Date: 1/27/2002 9:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 47297
i really feel for you. and i truely wish i could help you. but unfortunatly, i have a huge fear of death myself. i am always scared that i am going to die or that this is my last day. i can't explane why...but i am terrified. if i get a headache, i think it's a tumor. if my back hurts, i have something wrong with my lungs. i honestly dont know what brings these fears on...but i am bookmarking this story in hopes that someone has a solution to it. *hugs*  |
Date: 1/27/2002 9:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
sounds like a case of anxiety disorder-- maybe it's time to seek a psychologist.  |
Date: 1/27/2002 9:16:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Why should i see a psychologist when psychology is one of my majors?  Besides a psychologist is too expensive.  |
Date: 1/27/2002 9:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 32613
well this may make some ppl mad but if u are Christian u have the RIGHT belief  well i think about death as a way for someone to go to a better and happier place with no worries and OFCOURSE u'll miss em but u just gotta think that they are happier now. for example, my aunt recently died. i wasn't sad or nething i was like "she's gone, i'll miss her, but she'll be happier now' ok? luv  |
Date: 1/27/2002 9:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 11528
Hi Dizzy, Im no psycologist or anything but I think that the loss of two close family members in a short period of time has put this fear into you. I also think it is a fear of loss, not death. You fear that You may lose Your husband and You fear for him losing You. I dont know the solution but I suppose try focusing on the positive and plans for the days ahead and maybe it will preoccupy Your mind until this fear goes away. It will pass in time. Wish I could have been of more help. Bye for now. Enki  |
Date: 1/27/2002 9:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 49080
About the psychologist, I know that I can figure out friends problems but can't seem to conquer most of my own. Maybe you just go and see someone anyway! I will pray for you! - Sweet September  |
Date: 1/27/2002 9:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Awwwww Dizzy *Huggles* I Dont know what to say. I have heard before it is panic attacks or anxiety attacks that cause this sometimes, but I dont know if that is what it is. I can see where the fear came and I do send all my condolences. My sister had a problem with something similar to this awhile back.. One of her friends told her that writing a letter to whoever you want, my sister chose to write to God, and just keep it in a notebook.... So, in a way it is like a journal, but very personal and it lets some of that fear out, so it doesnt build up so bad. Maybe this can help ya, if you want to try it. If you dont, thats ok too. I hope everything works out, and if you ever need anyone to talk to I am a message away. *Huggles* Love, Amanda  |
Date: 1/27/2002 10:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
I know exactly what you are going through!! Death is my biggest fear, and I am still trying to overcome it. It got to the point that all I could think about was the fact that I would die someday. I was so scared and hopeless and eventually started having panic attacks. Anyways, I went to the doctors and was told I have OCD, (obsessive thoughts) and GAD, anxiety that would last for days at a time, and panic attacks. I guess I didnt need to go into all of that cause I know you arent anywhere near that worried about it, I hope not anyways. This post just brought it all back to me. Anyways....I think everybody fears death at some point in their lives, but nobody talks about it. Its the fear of the unknown. What really happens to us? The one thing nobody can give us a definite answer about. I can tell you right now, you can literally drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out, or just live your life. I finally gave up on it and TRY to keep it out of my thoughts. If you feel that these thoughts are getting worse and you cant control them go to your doctor. Medacation does wonders. Sorry for going on and on! If you ever need anybody to talk to, Im here. Also, know that you are not alone! And be glad that you can talk to your husband about this. Talking helps a lot. Of course the thought of losing him makes you teary eyed, you love him =)  |
Date: 1/27/2002 11:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
A death of a loved one will bring on thoughts of our own mortality as well as worry about the loss of others. After my first husband died I had many times where I went through the exact emotions, fears and anxieties you are describing, also dreams. It has taken time to heal and questions about faith and belief are very much a part of what one reflects on after losing a loved one. Over time some of this lessens, at least that is how it was for me.  |
Date: 1/28/2002 3:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 48962
I have had a fear of dying in a car accident ever since I was a teen. I have never known anyone who had personally. But it is still so bad that I freak when going on long trips. I was told once by a pyschic that in my past life I had died in an accident. Makes me wonder..
DreamerJoy  |
Date: 2/2/2002 6:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 48809
I agree that since you have lost family members that this could be why you are thinking about death so much. When you begin to think about these negative thoughts, try to exchange them for something positive, such as "My Husband and I are young and in excellent health, we will live for many, many years yet!" This may not be exactly what you want to say, but you get the idea! Never allow these negative thoughts to take over your mind, always change these thoughts to something positive!. You may not be aware that "thoughts are things!" They are a form of energy and any thought that is held within the mind can eventually manifest itself into reality in your life, unless you curb it! This is very true! So try always to think positive thoughts , because the thoughts we think today can be what we will live tomorrow! I understand that most people are afraid to die because they fear the unknown ! I will tell you that there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of. When our time comes, we simply shed our old wornout body and go somewhere else ! I have seen and talked to my own loved ones who have passed on ,and know that they really are alive and are now in excellent health ! Posey  |
Date: 6/25/2005 12:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 16376
You are not alone. When my parents or my brother leave the house I often say to myself, "Please God let them come back ok." It is normal to have some fears about death because their are so many uncertainties about it. I have been thinking about death more than usual lately. I just keep trying to focus on things going on in my life now and try not to think about so long into the future. This was posted awhile ago so you may not have this problem anymore, if you do you may want to get some help like the others said.  |
