Date: 4/5/2001 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 600
Bravo!! This was a wonderful post! I think all of us at one time or another have been guilty of judgement based on appearance and/or been hurt by it. On many occasions there have been remarks made about me by those who don't know me, such as "she thinks she's something" or "look at the way she's trying to bring attention to herself" or even worse comments. I've also had people who are now my very good friends that in the beginning said they thought I was a snob, but once they got to know me they realized I was the furthest thing from that. It truly is sad, but unfortunately with the human emotions of jealousy, greed, etc....will come snap judgement. Hopefully with time and wisdom people begin to realize that it's not what someone else has or looks like that is important, it's what is in their heart that matters the most. Again, excellent post!   |
Date: 4/5/2001 11:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 31040
I totally agree with you! People are way TOO obsessed with how they look. They worry way too much about impressing other people. I mean seriously come on, if someones going to like you they are going to like you for who you are, not by what you look like. I dont want someone to like me because of what I look like, or not like me because what I dont look like, I want them to like me for me!
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Date: 4/5/2001 11:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 8179
I agree, I'm always trying to change my apperance, but not because I want to but because I want to be accepted by society. I don't want to be the butt of negative comments...  |
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Date: 4/5/2001 11:11:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27365
But you know, the best way to determine "good friends" is just that way alone. Who ever is a friend when you're looking you're best, is not a friend. But the one who sits around with you when you are sick and hanging over the toilet seat, their a keeper. LOL |
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Date: 4/5/2001 11:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 600
lol! hehehe, yep that's when I knew my best friend was indeed my BEST friend......When she pulled my hair out of the way as I was thanking God the seat was soooo cold! lol. Aww the memories. |
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Date: 4/5/2001 11:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 600
Oooh, and my husband as well. Thank goodness he loved me for me as well, cause I gotta tell ya, I'm not one who steps out of bed looking like Meg Ryan after a makeup job. |
Date: 4/5/2001 11:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 24924
For many years I was trapped in a vicious circle of always trying to be so perfect; you know, perfectly groomed, coordinated, not a hair out of place, and mercy me, I wouldn't dream of going out in public without my best "face" on. All that has changed. I have learned that no matter what, there is no way that a person can please EVERYONE, and that self esteem comes from within. We have to like and be happy with ourselves and that is what is projected no matter what the outside looks like. I know very well that many people have misjudged me just by the way I look and carry myself. I've even had people say (after they got to know me well) that when they first met me they thought I was a "snob" because of the way I dress and the confident air that I exude. Well, that is the farthest from the truth as you can get! We are never going to stop people from judging from our appearance, but we can just work on our inner peace and beauty, and pity those who judge solely on our outer shell. The Thinker  |
Date: 4/5/2001 12:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 15033
In Appearance, what really matters? A BIG CHEESY GRIN...if you don't believe me, go ask TAC...he he!! Truthfully though, I think what matters is if you look like you take good care of yourself...but that is in relation to how you want to be treated...*shrugs*....Love,  |
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Date: 4/5/2001 12:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 32489
This is very true. I think more people need to recognize what they are doing. You people know who you are, and if you dont... LEARN. We all need to stop this steriotyping and what not. |
Date: 4/5/2001 1:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 25438
I know this is gonna get me in trouble but I gotta do it....Yada Yada Yada.....people talk about people...behind there back, to there face, around the corner...strangers, best friends, worst enemies. Its never gonna stop and everyone form the supermodels in australia to the bums in india have had it done to them. Its a fact of life and no one is perfect, people will find a flaw. Just learn to be secure with yourself and your appearence and you will get by just fine. We are never gonna just all love each other and not talk about each other...what fun would that be????? Blue Knight  |
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Date: 4/5/2001 1:58:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27365
I hear what youre saying. I dont know maybe it's just me but I think that if everyone just learnt to keep their opinions to themselves, we wouldn't have any judging at all. |
Date: 4/5/2001 2:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 16612
It is wrong to change yourself just to please others,unless it's a school or work dress code thing.I like being me and looking like me, and I still love to look how I do even though ppl think I'm a freak or weirdo.I am better than they are, so I don't care. I like being ME.  |
Date: 4/5/2001 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 32577
Okay, I like this debate, I am 5'4, and I weigh 240 pounds, I dont look bad, and I am pretty..But the steroetype is, when you hear 240 pound you think fat...That;'s not necesarilty true...
everyone is unique in there own way, and I think if you dont have anything nice to say aout someone keep you opinions to yourself.
The only reason people say mean things about others is beacuse they feel insecure about them selves and try to hide it by pointing out eveyone elses flaws. Erin |
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Date: 4/5/2001 10:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 29575
I agree, it's true. I don't really like the appearance things these days. People think that thin is in, and fat is bad or something. Why don't people look past that, and see what's up on the inside?? I don't get it..people judge too much by looks. People think I'm totaly different than I really am when they first look at me. I wish people would just stop looking at appearance. I mean i guess it's good to look nice, but I mean, some people go overboard on it. It's crazy. So I agree with you. ¤*.¸¸.·´¨` »*Punkie«´¨`·.¸¸.*¤ |
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Date: 4/6/2001 7:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 32360
Well put! I have to say I have been a bit rude here and there when I see certain people. I am tired of that, just think about how that person feels and how you would feel if it was you that people were saying rude things to, not to nice eh. I think everyone shoudl just try to be nice then again who am I kidding. Roxy Foxy |
Date: 4/6/2001 8:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 31673
I think it's mostly insecurity. When you (not YOU specifically, just people in general) see someone that you percieve looks better than you, the instinct is to put them down to make yourself feel better. It's a sad thing, but everyone is guilty of doing it once in a while. Melodious  |
Date: 4/7/2001 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 15319
If you don't like my hairstyle, pay to take me to a salon. If you don't like the acne on my face, pay my dermatologist bills, if you don't like my clothes, give me 500 bucks so I can go to the Gap. Otherwise, keep your smarta** mouth to yourself *Dark Angel*  |
Date: 1/18/2002 6:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
My best advice is to just be yourself. The only person's feelings you should be worrying about are your own.  |
