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Date: 10/17/2013 9:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 31765
There's nothing at all wrong with it. We've seen an upsurge of multi generational families in the last decade or so. The reason for this, many times, is financial. It's just really hard to make it on your own anymore and the way I see it, there's no difference in a multi generational family residence than one having room mates. In my past, I've owned my own home. But things changed. I became disabled, and my mom became elderly. So, mom lives with my husband and I. She just turned 66 and has problems of her own. It just makes more sense having this living situation for us. About ten years ago, we began noticing a trend toward multigenerational homes. We actually know people whose homes include parents, grandparents, aunt, uncles, cousins, as well as themselves. It seems to be trending like this as it did during the great depression. (Think of the television show The Waltons, if you've ever seen it.) So heck no, no judgment here. If it works for you, that's all that counts. And I'm twenty years older than you  Good post. Take care!  |
Date: 10/17/2013 11:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 66331
There is nothing wrong with living at home. When my grandma was still alive, my dad and aunt lived with her and they are old lol Then again when parents get older, kids tend to want to be closer to them to help out if they need it. I know lots of people that are older then you and still live with their parents. You shouldn't have to move out unless you want to. If your happy and your mom is happy then stay with her. Dont let people judge you, as long as your happy do what you what. Dont let someone tell you differently, this is your life not theirs.  |
Date: 10/17/2013 12:08:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56297
Thank you for your input, perhaps it is just taboo to my peers? Some people take "being an adult" way too seriously. :/  |
Date: 10/17/2013 4:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
If it were me I'd go for some "new peers" if they cannot accept that Your life and decisions are your own, then who needs that?..... I'd live my life the way I want...afterall it is "Your" life, not theirs...I wouldn't worry about it, as Altaira has already mentioned, there are lot's of families living together again.....I would have liked to have had a Big family like the tv series, "The Waltons" Take/Care!  |
Date: 10/17/2013 8:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 64593
I should say, I lived with my mom until I was almost 26 and when my husband and I moved out it was only a block away. haha  |
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Date: 10/17/2013 8:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 64593
My mom and I actually had a conversation about this the other day because my baby boy sleeps in our bed (he's 15 months) and I mentioned to her that I didn't understand why this country thinks so badly of it especially considering they are only your tiny baby for so long. I mentioned how in many cultures many children never leave the house even after marriage and they become the caregivers of their parents. |
Date: 10/17/2013 8:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 22721
Nouthing wrong with it. The economy changes everything.  |
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Date: 10/17/2013 11:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
I think people are more judgemental when it appears that the 'child' is taking advantage of the parent. A lot of 'children' live with their parents and don't contribute financially (or very little), nor do they help around the house. A lot of women I know, work so they can afford to keep their adult children at home. Those same adult children miss out on nothing...they party, they have nice cars, go on awesome holidays, and mum can't afford to do anything special for herself. Now that is her choice, but many mums feel like they have to do this...It's a huge difference living away from your parents and learning how to tackle life's challenges. It helps one mature. So if you are living at home and contributing, just like a 'room mate' I don't see an issue with it....helping mum thru the divorce is a lovely thing to do....  |
Date: 10/18/2013 1:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
These situations work for some people. For me it never did. ( preferred being on my own. HUGS  |
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Date: 10/18/2013 1:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
I have known people who lived with their parents and never contributed to mortgage, utilities, foods, or any other expenses, and grudgingly only helped around the house, occasionally. They have lots of their own money, but blow it on their wants and desires, and always end up taking form the parents if they spend too much and have to have some to carry them through. When their parents are gone they will have to bite the bullet and learn how to live on their own without spending their rent and bill money. Until then, they don't care as long as they are getting a free ride out of it. |
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Date: 10/18/2013 9:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
Yep Nani, they are the ones I'm talking about...the parents aren't really helping them..as these are the ones who can't handle their finances and get themselves in trouble. As much as I didn't want my 21yr old to move out this year, I'm so proud of what he has achieved. He works hard to pay his bills, but gets so much self gratification from it. My 18yr old moved out, and came back....but to a van in the back yard. He pays board and helps his dad outside when needed. He is still learning how to handle his meagre pay packet...but I'm so proud of him. He was waiting for his pay to go in this week, and refused our offer of lending him some money until it went in (money was for cigarettes, so I won't just give it to him)...he already has some bills he has to pay, and didn't want to make it harder for himself... |
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Date: 10/28/2013 11:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
theres nothing at all wrong with it if you are helping and paying your fair share. but theres some that just mooch off their parents and never contribute anything. parents are not supposed to support kids til they are 40.........something my BABY brother doesn't understand!  |
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