In response to: Close to the Edge!

A couple of things struck me as I was reading your story... First of all I don't see how this person can be your lifetime partner, your soulmate if she cheated on you... Someone that loves somebody, doesn't do that...What kind of future are you building, if you can't even trust the person you're planning on spending the future with..You have to face reality!!! Most marriages end in divorce any way, why would you want to be already half way there??? This doesn't sound too healthy... Especially if she isn't willing to talk about it...I think that you have EVERY right to have at least an explanation!!! She owes you that at the very least. You have to ask yourself why would she still want to be best friends with this person, knowing how devastated you are...That seems VERY selfish!!! I mean how would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot...I bet she would leave you!! You have to have more respect for yourself to settle for this girl... There are TONS of women out there, you won't treat you that way... A relationship is a special thing between two people, and for one of them to be taking advantage of the other one doesn't sound too special...You need to get rid of this girl!!! It may be hard, but eventually you'll find someone else, and realize how stupid you were to take crap from anyone, and how great it feels to be treated right!! If you stay with this girl, then it probably will get worse, she probably cheat again, and expect you to forgive her every time!! What is a relationship without TRUST? NOTHING BUT LIES!!! I wish you the best! The Best of Luck! Kitty