Date: 7/28/2001 7:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 21499
I think that it is totally respectful to do that! My parents taught me to do that, but not to family, (to my parents i do some times) But my dad says that some ppl think that it sounds really sarcastic or something. I mean when i have kids i will teach them "southern hospitality", its kinda like the whole calling adults by their last names, if they ask you not to call them ma'am or sir then you should respect that. And I don't even live in the south i live in the north west, in fact i don't have any family that lives in the south, its just something that my parents thought was respectful and that i needed to learn it. Ya know what i mean? LoL Peace Love and All That Good Stuff  |
Date: 7/28/2001 8:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 22852
Well I grew up in NY/NJ yet a married a Southern Gentleman. I have moved down south and live in the town he grew up in and I wouldn't trade my "Southern" husband for all the men in NY. No offence intended for any Yankee men..lol  |
Date: 7/28/2001 8:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 7152
I love the south, and I agree with the above comment!  |
Date: 7/28/2001 8:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 31368
I live in New York and I am 27 years old. I know when I go to a store or something and the kid at the counter says "Thank you Ma'am" I feel like it is an implacation that I am old. I know it's silly but up here that's just what Ma'am means to us. Of course if someone with a southern accent says it to me I completely realize it is just a sign of respect. ***Shelly***  |
Date: 7/28/2001 8:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 1334
I agree with storm chaser I would take a southern Man Over a New Yorker Anyday. I also use Yes Ma'am and no Ma'am yes Sir ans No sir. My son also uses these words when speaking to an adult, and the first time he does not he will always remember he better. it is just good manners in my opinion. ...  |
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Date: 7/28/2001 10:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 40635
Im a from the south,and dont plan to go above the mason dixon ever,ive met many people from up north and i reckon i probably wouldnt like the rest of em.Whenever somebody says not to call them mam its hard not to,its habit. |
Date: 7/29/2001 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
i understand southern hospitality since i've been in tennessee for 37 yrs! but,,,,,,when somebody calls me maam i want to choke em! i don't know why. just sounds like something you say to an old lady! and i'm not old and i'm told often that i'm not a lady!  |
Date: 7/29/2001 11:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 23866
I think it depends on how you're raised. I lived in a lot of places in the US and I grew up calling adults what they wanted me to call them. Whether it was Sir and Ma'am, Mr., Mrs., Miss; or their first names. When I came to the south I did the same. Personally, my mom didn't like it for me to call her Ma'am because she thought it sounded to formal, and she hated having to call people that when she grew up. But a lot of people around here in the Carolinas will get upset if you forgt. I'm 21 and I get "Yes, Ma'am" from people younger AND older than I am. It doesn't bother me.  |
Date: 7/29/2001 3:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 15998
Everything effects people differently adn views differ all over the country. A lot of people feel old when they are called ma'am i guess maybe because most people don't call people younger than them sir or ma'am. I live in the North, adn personally, I find it respectable. I think sometimes other people don't like it because (to some people) it doesn't sound as lively and full of life as other things you could say, adn it reminds them that they r getting older and the end is coming closer, but like i said, it's all in the way you view things. -scooter9009  |
Date: 7/29/2001 4:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 40765
I live in Texas so I get that all the time and I am 16!! I was taught that way as well. It's just being polite. But some people think that your calling them old. I don't know. That's weird. But I think it is a polite thing to do. ~Rainbow Unicorns  |
Date: 7/30/2001 6:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 2030
A Woman older than you should me addressed as "Mam" or a younger Woman than you should be addressed as "Miss." Unless you know their name, in which case you adress them as "Mrs., Miss., Ms. Smith etc."
This is common courtesy and respect. Nothing more.  |
Date: 7/30/2001 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 32070
I live in PA, and a lot of people around my area do think when someone addresses you as Ma'am. It's a sign that you are getting old. However, while I don't address my family and friends that way. I always say Ma'am or Sir to strangers.  |
Date: 1/2/2006 3:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 39370
I personally don't mind it. I think it can be quite respectful. I guess some people don't like it though because it makes them feel old.  |
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