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Date: 4/8/2002 7:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 10915
yes. suggest that she calls the cops or something and find the nearest relitive or something and leave. I do feel sorry for women in that kind of situation.  |
Date: 4/8/2002 7:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
i've been in this situation, the best thing she can do for herself is to pack up and take off while he's gone, and make sure he has no way of finding out where she is, also reporting the abuse is a necessary step....  |
Date: 4/8/2002 7:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 41977
If you catch her on line again start building her self-confidence. Without that, she will never get away. Once she has figured out that she has worth and value she can walk away. I know, I've been there.  |
Date: 4/8/2002 7:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 48525
SHE has to leave. That is way easier said than done. Leaving is often more frightening than staying there, being abused. All you can do is tell her to leave, and then hope she does before it's too late. There are shelters all over the nation that will help battered women, but they have to come foreward first. Pass this along to her if you get the chance. The best place for her to start looking for help/shelters would be the YWCA in her area, or even the county health department in whichever county she lives in in Mich. should also be able to point her in the right direction. I'll keep her in my prayers. ~Roaryblue  |
Date: 4/8/2002 7:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 51292
She told me she has already had him sent to jail for it. Thank you all so much your advice has helped me a lot!! I thank you all!!  |
Date: 4/8/2002 7:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 609
Im sorry to hear someone is going thru this. She should leave, and I know its hard, there are many groups that can help and she should start by looking in the phone book for shelters. She can always try getting placement in a safe house. My father used to hit us and our mother, she never really left till we were far older. I can understand the fear of leaving but you have to make a choice, he either loves you enough to stop or dosnt. No matter what her heart says she has to look out for her wellbeing.  |
| Date: 4/8/2002 7:55:00 PM From Authorid: 50474 um go to the police?-may |
Date: 4/8/2002 8:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 51049
She should go to the police and get outta there, that is not a good situation for anyone to have to be in. Maybe one thing she should do is try to get him help for his alchohal problem, I am sure that has something to do with it. Fire Cracker  |
Date: 4/8/2002 8:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 11593
I think that she should pack her bags up and skip town and forget about him. I know she is probably scared to death to leave him, but she should get away as fast as possible, before he kills her.  |
| Date: 4/8/2002 9:07:00 PM From Authorid: 51960 i've been there before...the best thing for her to do is pack her stuff and go, without him knowing. |
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Date: 4/8/2002 9:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 51292
Okay thanks for all this advice!! it helped me out big time!! |
Date: 4/9/2002 5:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 21155
Yeah...I have advice for her seeing as how my mother was married to an abusive man for several years (not my father) and my advice is... GET OUT!!! GET OUT NOW!!! BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE AND GETTING OUT IS NO LONGER AN OPTION!!!!! You may be afraid of taking that chance and going out on your own, you may be afraid he'll hunt you down and try to kill you, but the most important thing to remember is that the only real power this man has over you is the power YOU give to him. You give it to him by staying and tolerating the abuse. You give it to him simply by staying around a man you know is capable of these types of actions. MOVE OUT!!! Pack a few essentials IF you can, if there isn't a chance then just leave with the clothes on your back for crying out loud and if there's children involved here THEY are the BIGGEST reason to get out before their psyches become warped and damaged from this man's abuse. Would you want your children to grow up to be abusers or worse yet victims themselves??? Look, I know better than ..well I won't say most but I know better than a lot of others just how bad BAD can get. Hospitals, broken bones, permanent scars, just to name a few things that COULD or may have ALREADY happened...even worse than this...the violent acts only get worse with time... Go to the Police, go to a shelter, Heck, go to Timbuktu....just get away from this person now before you are no longer able to go anywhere again!! I say this only with the purest intentions from my heart and with true caring....seek help now, get away from this man and the pain he inflicts.... don't let him sweet talk you or snowball you into believing there's some excusable reason for his actions i.e. he was drinking, he lost his head, it'll never happen again....it's all lies!! Trust me on this one!! I saw my mother go through it time and time again with the same man for years. She would break free and he would con her into believing he was a changed man so she would go back and as soon as he was comfortable enough to think she was back for good things would go right back to the way they were before. Don't make the same mistakes she did. She's lucky she was able to get out with her life. She has scars she will carry for the rest of her days from this man, both emotional and physical. Don't let what happened to my mother or worse happen to you...save yourself now while you are still able to. This is my advice, please be so kind as to pass it along if you see this woman again, and tell her to message me. I live in Michigan maybe I can help her find the assistance she needs. Much love, hugs, kisses, and the very best of luck, hopes, and wishes to one and ALL!-KQ a.k.a.  |
| Date: 4/9/2002 7:26:00 AM From Authorid: 52702 tell har that she need to put a order of protection on him and leave before its to late by time my aunt left it was in a coffen |
Date: 4/9/2002 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 26227
she should leave and go somewhere that shell be safe at. then shell have to call the police or somebody else to stop this guy  |
Date: 4/9/2002 3:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
tell her that she needs to call the hot line for abused woman. they will come take her to a safe house when the man is not home. tell her she must do that to save her self...message me if all goes well  |
| Date: 4/10/2002 5:53:00 AM From Authorid: 43700 well i think this women needs to seek real help and get out of that relationship it isn;t healthy well i know even if you love someone gives them no right to eat on anyone drink or not... |
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Date: 4/23/2002 9:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 20579
It'z sad for me to see that another male is hitting a female. I personally will never hit a woman untill the day I die. But she needs to get out of there and get some help before something really bad does happen. DOWN WIT THE CLOWN Milenko  |
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Date: 5/29/2002 8:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 54226
either leave, or do something in self defense, it includes, but is not limited to something with a object with a barrel I am serious -thump-thump |
Date: 5/21/2005 7:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 20296
tell her to go to a woman's shelter. not to be harsh but anyone who stays in a situation like this is just allowing it. you will eventually be killed if you stay or not and most men are just talk. I know from experience.....he did try and kill me, lol..if that is what you call it. but once I got to the point that i decided I was better then that, I was freed.  |
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