Date: 8/14/2001 6:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
well the sad truth is YOU can't get her to stop, and she's not going to stop until she is ready. believe me I've tried with my folks...LOL I'd just sit her down and tell her how you feel...and suggest to her to go on the patch or get the gum to cut back on those nasty nicotiene cravings....  |
Date: 8/14/2001 6:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
I have been a smoker for almost 13 years now and I know what she is going through. Its probably not that she does not want to quit. She is afraid to. Its not just as easy as people make it out to be, if it were there wouldn't be smokers to begin with. There are a lot of symptoms that come with smoking and its been said that its harder to quit smoking than it is to get off some of the major illegal drugs. Its not a decision that anyone can make for her. She has to want it herself, if ultimatums are put on her, meaning quit or I am leaving, not talking to you, whatever, it will not work and she will not be successful in quitting. It has to be her decision  |
Date: 8/14/2001 6:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
ALL you can do, is to talk to her, encourage her, and the REST is up to her... She will ONLY quit when SHE wants to, you cannot make her quit, the addiction is just too powerful for some. But you CAN learn from it... NEVER start smoking...   |
Date: 8/14/2001 6:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 34361
Quitting smoking is not as easy as just laying them down and deciding. Well, not for most people anyway. I tried for 15 years, and I just couldn't until recently...Have patience. It's very difficult for most...  |
Date: 8/14/2001 6:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 29578
I have a friend who smoked 3+ packs a day!! She had to smoke every hour,even in the middle of the night!She has been smoke free for almost a year now!But she tried MANY times to quit ,she failed all those other times because she was not ready to quit.Your Mom will have to be ready to quit. Maybe in the near future she will.Best of luck to you.Hopeless  |
Date: 8/14/2001 6:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36540
So you mean there is nothing i can do. You mean i can watch get sick until she either gets cancer or something worse. There HAS to be something i can do!!!!!! -Tim  |
Date: 8/14/2001 7:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
Hi Tim, I'm sorry but I don't think that there is a thing that you can do to make her stop smoking. She will only stop when she gets ready to.I have to be honest , the last thing a smoker wants to hear is for someone to tell them how bad smoking is for them..They know..There has to be alot of will power in a person to want to stop.And sometimes the more you say to a person the worse it gets.I know this is alot on your shoulders and it shouldn't be.Your father has to have some idea that she is smoking. That is one smell you just can't make go away. It gets in the furniture and everything not to mention in her hair and clothes.I'm sorry Tim, I wish I had an answer for you.But as I have said, your mom must want to do it herself.  |
Date: 8/15/2001 1:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 27051
hey bro... let her know how much it bother you... over-dramitise if you must (like pretend to cry and all that) then maybe she'll see that it's bad  |
Date: 8/15/2001 9:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 24758
Like the others said - she has to want to do it herself. I would suggest protect yourself and leave the room whenever she lights one up. Second had smoke can be very deadly too.  |
Date: 8/15/2001 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 35933
my bf's mom is quitting now, and her doctor prescribed a special pill to take. Its working really really well for her so maybe if your mom would see her doctor and ask, she could get something like that!
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Date: 8/17/2001 8:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 31357
Hey...i know how u feel..my boyfriend smokes, and i'm trying to get him to quit...he's only 15, and i love him to death, i'm not mad that he does it, i just dont want him to die of lung cancer at the age of 40. That's not good for u at all, and i wish someone would outlaw those things so then no one can have them. He's doing a little better, but he still does it, and i know it's hard to quit once u get hooked on them...so just take it lightly with them b/c u dont want them to think that u dont like them for doing that...but as for your mom...tell her how u feel about it--i'm sure she probably wants to quit!-good luck-and if u need someone to talk to MSG me thanks-  |
