Date: 12/20/2001 4:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 30729
I'm sorry. Luv,Jennifer aka->  |
Date: 12/20/2001 4:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 15394
Take hold of it!! Change it!! YOU have the power to make your life what you want it... holding feelings of resentment or anger toward parents who are living their own lives is fruitless.. maybe hard but is no way to change THEM you can only change YOU.... GOOD Luck with what sounds like growing up~!~ We are here for ya!  |
Date: 12/20/2001 5:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 22852
Jungabel said it right.  |
Date: 12/20/2001 10:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 14752
I don't mean this in a bad way, but are you maybe doing these "bad" things to get attetion from your mother? And she's not giving it to you. I went through a stage when I was younger. My parents were great, but they didn't pay attention to alot of the things I did. So I started making some bad decisions. Thing was, I think they were just to lazy to really lay down the law. They'd say I was "grounded" but it never stuck. Then when I got into my mid teens they'd try to be the "enforcers" and it was just too late. I'm lucky that I didn't do anything completely terrible to screw up my life. But even as I get older, the things I did do come back to haunt me now and then. It's hard to think of the future when you're so angry inside RIGHT NOW, but it sounds like you have aknowledged that you have a problem. Maybe you should find someone that you trust to talk to. Would your mom listen if you brought your concerns to her in a non-offensive way? Maybe inside she is dealing with her own issues and finds it hard to address yours. I know that would be selfish, but parents are people too, something that is sometimes hard to realize. Or maybe she doesn't do anything about your "unlawful" behavior because she is afraid to be the disciplinarian for fear of driving you even further away. So many possibilities... I hope you find some help   |
Date: 12/21/2001 4:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 42104
sweetie, sounds like your mom is upset. i don't think that she doesn't give a darn but instead she doesn't know how to deal with everything going on. she is a person too and although you are upset over the divorce think if that was you how would you feel? look I'm here for you and if you need to talk to someone I am here ok. you can change the outcome of your life you can change what you are doing. stop hanging out with the people you are going out with. find some "good" friends. talk to someone. tell them how you feel.  |
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Date: 12/21/2001 12:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 36024
I agree with these comments. If you joined something like AA you would be surprised what just human contact can do for you. Looking back from experiance I think in your behavior you need to "set aside your relationship with your mother". Get Human contact within a group and apologies will fall in place and eventually- if it's the right thing-- a relationship will fall in the right place. Misty Bay |
Date: 12/22/2001 5:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 1443
If you know that you are screwing up, why do you keep doing it? Just to get the attention from your mom! She may be letting you try to figure out what you want. If she told you no that you could not do something, then guess what... You would do it anyway. you need to change your life, dont depend on someone to always hold your hand. If you like getting into trouble, go for it... Yes I am being forward, but you need to hear it. Do you want to grow up being the person that everyone whispers about, dont hang with her, she is capitol TROUBLE... I don't think so. Get off your butt. I understand that you are angry over THEIR divorce. They did not divorce you. they love you. But you mom may not want to make any waves so she is letting you do what you want. You are the one choosing the path you are taking. Do you want to end up in Jail? Be some big womans girlfriend? Shape up. Life is to short, you need to get your act together.  |
Date: 12/25/2001 12:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 46515
After reading this, I was going to give some advice. But what more can be said,other than what everybody already said? Please read and take in what people are trying to tell you. God Bless sweetie. Lyndy  |
36540 Category:(General Advice) Created:(12/20/2001 4:26:00 PM)