Date: 10/23/2001 4:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
father who comes around now and then....  |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
Sorry but both types are losers, in more ways than one.  |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 30729
Well, I would think that one that never somes around, because then he doesn't make promises that he doen't entend to keep!!Luv,Jennifer  |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 43336
That is true shadow ghost. Its just my husband was comparing himself to his dad who was never around and well my husband has proved to be the other and said at least he comes around, but not that often and always has some excuse when he dont show up. thanks.  |
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Date: 10/23/2001 4:33:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 43336
ok I mean which is worse. sorry |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 12823
I think the father who is always letting them down is worse than a one who is never there. I mean, it is stil painful, but at least the children will have time to heal.   |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
I have known a lot of people that never knew their fathers and I know how that affected them, so I would have to say a part-time father would be better than no father.  |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 3648
Well they both are bad....I have a father who did both....would be gone all the time, then would promise I'll come you see you guys over a weekend...make it special..yeah right....but worse of it all was I was glad he wasn't there he was a abuser...who in his mind only beat his kids when they needed it....so in my opinion it was best that he wasn't there....at least we weren't being beat or waiting for promises to happen that never did.....  |
Date: 10/23/2001 4:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 16865
When I was 2 my mom and dad divorced. I don't remember it. But when I was 13, I didn't even remember what my dad looked like except from pictures. We talked on the phone and that was it. I was sent to live with him when I was 13. He was a complete strnger to me. I had no idea "who" this man was. Yes, he was my father, but to my s.mom and half brother, I was intruding on "their" family. After 3 weeks, he sat me down and told me he wasn't ready "to be a father to a teenager" and all that. I felt extremely unwanted. My mom didn't want me and neither did my dad. Now that I am grown, I keep a distant relationship with him. It's not like with my stepdad. Part of me would still love to have that dellusion of grandure that I had before I went to stay with him. But the other part of me is grateful that I didn't waste years trying to piece back a relationship I never had just to fall flat on my face. I really don't think of him as a father. He doesn't treat me like my s.dad who is "dad" to me. Of course, that status is hard to acheive when your never there.  |
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Date: 10/23/2001 5:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 43336
I am sorry to hear that dotchi, but i am glad you found a father in your step dad. I hate to see my daughter hurt when daddy don't show up. thanks. |
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Date: 10/23/2001 5:10:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 43336
Grey eyed girl, I am sorry your dad hit you. I too sometimes think it is best if they just go away. |
Date: 10/23/2001 5:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
Probably the one who is never around at all.  |
Date: 10/23/2001 5:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 19345
good question I know with my ex he did us a great favor by disapearing, he really was a worthless jerk, many years later the kids did meet him and saw for themselves what they wern't missing........sluggo  |
Date: 10/23/2001 5:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 27678
A father who is there in any capacity, is better than none at all, IMHO. Free Girl  |
Date: 10/23/2001 5:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 11091
My father has been both. I wish he never came around or made promises, at least he wouldn't have gotten my hopes up and abused me when he saw me. I wanted my son to have a dad so bad I stayed with his father even when he abused me, but never hit my son. Now that I have left I have encouraged his dad to come see him, but he never does.  |
Date: 10/23/2001 5:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 23828
I think the father that comes around but makes up excesses is worse. <Fire Spirit>  |
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Date: 10/23/2001 5:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 42723
The one that is never around. But then again broken promises hurt too!!!! |
Date: 10/23/2001 6:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 13985
I think the father who comes sometimes and breaks promises.. because then the kids will not learn trust and will be hurt ver and over.. where as if he never comes it will be once.  |
Date: 10/23/2001 6:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
that father who makes promises but then lets his kids down. Gets there hopes up too much ......  |
Date: 10/23/2001 7:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 39887
I think its worse to have an absent father. BUSYBEE  |
Date: 10/23/2001 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 42515
A father who is never there at all or a father who comes around every now and then but always says he will come and take the kids somewhere, but most of the time dont show up because he is "sick" or has some excuse. That is totally unexcusable. ~Super Princess~  |
Date: 11/1/2001 3:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 16376
I think they are both pretty bad...  |
