Date: 1/21/2011 12:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 62918
I was raised to not act like that, but I knew others my age (22) who always have. It's disgusting. Sometimes I want to tell these parents to smack their kids, and then themselves. It's so messed up. There was a new episode of "Toddlers in Tiaras" on last night where the little brat of a girl (about 7 years old) bossed her mom around, and the mom took it, complaining about it the entire time. It was pathetic. These parents are too worried about making their kids upset. But "spare the rod, spoil the child". Good post, btw!  |
Date: 1/21/2011 12:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 8024
in most places this is acceptable behavior these days ..  |
Date: 1/21/2011 1:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
Unfortunately these are the times we live in where the kids are not disciplined enough...I heard this woman telling her little toddler, I'll count to three and then we go back home and you get no present..she counted to three and this little boy swore at her, kicked and screamed so she took him out to go home, a smack on the bottom never killed a child, so I'd have given him what for...outside...wonder why they grow up with no respect for anyone or anything,,  |
Date: 1/21/2011 1:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 21435
I learned early on that such behavior was not tolerated. My children didn't act that way either. Write on, Splendid Cat....  |
Date: 1/21/2011 2:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 37150
No way! I would be so afraid to get yelled at! I would never talk back to my parents. They didn't even have to hit me, I just knew to respect. I'd have left the store if they were acting that way, or they'd have to wait and see what happened when they got home (take away some privileges). Then again if these kids are 15, it might be too little too late to start laying some ground rules. Gotta be strict when it starts.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 4:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 51106
It is ridiculous the way kids act these days. My nephews would start cursing at the age of 3 and nothing would be done about it. Then everyone wonders why they talk back now and they are barely 13 yet.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 4:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 16845
Today we live in a society where people are AFRAID to discipline their children. One person might find a quick spank on the bottom ok, the next finds it abusive. Now that's more for the younger kids. I don't know how I'd handle a teen acting that way. I'm not there yet. LOL..  |
Date: 1/21/2011 6:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
This is happening more and more these days, SC. I noticed a few years back that a friend of mine was talking about how her daughter wasnt going to like this or that that had happened in her home, and she was acting as if she was talking about a parent rather than her child. I was dumbfounded that this child had so much control over her parents. But then, the parents gave the control to her. In some families kids rule the roost while the parents jump through hoops to please them. Not in MY family! Great post. Thanks for sharing. HUGS  |
Date: 1/21/2011 7:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 23075
neither of my girls would EVER think of telling me what to do. They know that I brought them into this world and I could take them out lol. Just kidding, in all honesty though, my children were raised differently.  |
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Date: 1/21/2011 9:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 51106
I completely agree with Becky. |
Date: 1/21/2011 10:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 21903
I just KNEW you were going to tell me they were teenagers! How embarrassing for the parents. If my teenagers want to throw a tantrum as such in said walmart, I'd just leave. I just hope when I'm actually a parent I can stand by that statement. I know sometimes it seems easier, even at a very young age, to just give your kid what they're screaming about to shut them up and keep from making a scene and being embarrassed, but that gives kids the power in the relationship. They know at that point that if they scream and tantrum they will get what they want, at least some of the time because that trick has worked before. If you don't give in when they are children, you set the president for their older years-parents have to be in charge and the ones making the decisions. When said kids are parents, then they will have that same "power." Just my opinion.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 10:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 3835
Either that or the kids are just acting out in public, the way the parents act out in the privacy of their own homes... usually children do as they see... and if they see that behavior in the parents, they will eventually pick up on that and do it themselves.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 2:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 11097
I noticed sometime between my generation and now (I am 26) that when I was a kid we were very different from kids today. I would get that look and that was it... I would run in my room or be quiet immediately. I wasn't hit either but I knew my parents weren't kidding around and I knew I should listen. I agree with you and think it has a lot to do with respect. To this day, and I am an adult, I refuse to curse in front of my dad. But my step-brother has a terrible mouth on him and curses at his mother and my father and throws temper tantrums when told no and he is 16! I notice a difference in parenting from when I was young and my younger brothers and sister. I often heard this, "I don't want to deal with it" or "as long as he/she is quiet" and it's upsetting when you see kids taking advantage and acting completely disrespectful. I think it might have to do with the "NO" factor to be honest.
I am not attacking others in anyway, just making observations of what I see in my own house and out.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 2:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
I am 24 and was taught not to talk back also. My kids range from 12 to 3 and the younger two are 3 and four and talk back quite a bit. I don't care where I'm at or who's watching I do not tolerate it one bit...they will be punished as soon as it happens.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 3:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 64765
Thanks everybody for reading and sharing, I can see we're on the same page here  I agree with what Zelana said about the difference between generations. Am 28 and I can see that It's quite different from what it was when I was growing up.  |
Date: 1/21/2011 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
I have seen it one too many times. WE were taught the same thing, respect your elders. And if I had a set of them they would be frosted, lol, *not talking kids here* But also to see kids, even I have saw this on usm, they say WEll you have to earn my respect! We were not beat when we were kids, but we knew it was the grown ups that gave us our food, clothes, shelter. We knew it was wrong to speak rude to an adult of any kind. And to speak rude to a parent, grandparent, teacher ect in public, NO way was that ever done.
I think because of the laws now days parents can't smack a kid for something they do in public or they get arrested. So they do not dare to make them mind. My kids knew better then to pull stuff like that. Eddies daughter, before we got married, but he told me about it, mouthed off once in public for some dang thing she thought she needed, he didn't do anything at that point. When they got home he gave her three licks on the bottom with his belt. Then he told her, I didn't smack you in public to keep from embarrassing YOU, however next time I will and don't you ever speak mouthy to an adult in public or at home. Well she didn't do it again.
Thing is a parent does not have to smack them, its far worse to verbally chew them out for their attitude in a store WHEN it happens, and LOUDLY simply because usually someone they know will be there and THEY will be the one embarrassed instead of the parent. I had to do that to shelby one time in the store. Needless to say she never got smart mouth or attitude *sp* with me again in a store.  |
Date: 1/22/2011 3:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
I would feel embarrased being those kids acting that way, But thats just me, My parents did not ground me ever. Different ways off raising someone I guess.  |
Date: 1/23/2011 2:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 4231
Yeah, I could not agree more with what you are saying. If it were me, I would smarten that kid right up regardless of where I am. I would not be embarassed, but I assure you my kid would be. Maybe they would think twice before acting out in public the next time.  |
Date: 1/23/2011 5:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 63846
I joke around with my parents, but by nature I don't boss them around or tell them what to do or fight with them. They put me into this world, and they can take me out just as easily.  |
Date: 1/24/2011 12:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 37843
I would have picked myself up across the room if I'd tried that with my parents... It drives me nuts that parents allow their kids to get away with that type of behavior and in public too! There are a combination of things that cause that though, 1.) people don't want to hear their children cry or to upset them so the child pretty much calls the shots, and 2.) people will call the police on you if you so much as raise your voice towards your child these days so parents are afraid to discipline their children because it could be seen as abuse by a passer by. There is a line between discipline and abuse. There is never a reason for someone to abuse a child.  |
