Date: 5/31/2014 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
I think you have the best idea for this situation. If asked, just tell them that you don't know her well enough. Knowing 'of' her, and actually knowing her well are two very different things, so you would be telling the exact truth. Odds are that she won't get far enough to become a bother to you.  |
Date: 5/31/2014 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 21435
Apryl, Fed Ex sounds like a good place to be and you've earned your place. Don't blow it on a maybe. I like Ginger's suggestion. Take care of you and write on....  |
Date: 5/31/2014 8:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 22721
If she wants the job, she needs to earn it. You don't need her drama, so just don't associate with her. She can bring you down.
And if asked, you don't know her well enough to vouce.
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Date: 5/31/2014 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Yep, I'm with Ginger and Kronk..by the sounds of it she won't get past the first stage. It is going to be hard for you not to have some association with her seeing that she is with your brother and living across the road but being civil and on a personal level with her are two different things and do not be afraid of saying NO if you have to..  |
Date: 5/31/2014 9:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
If I was in your position, I would either A. ask her NOT to use you as a reference or B. if asked about her, tell the hiring manager that you do not know much about her as you do not know her on a personal level.  |
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Date: 5/31/2014 9:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 67270
If you don't really know her, then don't suggest her. Don't let her sketchiness bring negativity to your world. Why are your brother and neighbor asking you to do it? Maybe they could find options for her. |
Date: 6/1/2014 8:54:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36901
Thank you all for the great advice!!!  |
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Date: 6/1/2014 3:37:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36901
We talked today and she asked a lot of questions about the job. I told her what is expected and she said she can't handle the stress. |
Date: 6/1/2014 4:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
One time I was in the same shoes as you so I caved told them to use my name and when I new their application was in I told my hiring manager not to hire them since I was a reference. They were like "Then why did you suggest them to come here?" I said, "I tried not to, but the person couldn't take a hint." And that was that, they never got hired. They found a different job and bailed on that three weeks later, some people...
Do not feel guilty one bit. This is your career. If she can't accept that then forget her in a g-rated way...  |
Date: 6/1/2014 6:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
Sad to say, but what a relief for you that she won't be working at the business you work for. She actually sounds like a high maintenance type of person, with a very picky personality.
Oh, and it sure is nice to see you here at USM Apryl  |
Date: 6/3/2014 10:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 49765
Here is what I would do, go to the person who is hiring and be up front with them and explain to them that you don't want any problems in your family for not trying to get this lady in (remember, you did your part and directed her to the application as requested by your brother) but you also don't want any problems at work. Tell them why in your own opinion why they shouldn't hire her for your fears but let them know that it is based on their own discretion. That way, you are letting them know that you are not just trying to get someone in and they fail later , and it lets them know that you are being honest at the same time you are allowing them the choice as to what they want to do.  |
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Date: 6/5/2014 4:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36901
A friend of hers got her a job. She didn't show up. She said her phone died and didn't wake her up. She didn't even call. |
Date: 6/5/2014 10:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
just as You said, wait, and if asked let them know you do not know her well enough to give her a fair recommendation....don't put your job position in jeopardy sweetheart....."Sometimes in life, we must take a stand to do what is best for ourselves instead of every one else" This is One of those times......every one has a right to change for the better...but, this situation sounds as if it hasn't changed., You'll know what to do when the time comes....xx T/C  |
