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| Date: 12/28/2001 10:33:00 AM From Authorid: 42940 How about telling him that he has a certain amount of time to go to his parents and tell them. If he doesn't do it, you will go to his parents and tell them. Tell him you love him enough to lose his friendship if it means saving his life. That's what it is - a life and death situation. Do something before it's too late. *** bad kitty *** |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 47869
i would go get serious help from a drung help place or somthing..puppetgirl |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 36487
If you care about this person enough, then you will see that telling his parents, and possibly not seeing him very much, is the right answer. If you dont tell anyone, then the drugs could get worse, stronger, more addicting, and he could die. You need to ask yourself if you want him alive and away from you *rehab* for a few months, or dead and away from you forever?  |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 8184
Tell his parent's about his problem. He'll hate it @ first but after he stopped doing drugs he'll thank you.  |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:36:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31349
if i tell his parents it is possible he will get sent somewhere that he could get more drugs and he doesn't think he needs help and i know he doesn't want it..and if he doesn't want it it's very hard for him to get it when he would have two different families arguing over whether or not he should go b/c one family is totally against drugs and the other one does drugs also so they would get in trouble also..  |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 31255
If I cared for my friend no matter what I would have to tell their parents. Even if it meant I might never see my friend again. What s/he is doing with their life is very dangerous. I would rather lose the friendship than lose them to death. I would just pray my friend understands in the end and knows I only did it because I cared and hopefully in the end would not lose that friendship.  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 10:38:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31349
i've told his parents before and he totally denied it and they believed him |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 37809
Hey sis, this is a really ugly situation. Your friend really needs help before he gets worse. I've never been in this situation before so I really don't know what to do, but you should tell someone who can help him. He needs to get help or this situation could get a lot worse. *hugs*  |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 3395
Well, let him know you're hurt but also show him that your friendship is being destroyed and if that's how it's gonna end then you don't need him when he's doing all those drugs. Also, how can you have a true, everlasting friendship....if you cannot trust the friend? A friendship without trust will only rust. Depending on how old he is, if he is of age, the only way to help a person like that, when there are no other options, is to simply let them learn from their own mistakes. I know it's hard for you to think about the possibility of your friendship ever ending, but it's better that you get hurt than him dying. Maybe when he sees who all he hurts, he'll straighten up. I have a lot of experience w/ people like this: My good friend last year and my little brother are like this, so, feel free to message me if you wanna talk. Good Luck.   |
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Date: 12/28/2001 10:47:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31349
he's 14 years old and he's probably been doing drugs for a while now (like a few years at least) and he's more than a friend |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 25438
I have had alot of issues in this area. What kind of drugs is he on? Is he just smokin a little pot or is he shoveling stuff up his nose?  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 10:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 3395
I forgot to say that you MUST try to get him the help first and that if he refuses it.....then he must learn from his mistakes, otherwise he may be doing things like this the REST of his life. |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 22868
I say this how valuabe is life to you along with the persons close to you? If he is special and at the same time out of control doing drugs then what other option do you have? (1). You can ignore it and continue like it does not bother you, or (2). Take action for it sounds like you really car for this person. You have to know it is the drug talking and it is not really him. To give you example I have a friend who some years ago won a big lawsuit and was reward $180,000. The next thing I know this person came to my house with 14,000 cash high as a kite. Gave me that money because he did not trust himself while out in the streets scoring dope. Needless to say I put the cash in a enevople and threw it into my closet. I also gave him a piece of my mind of how silly this thing he was going through. Two days later he came back for his money and I gave it back but forewarn him the next time he would do this I am left with taking him to a drug rehab place. Well he did it again and I had to physically take him in and called his parents. Friend or no friend drugs do kill. If this person can't help himself than get help for him, it may save his life.....Jerry8688  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 10:53:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31349
right now i'm not soo sure why type of drugs he's doing it all depends on who he's with and what he can get from ppl from buying it |
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Date: 12/28/2001 10:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 3395
Well, now that I know his age of 14, his teachers or some trusting/caring adult DEFINATELY need to be notified at once....he is not old enough to learn from mistakes like that. I am not saying he's immature, don't get me wrong, but at the age of 14 is when the adolescents are in an identity crises, trying to discover who they are inside...and it's really hard to have an identity crises, be doing drugs,...and have a good standard of morality. |
Date: 12/28/2001 10:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 42568
Wow he is young! If i were you.. I would tell his parents AGAIN, and not leave there until they believe you! And if they don't, ask them to get one of those tests that they could buy to prove it. I've heard of other parents testing their kids to make sure. It's just a possibility bethann  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 25438
BAD ADVISE! Don't tell his parents or teachers or an adult. Thats a really bad idea. |
Date: 12/28/2001 11:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 46598
Hard 2 say people choose there own path  |
Date: 12/28/2001 11:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 9130
okay I am going to give an answer that may be a bit different than the other comments you have gotten so far-- First I have a question-- What drugs is he on? If it is marijuana I wouldn't be too worried unless it is affecting his life in some way. If it is a hard drug then I would do like someone suggested and tell him you are going to tell his parents in a certain amount of time if he doesn't stop...  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 11:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 9130
I guess I should have read ALL the comments before I replied. I see that you aren't sure what drugs he is doing... If he is taking anything that he can get his hands on I would be worried and maybe threaten to tell someone if you feel he is doing things that will put his life in danger... But like I said, if he's just smokin weed, then I wouldn't be too worried... |
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Date: 12/28/2001 11:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 9130
Okay this is my last comment I see that BLue Knight says not to tell an adult... if you threaten to tell them, then maybe you wouldn't actually have to tell if he thinks you are serious... Hionestly though I know from seeing this from other friends, there isn't much you can do about it, stopping drugs is something that has to be a personal decision... |
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Date: 12/28/2001 11:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 45681
I know it may be hard but I do think you should tell his parents. I relize you already told them once and they didn't believe you but you need to tell them again and again til they open their eyes. I know he may hate you for doing this to him, but you may end up saving his life. He is heading down a road that has a big sign,"DEAD END" He may not want the help right now, but once he gets it, he may see things differently. Good Luck. Take Care.~~~~***DANICA***~~~~  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 11:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 20104
What kind of drugs is he doing??? If he is only 14 years old and he is already doing hard drugs you need to get him help. If his parents believe that he isnt you need to bust him. It may sound like a pretty crappy thing to do to your friend, but its not. You need to do it to save him. Like if you know he just picked up tell his mom and have her search his room. The sad part about parents saying they believe their child is that they really dont. They are just in denial. Believe me I know this. I put my parents through it.  |
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Date: 12/28/2001 12:19:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 31349
what should i do then if i shouldn't go to any parents or adults?? |
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Date: 12/28/2001 12:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 25438
Please trust me on this one...you can't tell his parents...he will never speak to you again and it will cause problems at home which will inturn push him to more drugs. |
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Date: 12/28/2001 12:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 47800
ok this person has to convince him to stop doing drugs. this person will have to tell someone if this doesnt work.and if it doesnt work and you dont tell,he could end up in trouble with the cops,seriously injured,or mabey even dead.this person has to do something or he will be risking his life. ~*~frony~*~ |
Date: 12/28/2001 1:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 44448
Show him he doesn't neeed drugs...he needs you  |
Date: 12/28/2001 2:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 45619
john?! if it is, oh wow! i'm so sorry hun! i don't even know what i'd do, i'd try to tell him how much i care about him, and tell him it's not worth it, but i'd stil accept him for who he is, and if he chooses to do it, that's his problem, but don't let him do it around me. tell him that, tell him it's not ok to ever do it around you or anything. let him know how much it bothers you. ~FA  |
Date: 12/29/2001 1:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 38948
Since he's hardly in a fit state to judge properly wether you telling someone to save his life is right or not, take advantage+ save his life!  |
Date: 12/29/2001 7:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
wow! he's only 14 and doing that? Well, just know that drugs are a serious problem and it is very difficult to admit to someone that you have a problem. So don't be surprised that he didn't tell you about it, because it's probably something he finds it very difficult to deal with. He has to want help before he can receive it. If you push him into getting help, he will relapse again and again. Just be there for him when he needs you and hope for the best  |
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