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Talk about heartache... - Murdertramp (Lil_Dark_Butterfly)

  Author:  57350  Category:(Discussion) Created:(3/6/2012 12:06:00 AM)
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Those of you who read my posts and have awesome memory know I have PCOS and trying to conceive. Today I went to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist. Hoping to receive assistance with having a child after not being about to conceive naturally without medication. She refused to help me, saying basically im fat which would cause complications and possibly kill my child or give it birth defects and recommended bariatric surgery. At least that is the way it registered in my head. According to her (and I wont argue) im morbidly obese and that would cause to many complications for a me, baby, labor and delivery if she were to help me get pregnant. Her suggestion was put me on birth control and metaformin (even though i stopped it in the past due to it making me sick)and to have bariatric surgery and get my BMI down lower than 30. Then come back and she would assist me. My issue is ive been gaining weight like crazy, within the past month ive gained 15lbs and no idea how. Ive seen a dietitian and weve developed a meal plan and the amount of calories i should be eating. I go to see my regular Endocrinologist at the end of this month and hopefully thats something they can help me figure out.

This whole day has really been a bummer. I know what I need to do and Ill do it but its just really brought up some past emotions ive worked so hard on getting past. All my life ive been insecure about my body/looks/weight. Finally ive learned to love myself no matter what size I am and realize im an awesome person with a kick butt personality...I have someone who loves me for who I am no matter what the scale or the mirror says to me. He knows the person I am and who I want to be and supports me, and protects me from the one thing who would always tear me to shreds...myself. And in a few short hours one person brought my whole world down and it made me feel like I should just dig a hole and lay in it. It just amazes me how I can come so far and feel so good just to have this situation break it down. Sad thing is what the doctor says is true, so I cant be mad like its someone just trying to insult me. I know what I need to do though and starting tomorrow ill put my life back on the right track, ill loose the mass amount of weight I need too and when I conceive and deliver a healthy baby I hope it comes out swinging punches and shes in the way lol. As for tonight though, im still a little lost, a little down, and little not myself.

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Date: 3/6/2012 1:38:00 AM  From Authorid: 42945    I have a cousin who had to lose weight to get help to be able to fall pregnant..which she did and ended up having another birth two later as well. She is one very happy girl...

I wish you well in your endeavour to have a little baby so follow the docs instructions and you will be one happy girl also *hugs*
  
Date: 3/6/2012 3:33:00 AM  From Authorid: 4995    I know JUST how you feel. I had my doctor tell me to lose weight too. It didnt bother me as much as I know she was right and wasnt trying to be mean. Just accept who you are for now and know you STILL have a kick butt personality and someone loves you for YOU. Im on a weight loss journey myself I know how challenging it is. Look at it as an awesome project for yourself. YOU CAN DO IT. I just started and lost seven pounds and I still struggle. But its a battle Im determined to WIN and so can YOU. Do it for that awesome baby you want. G.  
Date: 3/6/2012 4:08:00 AM  From Authorid: 4995    PS..bariatric surgery is wayyyy risky. Sage had it and had so many complications. I just think it would be wiser to do it with diet and exercise. Just saying.G.  
Date: 3/6/2012 4:30:00 AM  From Authorid: 64819    Aww darlin, I'm sorry that you left the dr so crushed.
I hope everything works out for you.
  
Date: 3/6/2012 10:41:00 AM  From Authorid: 13969    Wow. That was way harsh. Overweight people have healthy pregnancies and babies all the time. As a side note, have you ever had your thyroid function checked? Its a simple blood test but it can cause you serious health problems if you have hypothroidism (low production of the hormone). I struggle with my weight back and forth and discovering that there was a reason for it helped me lose a lot of the extra pounds.  
Date: 3/7/2012 10:53:00 AM  From Authorid: 36901    As you know, I have PCOS too. I am overweight and was basically told to give up on having kids. I have 2 very healthy boys. Had them with no complications. Don't give up!  
Date: 3/8/2012 11:16:00 AM  From Authorid: 48250    You should not allow someone's else's words even if the doc meant well, the words were still tactless, thoughtless...Diet and exercise is the way to go in my opinion and Dancing Your way to a healthier You as in Zumba, baby! ....The surgery is risky as CP has already mentioned, there have been those who have had major complications from those type surgeries...successes too I am sure, yet I wouldn't want to risk it., if it were me....I would definitely do some major research before considering having it....I would also have the thyroid scan completed to find out the reasons for the weight gain, it does sound like a thyroid issue...Meanwhile do not allow this to get you down especially what the doc said., and though I know you are hurt, offended I would take that and turn it around into something Positive...I would lose that unwanted weight for You!....and once you are able to become pregnant I would definitely choose another OB-GYN certainly not someone who simply cares for "making more money" and not the patients' emotional and physical well-being....I would not see that doc any longer much less allow the delivery of my child to be handled by someone with that attitude...But do these things for Yourself and Your future Child....Best Wishes hon...T/C  

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