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Date: 6/13/2001 10:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 8374
well i'm a kid and if my mom ever bought that for me the first thing that would pop in my mind is 'my mom doesn't even trust me..' so you think about it :P  |
Date: 6/13/2001 10:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
Yeah, i heard about these at home drug test thingys on t.v and they totally spun me out. Even though they probably sound good in theory, i dont think that they'll work. Firstly, if you child is using heavy drugs do you really think that they are going to go "Sure Mum, you can test me for herion...i dont mind" ~ AS IF!! They'll run a mile! And secondly, i think that if it got to the stage that you were testing your own children at home for drugs you would have to take a step back and take a serious look at what your relationship with your child has come to. You're their parent not a cop or drug squad! Iam only 19 so i dont have kids, but this is just my view  |
Date: 6/13/2001 10:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 16442
Yep, in a heartbeat, if I thought they were using drugs!!  |
Date: 6/13/2001 10:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 18376
I am only 16 but I think it's a really good idea.Some kids get to involved with drugs & it ruins their lives.Parents need to be aware.  |
Date: 6/13/2001 11:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
Yes I would if I felt that my child was abusing something. Plenty things come with drug use. Lying happens to be a major factor that develops. The same child that you raised to be honest and open with you about anything is not going to be that same child under the influence of drugs. I would rather intervene on it before it becomes a serious problem. As far as Sun Angel's comments goes. As long as I am still breathing I will do and become whatever or anything that it takes to lead my child into the right direction in life and if that means becoming a "cop" or the "drug squad" as you say, then that is what I will be. It will be something you will understand when you become a parent yourself....  |
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Date: 6/13/2001 11:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 16442
Well said Az!!! |
Date: 6/13/2001 11:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27735
Well, I'm a grandma now and when I was raising my son I would never have thought to do something like this. But now, I'm raising a grandchild and I've wondered what I'd do if I thought this beautiful child was getting into trouble. I think I'd do anything to save her. whirlwn53  |
Date: 6/13/2001 11:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 11367
I think this kit would be the last measure for parents to detect drug abuse in their kids. The kids would feel hurt and if it tests positive, the parents would feel hurt too.  |
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Date: 6/13/2001 11:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
I am a parent first and foremost. I am sure that if I drug tested my child and I was wrong in suspecting drug use that my child would resent me for a time. You know what, my daughter resents me when I tell her that she can't have a snack before dinner. She resents me when she gets put in time out for talking back to me. If I sat back and worried about how much she was going to resent me for decisions I make regarding her well being, that wouldn't make me a parent. In my eyes the trouble with the majority of the parents in the world today is they are more concerned about being a friend to thier child instead of a parent. I am a parent first, and a friend second. I set the boundries and the guidelines and my children have the choice to follow those rules, if and when they don't there is a consequence for thier action. When they are older they will realize as we all have as we have grown older that the decisions that our parents made may not have always been the right ones, but they loved us and they did what they thought was best for us. Its my job to raise my children to be upstanding citizens that contribute to the society in which they live. I will do what it takes to ensure that they learn from thier mistakes and chose the right way in life. It is my job to steer them back on course when they get off track. If it means taking a measure such as this, I am grateful that the option is there for me. |
Date: 6/14/2001 12:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 20977
I don't have any children, but if I did, I would hope that they would be close enough with me, that I would not have to question whether or not they were doing drugs. If they were, I would be very disappointed, but I would hope I would be able to tell.  |
Date: 6/14/2001 4:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 27414
Well, what would you rather do? Buy the kit and administer it or go to the jail, or worse, the morgue, to claim your kid?...pianoman  |
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Date: 6/14/2001 5:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 31077
Well I would wish that trust be first option as then me and my child could talk but lets face it thats not always the case as drugs can cause problems where maybe the child wouldn't trust talking and depending on how out of hand this was could be good at hideing alot so there for yes if I felt that my child was in drugs and wanted to try to handle it between just us at first if it wasn't out of hand I'd do so as anymore who knows if a childs youth would be held against them once they became an adult so maybe home testing is what the world has come to??? Im not saying lets hide we have a problem but why make it a major public thing that could carry should this be something a family can tend to if caught early? Im lucky so far in my life I've not had to buy one but wont say that should my kids loose site of whats in there best intrest that I wouldn't buy a test to help me know if together by testing should we be faced with this type of problem that I would have to have these test to be sure we are able to deal with this issue within the family if not I'd have to seek help outside the home and then home testing wouldn't be an option as then a person trained in this type of thing would have to be involved as to insure how to deal with this. I mean I dont believe in breaking trust between a parent and child dont get me wrong as I'd never read a diary but lets face it the test would be known to both the child and the parent so where is the trust being broken at? I mean yes maybe a child would feel if I have to take the test that means you dont trust what I say? ok look if a parent has good reason to feel or know you are involved in drugs I think trust isn't even the case as a parent trusted you to stay away from drugs and you didnt so there for you make the choice for both now to come to the testing place and lets face it if the parent lost all trust for the child the test wouldn't be an option its just to insure there on same page without blinders .. ~Family Matters~  |
Date: 6/14/2001 7:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 24856
I have talked to my chaps about EVERYTHING and I would hope we have an open communication. I trust that, but for any reason the behavior would seem different or changed...or friendships are changed, yes I would consider it. Not for me as much as for them.....I love them deeply and would want to help them. Does that make it wrong? Otter2  |
Date: 6/14/2001 8:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 23685
Yes I would...if I thought for one second my kid was using drugs I would test him and he knows it.  |
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Date: 6/14/2001 12:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 30996
If I had kids, and I felt that there might be a problem. I would. The answer is yes. Speed  |
Date: 6/14/2001 1:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 31673
Yeah, if I suspected they were abusing, I would definitely test 'em! ~Melodious  |
Date: 6/14/2001 5:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 35705
If i were an adult and suspected something then yeah i would, but i wouldnt be too harsh on my child unless he was on crack or something real bad. peace *livingdeadgirl*  |
Date: 11/11/2001 9:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 16376
only if I had a good reason to suspect them of something...  |
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