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Date: 4/26/2011 10:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Yes, you have been through the wringer. But don't let that knock you down. Here are a few things you should remember: First, do not expect to bounce back from the death of your boyfriend. There are seven stages of grief: Shock & Denial; Pain & Guilt; Anger; Depression; Upward Turn; Reconstruction; Acceptance. Here is a site to explain: http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html Grieving is a process that takes time, and everyone is different. When I lost my brother it took me almost a year to recover. One thing that helps: Don't think about what you have lost, think about what you had. Second, don't drop out of school. That will just depress you more. Go to the school and tell them that you have had a death in the family [true enough!] and you need to take time off from school. This is a reasonable request, and they will work with you. When you feel strong enough to return, the college will work to get you back into the program. That is their job, after all! > I'm always thinking of the mistakes and things I could have done different in life. This is called the "If Only" scenario: "If Only I hadn't done this or that...", right? Don't do this. It will eat you alive! The mistakes you have made were learning experiences, and we all have them. Yes, they were painful, but if they weren't, you probably wouldn't have learned anything. I know that I wouldn't have. The next time an "If Only" thought comes to mind, just say to yourself, "I know better now,". Finally, drug addicts are the worst kinds of people and they make terrible friends. Nine out of ten times they hate themselves, and are using drugs to escape from the ruin of their own life. Cut him out of your life. If you want to go to Wales for a vacation, that's great. I've always wanted to go there. But don't think you can escape your personal woes there. Allow yourself to grieve for your losses. Ride out the Seven Stages of Grief, and you will get better. And remember that your USM family is here for you.  |
Date: 4/26/2011 11:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 37150
You have been through a lot, dear. The love of your life who has now passed took care of you and now that he's gone, you need to take care of yourself. You learned from your last horrible experience with that other "man" what you don't need. Pick yourself up now. Your true love would have wanted that. You're 25 years old; your life and you are filled with so much potential. Don't worry about friends, but the first thing you should do is go back to school. Dive into your school work, earn that degree, immerse yourself in your work and when you come out of it, you'll see you accomplished something and help other people. You have nothing but time, sweetie. Take advantage of it and take care of YOU cuz at the end of anything and everything, YOU is what you have. *hugs x 1000 x 1000*  |
Date: 4/27/2011 9:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 43991
I wish there was something I could say that could take your hurt away, but I know there isn't. Arion and Mayuka both have very good idea and I couldn't agree with them more. Let yourself go through the stages of grief, as hard as it may be. You certainly are in my thoughts and prayers. Much love. ((hugs))  |
Date: 4/27/2011 10:54:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 57074
I really appreciate you guys responding to my post and you all couldn't have been more right. He's always told me to never be sad about him but as we all know you cannot control that especially with death. It's been hard picking myself back up but surely it will happen. THANK YOU! =)  |
Date: 6/13/2011 5:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 56369
The guys have given you some really wise words, Im sorry that life has dealt you these cards, HUGS X  |
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