Date: 11/30/2001 7:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 39779
If you need to talk I can listen for a little while. Message me on my profile and let me know.  |
Date: 2/8/2002 3:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 25658
I think you already know what you should do but you just need to find the strength to do it and tell him its over, he has already made that decision by cheating on you. You don't ned to feel guilty by ending it, remember you are the one who has done nothing wrong! I was in the same situation once - found out my boyfriend who i loved very much had been cheating and i didnt finish it because i didnt know what i would do without him. After a while though i realised things had been ruined and i ended it and now i've got somebody else who is so much better than him! But anycase thats just my view, follow your heart is probably the best advice!  |
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Date: 6/9/2002 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 50280
Well im a dude.. but um if your together i think its 4 or 5 years or more your considered legally married even if you dont have a marriage license. So you can start calling him hubby. Second that was your first mistake, "taking him back" when he did it the first some.. only a low percentage of guys will "change" and it takes a long time for them to change. Personally as a 17 year old guy i dont like being with one woman because im the kind of person that thinks, ok im with her but maybe the real woman im supposed to be with is still out there, so thats the main reason why i mess around. But if i was in your shoes id get rid of the guy, and move on, theres always someone better out there, you can either choose to settle with what you have or go after that better person. |
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Date: 6/9/2002 11:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 50280
typos.. when he did it the first *time*, |
Date: 2/8/2004 12:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 11593
Havanna, sweetie, I know that you love this man, especially, because you have two kids with him. But sometimes enough is enough. Men will only do what you allow them to do. If you stand up, find your backbone and say I am not going to take this crap anymore, it will get better. You deserve someone who is going to be faithful to you. He is having the best of both world, because he gets to sleep with anyone else and sleep with you too.There are some good men out there and what you need is someone who won't break your heart. As long as you say, I'll forgive you, "again", he is going to keep doing this to you, because he knows that you aren't going anywhere, anyway. Your children also deserve to have someone that is going to treat their momma right.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 10:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 30786
This post definitely caught my eye. I have posted so many times about my ex boyfriend, but I will again lol I was with a guy for 3 years, and we had been friends for about 5 or so. We were so in love, supposedly, and he seemed to be everything a girl could ask for, until that is, he cheated on me. He seemed incredibly sorry, did his best to let me know he knew he screwed up and didn't want to lose me, and guess what? He did it again and again. I had no idea until finally people started coming forward and telling me what he was up to. It took every ounce of strength in me, which included praying to God and my angels for help, to leave him. It has been 6 months now, and it is still hard, I miss the good times, but I know it is for the better. I will tell you this bluntly, Your boyfriend WILL cheat on you again. While I know everyone makes mistakes, when someone does this over and over, it is not a mistake, it is a CHARACTER FLAW and it cannot be changed. It is a part of who he is to be unfaithful. If it wasn't, he would have learned his lesson the first time and stopped doing it. He has no respect for you or the relationship. He knows that you will take him back for cheating on you because you've done it before. That is not fair at all. You need to leave this guy. The longer you stay with him, the worse you will feel about yourself and the deeper he will hurt you. Don't let it get to the point where he has hurt you so bad that you can't love again and you can't heal from it. You know you will never be comfortable and trusting in this relationship again, so why continue? Think of it this way, in one year, you could be on your way to recovery and getting over this player, or you could still be with him, stressing out and crossing your fingers that he's not still screwing around. I know what I picked, and I don't regret it.  |
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