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Date: 3/27/2001 6:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 30580
Listen neighborhood mom, you have already answered your own question. Even in all of this frenzy, you know that being there for those kids will do them a world of good. Regardless of how tired you get, how much rest you may need, remember that their parents aren't getting off easy. No. On the contrary, their parents are depriving themselves of getting to know wonderful kids and sharing the most vibrant parts of their youth with them. So take comfort in knowing that all of your stress is doing a world of good. Take care and please visit my lounge (Just check out the list of my stories, you'll see it). You seem like you need to relax and share your days with others like you. Have a good one and keep writing. |
Date: 3/27/2001 7:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 7654
Bravo , Bravo,very well said!May I add that as they get older things don't change that much..Your grocery bill just goes up.LOL...I have had them over and just waiting for them to leave so I could go to bed, only to find out that their mom said that they could spend the night..Oh boy!Your children sound young.Waite till they are in their teens LOL...The hang out stays the same.LOL..Gosh , I never would have thought that 5 to 6 teen age boys could eat so much.I buy groceries on Fridays and on Sunday's my son wants to know where all the snacks are....I wonder.Sometimes I wonder if I put a sign on the door "Admission $2"if they would come on in.LOL...But if someone comes to my home and they are hungry they are welcome to what I have,so I guess in away this could be my fault..Great post.~  |
Date: 3/27/2001 7:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 609
OMG I really feel for you here. I can't believe people actually act this way but Im glad you posts this..maybe thoes who just send their kids off will try and be a lil considerate.  |
Date: 3/27/2001 7:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 6134
I feel for you. You're just TOO GOOD!  Maybe you should send a little note home with the kids carefully explaining some of this stuff.  |
Date: 3/27/2001 7:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 943
I too am the neighborhood mom. I would definately "cut back" on how much you do for the others. They are NOT your responsibility. I also know where my kids are at all times, and they are "teens". When I call MY kids in to eat, etc. I am not calling in the neighborhood. No other kids are allowed in if I am not home. They've ALL gotten pretty used to me and know what they can and cannot do. I pray for your strength.  |
Date: 3/27/2001 7:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 20873
I know how you feel.........i seem to be a magnet for other people's kids! finally after this one little girl calling my house everyday for the past 4 months finally i spoke to the mom, and told her that her daughter calls 4 and 5 times a day and boots me off my computer the mom was like ok, oh well, i will have a talk with her. can she go play today??????? i was like.......... uuuuuhhhhhhh where are you everyday? i even explain that the kids of my own drive me bananna's sometimes, 14,9&5 and then to have her which is 8 and sometimes her sister 10 it's like whatever i said the momma didnt care! so good luck with your problem it happens every where you go and as for a s the food i'd lock it up! lol,lol. I THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS POST!!!! because this is an issue and i am tired of being the neighborhood babysitter everywhere i live also! thank you, dina  |
Date: 3/27/2001 8:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 24963
I can't understand why people (the parents) act like that! I would never send any of my kids over to someone's to play without talking to the mother first even if it is only for a few minutes of play. I'm a neighborhood mom of sorts. I don't have my kid's friends over all the time. But I have a few teenage friends. And for some reason practically all the teenagers in town(small town) like to come over to my place to hangout. They all think I'm cool, and keep telling me this and I personally don't understand it. LOL I don't mind it. they all love to play with my kids, and they all know my rules. Only one of them is allowed to "raid the kitchen" and that's my best friend. If someone breaks my rules I don't allow them back into my home. One time someone stole something from me I made her give it back and never let her in my home again. she tries to come into my house and I tell her as soon as I see her to get out of my house, she broke my rules. I do hope the situation gets better for you! ~Mirada69  |
Date: 3/27/2001 9:11:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21376
first of all they cut off my heading it should have read{IF NOT, THEY ARE MOST LIKELY AT MY HOUSE}
Anyways please don't get me wrong,I love kids and they pretty much play in my back yard,I do have rules and most of them are polite and follow them. Its the parents,Some of these children are spanish, their parents don't speak English! A few weeks ago we had Blizzard like conditions and school was closed and it lucky for me was my day off anyways,we had about a foot of snow!And what do I see these kids all bundled up trapesing accross my front yard like little ants LOL nothing stops them!I know they are not my responsibility but they are kids!I am just hopeing they turn out as sweet as they all are now!But its the parents who are loseing out you are right.Do you know after all these years only one of these mom's or Dad's has ever thanked me,only one has asked me over for a cup of tea!I don't mean to sound petty or complain but I pay for my sitters,which costs me a fortune here!Just so you know I am just venting, I would never send a child away,The ages range from 4 to 11 years old,and they are still babys in my book.Some are happy to help me even,maybe I give them the attention they lack at home...I don't mind though.And there are new kids coming and going out of the neighborhood all the time.I just wish parents were a little more concerned.I have one child who will hurt themselves at home and come to me for a kiss and a bandaid!Thats all it takes sometimes....  |
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Date: 3/27/2001 9:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21376
Ok I just had a thought!I must buy bandaids every two weeks,One gets a boo boo, the others look for boo boos to get bandaids too, they all get a bandaid weather they need one or not,maybe I should buy stock in bandaid, or better yet, write the company with my story and see if they would donate a few... LOL |
Date: 3/27/2001 10:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 20104
You poor thing. Those parents are very rude. Its like they take you for granted and expect you will babysit always. Thats not fair. I would almost tell those parents you dont want their kids at your house anymore, but then its not the kids fault their parents are irresponsible. After reading this I am mad now. I wish there were more good parents like you, but unfortunately a lot are like those parents. Jamie  |
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Date: 3/27/2001 10:51:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21376
Oh my goodness Jamie, don't be mad at your self! People call me crazy!I have sleepovers all the time, sometimes slumber partys for my kids,When parents drop them off for the night they always say {Are you sure you are ready for this}To me its no big deal,Don't get me wrong 2 children of my own are pleanty,I don't want any more. I have my girl and boy!But I also want them to have playmates, things get a little hectic and granted I am very easy going here,It takes alot to make me raise my voice,but you know its not all as bad as people think,kids userly listen to other adults better than their own parents, and have to behave... Its just getting costly here,and I was just mad I had to be late for work again! I am lucky where I have a very understanding boss who shakes his head and laughs. |
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Date: 3/28/2001 3:41:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21376
OMG ya think??? last night I only had 3 little visiters and one, get this(Brought over a snack box full of popcorn)I was so floored and yet, thought,They heard me!Diana |
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Date: 3/28/2001 6:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 6134
I understand what you're saying, when I suggested sending a little note home I meant to asked them to call before sending their kid over so "you know they know where the kid is". Then maybe if they have to call every time they will notice how often the kid is over there and perhaps send a snack with them, or call them home for meals, or even offer you a break and have your kids over. They may not even realize how much their kid is over there and if they do then they are just plain thoughtless. Just a thought... |
Date: 4/27/2001 8:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 277
This is one of the reasons why I stopped buying my kid juice boxes. When ever the neighborhood kids come over to play, everyone wants one and they are left half full and wasted or they just want it because it's different. I know what you mean by weeding out the bad ones. The kids with the parents who have to yell out their door to know where their kid is and once they figure out they're at my house it's "Oh thanks for taking care of him/her." Their kids are usually the ones who have no discipline and have no idea what upbringing is. My favorite is hearing, "Can we eat dinner at your house?" And always asked this when I'm ready to send them home. I've also had kids run up to my car when I come home and I want a quiet night. Or they want to come with us when we're going somewhere, even if they don't know where we're going. You shouldn't feel like if you weren't here for them then who would be, because you have your own kids to care for. It's sad that some parents are like that, but it's not your fault. I'm sure you're kids enjoy having other kids around to play with.  |
