Date: 12/26/2001 10:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 24003
That is tough. Well, if it was me..I would move. you can always go back and visit family. I hope it all works out for you.  |
Date: 12/26/2001 10:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 45866
If he won't move down with you, you should move up with him, or try having both of you move to a place that is inbetween where he lives and where you live. It won't be you moving so far, and he won't be that fair from his friends. ~TasteOfDeath~  |
Date: 12/26/2001 10:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 27004
It sounds to me like you already have it figured out...
As you stated in your post you can always visit. Your family will always be there for you, the question is would love always be there?
If you really want to go, follow your heart  |
Date: 12/26/2001 10:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 44448
I like Taste of deaths suggestion. try finding a place in between.  |
Date: 12/26/2001 10:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 21137
I'm going to tell you the same things I would tell my sister, so please don't be offended!!! First, I want to point out that you said if you moved, you could show your daughter so much more stuff, and do more things with her. Have you shown her the space needle, or any of the other things there are to see in Seattle? What could you do with her that you aren't already doing? Would you really do these things? Have you talked to her about it, and asked her what she thought? Don't convince yourself that what you're doing is for her, just to move and find out that she hates it! =0)~ My sister does this same thing a lot, and she doesn't understand why she and the kids don't get along. The second thing I would tell my sister is this "Sissy, YOU are the adult. Kids don't KNOW what's good for them - that's why GOD gave them parents! The kids are going to be the happiest wherever you're the happiest, and if your happier there, then go. Just don't forget to come back." Finally, since you do have a kid and this can't just be all about the adventure, make sure you have a job there first, and that the transition will be as quick and easy for your daughter as it can be. Trust me, I don't have kids, so I'm an expert on parenting!!! LOL! Good Luck!  |
Date: 12/26/2001 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 47162
First you've never met this dude in person. (I assume, maybe you have.) Your feelings could totally change once you hang out with him. Next you have a kid who already is torn away from their father. What if ya end up not liking this dude. Then you'll have moved your child away from family and a stable environment she is used to. Don't cause her more crap to have to deal with. Be a mature women and not a little girl! Have this guy visit you or you visit him. Your child should not have to be dragged through more "stuff" just cuz you really like a guy. Said in love and respect! Resilient One!  |
Date: 12/26/2001 10:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 19685
you know i fear i'll have to come to the same fork in the road someday. i don't think it would be selfish of you to move! but that's all i can really tell ya. cuz i don't know what i would do in that situation! it would suck...  |
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Date: 12/26/2001 11:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 47162
Will you have enough money to "always visit" if you move? How attached is you kid to the family there? Is her father there? Can you afford to have her visit her father often? |
Date: 12/26/2001 12:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 19384
I'll keep it short, but sweet: Follow your heart.  |
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Date: 12/26/2001 12:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 47162
If your heart says don't consider the consequences to your child, then don't follow it! Follow what is right, our hearts can misguide us! R1 |
Date: 12/26/2001 12:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 1631
As long as you don't put all of your eggs in one basket, go for it! Try it and if you and your daughter love it, great. If it doesn't work out, just be sure to keep a lifeline available back home so that you can move back without too much hassle. Good luck to you either way  ...  |
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Date: 12/26/2001 12:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 45999
MOVE!!!! Dont let anything stop you.......if you feel this strongly about this man go for it!! Just make sure he feels the same about you, it would be a good change for your daughter and you!! Rayndancer |
Date: 12/26/2001 1:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34758
Resilient One, i have met him in person and my childs father isn't involved in her life!! just an FYI!   |
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Date: 12/26/2001 1:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34758
ok, so.... i'm going to reply to all of you now. we can't move half way, cuz that would put us in norther california, and there aren't too nice of area's there.. southern cali is the best place... and that's where i'd wanna move if i'm gonna move. 21137... yes, i've taken my daughter EVERYWHERE. we go to the space needle, science center, movies, all kinds of stuff... all the other stuff like the zoo, and all that you can only do on nice days. i just feel like i'd take her to do more if we had good whether. even if it was just the beach every day. i do agree with you on the rest of that....thanks for your comment. 47162... he makes GREAT money and i do in my career as well. we will have more then enough money to visit seattle. and i do plan on looking for a job before i move... if i decide to move. i'm trying to find a job with the same company, just to see, but that hasn't been too easy. anyways, thank you all for your comments... it made me feel better. !!! |
Date: 12/26/2001 1:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
you are an adult no one else can tell you what to do, keep in mind that the decision you make will affect your child, but i agree with ali... i just picked up and moved, and i know i've made the right choice, use common sense but follow your heart, it seems to be telling you where you want to be, and remember that you can always go back where you are now if things don't work out, if you ever want to talk feel free to message me  |
Date: 12/26/2001 3:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 7089
northern california isn't for everyone, tho you'd never know it by the amt of ppl moving here. in any case, good luck on your own move...southern cal is closer to disneyland after all. you & your kid will never get bored. cheers,  |
