Date: 7/12/2012 9:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 63468
I'm so sorry  I'm replying because my boyfriend of 3 years recently stopped wanting to be with me, so I know how you're feeling. Two-three weeks isn't long at all, and you'll probably hear this a lot but it will just take time. It's understandable that you're still crying every night. I know it's scary to think about how long it will take to get through this but you just have to take it one day at a time. Try to hang in there. |
Date: 7/12/2012 11:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 64819
That whole we can still be friends line is usually to make it easier, they usually never have any intention of being friends.
I really don't know what to tell you about the healing process other than it will take time, keep yourself busy so you don't have time to think, and don't forget to eat, hunger will make you feel bad too.  |
Date: 7/13/2012 4:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 4995
Go for walks...make yourself eat..even if its just a little soup. You need your nutrition. I know how you feel I've been through it before. Get a stack of movies to watch on your dvr funny ones if you can find them....that's what got me through my last break up. But then also....after I hadn't called him for two weeks he called me wanting me back. You never know. Don't call her and see what happens. G.  |
Date: 7/13/2012 4:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
I'm sorry this has happened to you. The only thing that is going to make you feel beter is time. Everyday it wil get easier. It's going to take a long time but someday it's not going to hurt anymore.  |
Date: 7/14/2012 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
i am so sorry tina i know this is so general and typical to say but i promise you it does get easier  |
Date: 7/15/2012 5:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 17275
Take each day one at a time. A few weeks apart really isn't a long time considering you were together for a couple years. Find the positives in your life, you know there are some.  |
Date: 7/16/2012 7:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
What I did after a break up with someone I also considered "The one" is I made a list a goals I wanted to achieve. Current goals and new ones, not just with work, education and money. But personal goals like taking singing lessons for example. And I deicated my time to achieving these goals one by one. It took my mind off this person and I was getting something positive and constructive out off it. Eventually I was finally living out off home, had a bunch off nice new friends who I still love a lot to this day, I was doing an open learning course at UNI. Getting my Drivers Lisence. And doing stuff that make me happy. When he contacted me again on MSN, He could see I was a very different person, And that made me realize I had grown past him. And was over him. Now I have been in a realitionship with my current boyfriend for 3 years. we live together, I have a stabble job, and other good things. And Me and this ex I considered "The one" talk on Facebook and run into each other at Local Metal Gigs and now mature adults who can be friends in a strange way. Time changes fast I look back on those days and can not believe it was bearly 5 years ago. When so much has changed now. I know you will feel the same in time, you are hurt now and that is not something you can just switch off, and that is okay, it means you are human, and you feel life for it's good and bad moments. It also means you will learn from it and be better prepared for another lover, if this girl does not come back. Maybe if she does not you two can be friends, after years appart or just weeks appart. But remember your happiness matters, even if you do not feel all that great now. I would also advise you to avoid dating and relationdhipd for awhile untill you have healed and realised what you need and want for the future. I am sorry you are heart broken but things get better, I can garentee that very much. <3 <3 <3 *Warm Hugs*  |
Date: 7/17/2012 9:01:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56297
Thank you Cosmic freak, your comment gave me hope. And thank you to everyone else as well, all advice helps! I actually started picking up some goals like you said. Right now my new goal is to gain an intermediate understanding of math and physics. So far so good, I can't believe I'm actually self teaching myself math when I always assumed I was horrible at it (I'm not as horrible as previously expected). I start graduate classes soon too so that should help keep my mind busy.
She actually came over to pick up some of her things yesterday and I was able to hold it together and not break down. We talked for about 10 minutes and it felt nice, but I was super sad afterward and I think I wasn't ready to see her in person again.  |
