Date: 3/22/2002 9:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 50791
I think meeting someone over the internet and having a relationship is ok, but to never meet them and stuff, that isnt completely right because you needa meet them to see who they really are. But if you meet them in person I think its ok!  |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16989
Yah, alternate personalitys, if you enjoy a person online, just enjoy them online, don't go further, things arn't what they seem  |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
i have 2 beg 2 differ, ON MY CASE ONLY THOUGH, i met my fiance online, we just happened 2 be from the same town though, allthough we didnt know it at first, once we did find out, we met, and became good friends, and it just got better from there. not all online relationships will work, but that doesnt mean all will not work, u just have 2 be carefull, huggs shay  |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 25481
I think you're so wrong! My online boyfriend and I will ahve been going out exactly 3 months this coming friday! We are very happy and I believe very much in love! He calls me about once every week or 2 weeks and he is supposed to come to texas from kansas this summer....So I think our relationship at least will work out..And I believe that we are completly honest with each other.  |
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Date: 3/22/2002 9:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 25481
THAT IS SO NOT TRUE! I believe that here at USM is probably one of the few places people are actually honest with who they are and how they act... |
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Date: 3/22/2002 9:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16989
nothing is exactly perfect to one's theory, some needles slip through the haystacks |
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Date: 3/22/2002 9:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16989
Cheer Chic: Lets hope, just be careful |
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Date: 3/22/2002 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
oh i forgot 2 add, this june is our second anniversary, 8^) huggs shay |
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Date: 3/22/2002 9:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 16989
there are over 50,000 user IDs do you seriously think that a majority of these users are trustworthy with our world around us and all? |
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Date: 3/22/2002 9:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 25481
You have to Have faith hun..Look at the good not the bad.. |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 9130
i have two friends that met and married people they first got to know online. One of them is now divorced, the other happily married... I personally would be afraid to start an internet relationship, because like you said a person can lie about anything...  |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 16950
You do make a good point but anyone can lie about anything no matter where you meet. Although it is harder to lie in person. I have a very special someone who I met online but I am not going to get into that. We have a very unique relationship.  Anyway I can see how people feel that online relationships don't work. But I happen to be one of those people that believe it is possible for one to be successful. Take good care & Bless you! Love & hugs,  |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
well....i met my husband online....so i think they work   |
Date: 3/22/2002 10:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 49348
im in a very happy online relationship i couldnt have found any one better  |
Date: 3/22/2002 10:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 18516
You have to be really careful b/c you NEVER know who your really talking to.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 10:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
My son met his wife on the internet. In an MSN Chatroom. We are in Alabama and she was in Canada. They talked for about 4 months and he finally drove up there to meet her... they hit it off immediately. Then she came here to visit. SHE was everything we knew about her on the internet and MORE And so was he. They were together 3 1/2 years and they were married on August 3, 2001 in Canada, and now reside about 10 miles from here here, in good 'ole Alabama I think that the vast majority of internet relationships probably dont work, but I have seen several that have...  |
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Date: 3/22/2002 11:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 16950
Oh my gosh Gail! Your comment really hit home for me! My Hunny is in Canada & we met on ICQ. We have been talking now for about 3 years (oh my gosh!!!) & plan on meeting sometime in the near future. He plans on flying here to California to meet my parents & Me all at the same time so my parents can see that he is not some 3-eyed monster from Mars. LOL Anwayway I am so happy that things worked out for your son! *hugs* That is sooooo romantic! And so awesome too! Gosh I can't wait to meet my Canadian Cutie! Hee hee ;o) Love & hugs, |
Date: 3/22/2002 11:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 35629
I think it could be a bad thing but if they move forward and call each other and chat for some time the real person inside shines through.But of course you have to be careful because there sure are alot of predators out there.  |
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Date: 3/22/2002 11:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 16950
I just thought of something... How is meeting someone online all that different than how it was in the old days when people would "court" via letter writing? Just curious. I realize that the world is not the way it was then but I do see a lot of similarity in these 2 things. Just something to ponder. Love & hugs, |
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Date: 3/22/2002 11:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 42490
I agree with YOU...Ive tried it a few times...and TOTALLED got fooled by them ALLLL!!! |
Date: 3/22/2002 11:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I know that there is exceptions to the rule of never having a internet relationship, but I know of a couple of incidents where 4 families altogether were broken apart by this and after all that happened their new marriages didnt last, one for 7 months and the other 4months, depends what you are looking for in life I believe and as for people that are not being honest on the internet they are only kidding themselves!!!..good post ....  |
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Date: 3/22/2002 11:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 42490
I agree with YOU...Ive tried it a few times...and TOTALLED got fooled by them ALLLL!!! |
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Date: 3/22/2002 11:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 51163
I've tried the internet personals and haven't found anyone. Those I e-mail don't respond and I haven't any responses to my ads. Must be just me. |
Date: 3/23/2002 12:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 51712
Well I think that your all right in certain points. See as a woman that has kinda been through it myself. I met this guy on what use to be m-player. I got to see his face on cam and he got to see me on cam plus hear each others voices. We talked on the internet in alot of different was plus on the telephone. I even met him in person he acted like the same person that I had met on the internet. We ended up getting ingaged. He lived in Indiana and I in Ohio. Things was fine for awhile I mean he had plans to move down here and be with me and a job and all that jive. Well to sum it all up I hadn't seen or heard from him in 6 months and I got tired of waiting for him. Now don't understand me I didn't cheat on him, but I met some that really seemed like I wanted to possibly take further. So because it was so long I waited a little while longer and still no phone call so I moved on. As sure as you know it when I did move on he contacted me to tell me that he had a change of heart to, but he still wanted to be friends. That didn't happen long he quit writting and contacting me period. The whole point I'm trying to make is the same thing could happen even if I had met him in person, through the phone any where for that matter. So my advice is no matter where or who you meet just be careful and watch whats right for yourself. Most of all good luck in whom ever you chose in your life. ladyred
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Date: 3/23/2002 12:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 28125
I didn't know if I should comment to this post or not...but I think I will...I have had several online relationships...none of which worked out...but I have an exception to that now...I have met this guy through USM...we started chatting by messaging each other...he asked me to be his girlfriend five days after we initially spoke on USM...the relationship has moved since then...now we are USm Married...we have been for about 2 months...and he and his mother (who is also on USM) are coming here to visit me during my graduation...it should be so fun...I hope we hit it off in person as well as we did when we first met here...I can't wait till June...It will be great...so they do work out...Love and Hugs...ICL~*~*~*~  |
Date: 3/23/2002 1:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 42703
Well it's almost like in real life,some of them do and some of them don't,the most important thing is just make sure the person is who they say they are before taking it farther then just talking on the web-I am in an online relationship now,it's the first one I've had-she seems wonderful,we get along great! i know she says she is who she is,I agree with what Princess Amy said as well. Am kinda shy about talking to women in real life and just talking to her over the net has kinda helped me with that...I am really looking forward to meeting her in June,,I really hope everything works out for us as well in real life as it is now.  |
Date: 3/23/2002 4:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
I met my future husband online and he's here on USM too. He happens to live only 50 miles away so we get to spend real time together too but it can work out. I'm not saying they all do. I guess it's a chance you take no matter where you meet anyone.  |
Date: 3/23/2002 4:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 27360
If you look at the statistics VERY FEW e-relationships work. But its like Las Vegas, there are enough winners that the rest of us keep going back....Me personally( since I am married) would not go for an e-relationship just because I must first be attracted to a womans smile, Another thing is that I am very good at picking up peoples slight facial expressions and body language when they are speaking to the point where I can clue me in to their emotions....I cannot do that via the internet.  |
Date: 3/23/2002 5:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
Well I met my husband in real life at first, but I had to go back to Colombia so the only way we could communicate was online... I would be hesitant to have strictly cyber boyfriends though... like you said.. too much room for dishonesty!  |
Date: 3/23/2002 7:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 33817
I must admit, there's a lot of stuff you can lie to people about straight to their face! Watch Jerry Springer sometime. I'd say that you should approach the relationships with a bit MORE caution, maybe, but the idea of "getting to know someone" intellectually before you even see them can have profound effects on a relationship.  |
Date: 3/23/2002 4:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 31765
I met my signifigant other online. We've lived together nearly 2 years. I would say...online relationships don't work for *some*. It's too expansive to include *everyone*. Best wishes...  |
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Date: 3/23/2002 8:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 16950
I totally agree with ya, Lady Phoenix. And congrats to you too! I think it's awesome how you guys met & that you're still together. *hugs* Love & more hugs, |
Date: 3/24/2002 1:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
That could be true. Im sure a lot of people come here (the internet) and lie about themselves, although I think thats pretty pointless. I dont understand why anybody would want to pretend to be somebody that they arent. I prefer to have people like/dislike me for just being myself.  |
Date: 3/26/2002 9:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 44773
I think it's wrong to have cyber relationships,B/C they are dangerous. You never know who exactally your talking to.  |
Date: 3/26/2002 10:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 51151
Good debate. Good post.
I met my wife online. I was a shy guy unable to talk to girls. Yes very pathetic. Never had a real relationship before her. And I'm by no means an ugly guy. Women won't come to you if your quiet and depressed. I learned that. I met about 40 or so people online. So many that I can't count. Three of them I fell in love with. The first one was in Texas while I was in AZ. She sparked me, but it was just too far. The next one lived in the same state and I'm fairly sure If I lived closer to her at the time we would have gotten married. I have met some really wonderful people online. Just because they are lonely doesn't mean they are bad people. I finally got sick of failing at so many people that I gave up. I started talking to some girl just as a friend. I cared not anymore if they liked me. She came to visit me and I told her not to. I didn't brush my hair, I wore black pants and a raggedy shirt. I wanted her to see that I was not in for games. I didn't care what she thought. We were an instant perfect couple. We had problems, but we got over them and got married. Now we are enjoying our lives. Yes there are lots of pathetic people out there, yes there are crazy people, but as long as your very careful and take things slow it can work. You might go through a million emails, replies ect, until you meet the right one, but it will happen. I think it's great. |
Date: 10/6/2024 9:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 21435
I remember the days "before" the internet. I used to write letters to folk I didn't know and had very little chance of ever meeting. We called that practice, "having a pen pal." I enjoyed those times and the insights I received from other human beings. At times, I still enjoy trading thoughts with folk on the internet. I very seldom write letters, anymore. (My penmanship has become quite awful.)  Type on......  |
