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Date: 8/3/2001 11:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 22188
There's nothing wrong with doing something for yourself every once in a while. You NEED to do that. But you don't necessarily have to change in order to accomplish that. Just do what is best for you when you need it...and when you can see that others NEED help, give it to them. But don't let them take advantage of you. There is a difference between you friends being a rough spot they can't control..and being lazy and waiting on you to fix the mess. You might not even see it that way...but sometimes you have to remove yourself from situations and look at them objectively. You CAN say "no" if you need to. But unless it bothers you to do something...go ahead. Nice people like you are hard to come by in this world. *Hugs* Hope I helped. ~CaseyGirlie  |
Date: 8/4/2001 12:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 28336
Tim....that is such a hard question actually.....it is so easy for someone to say "change and think of yourself first" but for some people it is just almost impossible to ever think of themselves first......i do know that for a fact....but my advice to you is to do your best to change things a little.....don't go to extremes...just little by little...learn to say NO....do what i can not do....think of yourself for a change....do what makes you happy and fullfilled....do not be anyones doormatt and do not be anyones stepping stone....peace love and harmony....  |
Date: 8/4/2001 5:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 20778
do things how ya wanna and be yourself...if people dont like you for you then dont bother. Maybe you could try to help if you wanted but dont go past your minds limits   |
Date: 8/4/2001 7:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 34775
It is innate in people to "give themselves away"..I was always like that and still am to a certain extent untill someone showed me that it was allright to think of myself once and awhile. It is ok, Tim..don't chnage..justt give yourself a break once and awhile..Blessings~Anabel  |
Date: 8/4/2001 8:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
My personal motto is: "If you find yourself becoming too self-less, it's time to get more selfish!" If that doesn't make any sense to you, send me a message and I'll explain further   |
Date: 8/4/2001 8:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 41977
Do you say yes out of a feeling of guilt? If guilt runs your life, for example: "If I say no, they will no longer like me", then you need to help yourself. If it's not guilt, then keep on truckin as we all need someone to lean on.  |
Date: 8/4/2001 8:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 33632
It's not a bad thing to make other people happy. Trust me I'm there. But when it makes you unhappy then you need to make a change. Don't live for other people, live for yourself.  |
| Date: 8/4/2001 4:34:00 PM From Authorid: 37139 I think that is so nice. There are not that many people that would do that. I think you need to find a way to make both sides happy. Always keep yourself happy. People shouldn't expect so much from you by doing things for them at the drop of a hat. *BABIANGEL* |
Date: 8/4/2001 6:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
lol I do it all the time too, and it's starting to take a toll on me. I feel like I sacrifice what I need and want so other people around me can be happy. Yes, I think you should stand up for your needs and wants instead of always being a pushover. You don't have to give up being nice, but I think you and I both could be getting stretched a bit thin  |
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Date: 8/4/2001 9:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 35933
I think you should do what makes you happy. Its great to do favors for people every now and then, but not at the expense of our happiness. You're the one who has to live your life, so live it just the way you want to! -Disconnected  |
Date: 8/5/2001 12:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 20725
i know that all to well and i ahve gotten out of that problem.just rember you come first.  |
Date: 8/6/2001 4:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 15159
You should not have to make ppl happy. Ppl should be happy coz you are a friend or family. Think about yourself for a change. Yea in most cases I would say you should not have to change for anyone but I do think it applies if it means changing for yourself!  |
| Date: 8/6/2001 3:55:00 PM From Authorid: 27590 Sounds like your a very giving person. dont change, but dont let people take advantage of you either. |
| Date: 8/6/2001 9:16:00 PM From Authorid: 37041 i do that to... all the time actually... but after a while ul find out its worth it cuz the ppl uve done it to will return the favor... trust me ppl remeber these things... and if u ask me it feels good thinkin that u made ur friend happy if u think of it that way u wont feel so bad |
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