Date: 5/19/2012 7:34:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36901
Sorry about the spacing issue. This was typed in paragraphs. I guess it's my phone.  |
Date: 5/19/2012 11:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 48250
Hi Sweetheart!....it's great to see You!!...Congratulations on Your new home....believe me I know how all that moving can be! it tires me just thinking about it!, I just hope and pray I don't have to do it again either! I know it cannot be easy, working all day with all that commuting and then raising Your Boys....here's maybe a suggestion., at night when it is also a little cooler., I would pack what I could, get it moved., I would ask Your husband to help., maybe involved the kids in moving as well., they packing small things., that way they will feel like they are involved in doing something themselves, I would pack as you can until You get it all out and into Your new home, unpacking is the fun and best part!....placing every thing where you want it....I still haven't gotten all of my books, movies unpacked yet and I've been here a little over a year and 2 1/2 months, it just takes time especially when you have so much else to do too... It'll happen, just hang in there!!  xx's T/C  |
Date: 5/19/2012 4:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Time for a discussion with Thomas and find out why the enthusiasm is not there with him to help..It certainly is no fun packing up a place to move to another so I sympathise with you there. Talk with him dear and get it all sorted out..  |
Date: 5/19/2012 10:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 30747
First of all, congrats on the new house. Moving is exhausting to say the least. I'm guessing Thomas feels that you will do all the work so why should he help. He's just being lazy. Time to light a fire under him and explain that you are getting warn out and afraid you'll get sick and then he'll have to do EVERYTHING by himself.  |
Date: 5/19/2012 11:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 37843
Well, something that I've found doesn't work is getting to the breaking point and exploding... it helps for like an hour, also asking repeatedly doesn't help, neither do subtle hints. What works in my case is drinking lots of coffee or monster and just doing whatever needs done by myself. I'm sorry you're in this situation, if I could help I would cuz I know it's hard. Congratulations on your new house tho, and good luck with getting Thomas to help.  |
Date: 5/20/2012 6:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
Congrats on the new house!! i know how it is to move and i wouldn't want to be in your shoes for a minute!!
have you thought about just packing your stuff and the kids stuff? leave his stuff and he can move it or lose it. i know it sounds childish but when somebody is acting like a child thats how you have to treat them.
good luck!!  |
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Date: 5/20/2012 4:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 65974
hmmm is it possible he doesn't want to move and prefer where he is staying now. not helping might be just that but he might find it hard to tell you how he feel about it cause you want the house so much. moving doesn't seem much fun but it hard to see that as the reason. i don't know sorry. |
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Date: 5/21/2012 3:58:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36901
He does want to move. Just doesn't want to help. I found out that he has an addiction to a stupid video game (an aircraft combat something or other). I wad freaked out when he told me of an addiction. I was thing drugs or alcohol. Those would be deal breakers for me. A friend got him playing it and he can't stop. Seeing it from my point of view helped some. He did help last night. We're both off work today and he has promised to help. We will see. He was dragging because I told him internet wasn't on my list of things to have turned on in the new house right away. Yeah, I think water and power are a little more necessary. He is a good man. We'll get through this. He asked me to help redirect his attention. I can do that! |
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Date: 5/21/2012 3:59:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36901
Sorry for the typos. My phone can be a pain sometimes. |
