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Date: 5/28/2012 11:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
I can undertand your reasoning, still it's nice to hear those words. I never get tired of them. I wasn't told very often by my parents when I was growing up, so maybe that's why. I always tell my kids and neices and nephews and loved ones I love them...and, I tell them. often. you never know when you won't have the chance to say it anymore.  |
Date: 5/28/2012 2:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
i feel the same way nani does.  |
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Date: 5/28/2012 2:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 66062
Thats very true. I know I should tell them. But every time I do tell someone I love them, they die. I kid you not. Or they get horribly sick and I feel like its my fault.  |
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Date: 5/29/2012 10:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
Neither my boyfriend nor I say it often, and this is why: we express love by doing things for each other and the ones we love. I feel that saying it often tends to lessen the meaning behind the words. My ex-husband used to say it...CONSTANTLY. And it actually drove me nuts. Why? Because he never showed me anything to back up his words. My boyfriend does not have to say it, but I KNOW how much he loves me just by how he treats me and shows me EVERY day. I do tell my children I love them because I do believe children need to hear it, but I also teach them that love is more than words (yes, like the 80's song). Maybe explain to her that you may not say "I love you," but you will always show her that you love her.  |
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Date: 5/29/2012 10:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
Another idea is to create a special "code" that means "I love you" to her. Since she is 2, she will feel special. Make it silly and tell her something like, "whenever I say 'stinky elephant,' it means 'I love you.'" Just a thought. |
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Date: 5/29/2012 10:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
I agree that I love you should be backed up with a showing of the emotion...otherwise, those words are empty...however, hearing those words spoken when you are loved heals a lot of things that otherwise wouldn't get healed...and an empty hug, or act, is as impotent as the empty words... |
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Date: 5/29/2012 10:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
Agreed, there are definitely times to say it. Since I went through years of empty words, the phrase really did just seem so empty to me and that is why I've been a little ruined by hearing them. When I hear it now, I know he means it, so that in itself has been healing. |
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Date: 5/29/2012 3:04:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 66062
I like the code idea. I know kids should hear it. Just like they should hear "Your are beautiful/handsome." to help build self esteem (goodness knows they need it more now than ever with this mean world today) Someone asked me "Why can't you say it now? What are you going to tell your kids when you have them?" They are right of course. But fear can over ride you sometimes >_< |
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