Date: 4/6/2002 11:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 27845
Well.. jealousy is a funny thing because it's not really something that you can control or stop. Maybe next time that you see your boyfriend look at another girl or something tell yourself that he's with YOU for a reason and it's really not likely that he would just go off with someone else if he really is as honest as you have said he is. Or maybe you could talk to him about it and explain that you get a little jealous when he looks at other girls or when girls hug him. He might understand and try to put to a stop to whatever it is thats bothering you. Good luck.   |
Date: 4/6/2002 11:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 35178
i dont think it makes anyone warm and fuzzy on the inside to hear about their b/f or g/f hugging someone else..its just not a comfortable idea..you should both set up boundries that you are both comfortable with and not cross them.  |
Date: 4/6/2002 11:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
My b/f and I have several people in our lives that we hug on seeing.. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that... IF it is in friendship. I figures out a long time ago, that if they are going to mess around on you, they will do it whether you are jealous or not, so the jealousy only hurts and eats away at YOU. For self-protection, I learned NOT to be jealous like that, and it sure has made my life simpler... I figure not, that if he messes around, he dont need me, so I am gone anyway.. Makes life soooooo much easier.. Good Luck to you .. hugggggs...  |
Date: 4/6/2002 11:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 23610
Well, if by normal you mean does it happen to most people...I would have to say yes. But it is not healthy and I believe it is more of a sign of a problem with your own security in your relationship. I believe you when you say you love your boyfriend....you just need the faith to believe that he also loves you and would not go off with someone else....whether or not the other person was interested in him. And....even if he did....you need to know that you are such a good person that you would be just fine anyway. I think we just fear getting hurt....but try to tell yourself that no matter what happens you will always come up the winner. I don't get jealous....I never have....I've even had my guy friends tell me that I am weird because of this and they have tried to convince me that guys are flattered when girls get jealous....but I believe that you should look at it like they are lucky to even have you so if they wander off....hey, it's their loss and in the big picture of life, it's your gain. LOL.  |
Date: 4/6/2002 11:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6817
It's like I can't control it! I try so hard but IT controls ME!!!!!  |
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Date: 4/6/2002 11:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 49548
it is normal, but you should work on giving a little trust and maybe a little space..its hard i know cause i have already been there.. |
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Date: 4/7/2002 ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6817
But he's MINE |
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Date: 4/7/2002 12:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
awwwww, honey, he isnt YOURS... Sorry to say this, but he belongs to HIMSELF... No one can own or control another human being, and just KNOWING that makes it easier NOT to be as jealous... Love him for HIM, and for being beside you and with you, but NOT because he belongs to you... IF this makes sense? |
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Date: 4/7/2002 12:08:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6817
Well I know he's not MINE but it just bothers me cuz I don't go huggin' on other guys and it makes me antsy when I hear of another girl hugging him or anything! I dunno why. I wish I wasn't jelous cuz I would feel so much better. |
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Date: 4/7/2002 12:10:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6817
OH! But I DO love him for him! He's the greatest person I have ever known and sometimes I think I don't do good anough for him because he is like sooo perfect. We love each other very much but I want to just do my best...I think there is nothing good enough for him he is just so wonderful. |
Date: 4/7/2002 1:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 50435
No, that's out of control. Sorry, but you asked. The bottom-line in a relationship is trust. If you can't handle when your boyfriend is honest with you about such things, like the hug, then he might start holding back on you in terms of information and this will drive you totally insane. And that's just for starters. Maybe you should go talk to someone like a counseller, there's no shame in it. If you're as jealous a person as you claim to be then I'm guessing that the problem lies within yourself, and all you have to do is find out what that problem is and correct it. That's all. I hope you get this sorted and it turns out for the best for you. I'm sure you're a great person and you don't have to worry about your boyfriend cheatin' on you. The more he knows you trust him the stronger your relationship will be.
Take care and good luck...Gallytuck.  |
Date: 4/7/2002 1:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 21867
Yo Freaq, I think Gallytuck brings up a very crutial factor in any relationship...trust...you can still have love for someone, but if there isn't trust then all you really have is a very close friendship. Oh, and another thing...and I apologise for making this assumption as I only have this post and your responses to go on, I don't know you...but...from what you have posted and replied: "It's like I can't control it! I try so hard but IT controls ME!!!!!" "But he's MINE" "He's the greatest person I have ever known and sometimes I think I don't do good anough for him because he is like sooo perfect. We love each other very much but I want to just do my best...I think there is nothing good enough for him he is just so wonderful" these sorta indicate that you have a very obsessive relationship...which isn't healthy at all. Though I see by your profile that you are still kinda young...and again I mean no offence/insult...but as you get older you will more understand the full extent/implications of a good loving relationship. I do hope things work out for you. Peace,  |
Date: 4/7/2002 4:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 35042
Freaq I can see your point. Has he done anythig in the past that would cause you not to trust him so fully? If so, then he has to expect you to treat him in this way... Trust is very important, and you've got to be careful not to dirve him away through a lack of it...  |
Date: 4/7/2002 8:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 42792
ya know, it is hard to say without seeing the hug. If it was an innocent friendly hug then yes, you are going over board but if it was some cheeky little hussy(are we allowed to say hussy?) trying to move in on your boyfriend then I would be mad as all heck. Your boyfriend seems to really care for you a lot and I wouldn't push him away with accusations or out of control jealousy. Just tell him calmly how you feel.  |
Date: 4/7/2002 11:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 48434
you might ruin your relationship by being to protective i am almost like that with my man but not as much as you are lol but i mean just chill out are you cheating? because when i cheated on my man that is really when i was more jealous  |
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Date: 4/7/2002 11:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 48434
also remembr no guy at all is perfect they have a bad side you just have not seen it yet and i feel the same way like i am not doing enough to make my fiancee happy but trust me as long as u do what you can its ok |
Date: 4/7/2002 11:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 16069
Did your dad cheat on your mom? Where is all of this jelousy and mistrust coming from?  |
