Date: 9/25/2001 11:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
Awww...iam SO sorry to hear about your loss  You should do what you feel you need to do to help you to cope with the lose of this guy; if you feel you need to be with his friends and speak to his parents then you should that, its all part of the grieving process. Just be careful around his parents, iam sure they'd be having a reall hard time at the moment too. Best of luck and take care ......  |
Date: 9/26/2001 4:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 26303
I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes if you feel that you want to be with his friends, and share stories, go for it. But like SunAngel says, becareful around his parents. But I'm sure they would like to hear from you. Take care,  |
Date: 9/26/2001 4:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 16131
Well , there is a thin line between curiosity and , obsession so , just make sure you know where that line is befor you get into this any deeper . You caould be making some great friends by getting to know these people but , you must understand , they are recovering too so , you may want to give the parents an extra month befor you confront them about your friend the artist . They may not be ready to speak of all the things he liked and did not or , how wonderful it was to watch him grow because , as a parent I know that the most horrifying thought is that of outliving any of your children .... Take Care ....  |
Date: 9/26/2001 5:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
from personal experience... the best remedy for grief is talking about it. This includes his parents, although they may not be ready. At the same time... waiting too long to talk with them can re-open the wounds that have begun to heal. Another note from personal opinion... I would be comforted to know that I was not the only one trying to come to terms with the death of my child, and honored that someone who cared about him, but didn't know him well, wanted to know him better. I think your plan could be a great healing for everyone... just be careful about how you approach it.  |
Date: 10/3/2001 5:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 37872
You certainly shouldn't let go until your good and ready too. It's only natural that you still want to get to know him better since you only got to love him for a short while. I'm sure his parents would love for you to come by and talk to you about him.  |
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