its normal to be insecure in a relationship when youve been hurt before but that doesnt mean you should ignore your feelings no matter how silly if its going to affect your relationship.I would ask him, and maybe he'll be able to reassure your trust once he knows how you feel.Good luck, be strong!!!  |
Date: 4/11/2002 12:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
Well just tell him how you feel. Aviouly your insecurity is from all these other men in your life. Ask about the girl on his buddy list. He wont lie to you about her.  |
