I need some advice about Mother's Day gifts.

As the title says, I really need advice. I'll try to keep it short and sweet.

I will be buying for my mother, mother-in-law and my dad's fiance. We've decided to get each one of them a ring. Maybe all the same ring, maybe not. Haven't decided yet.

We've have several problems, though, and I'm hoping you guys might be able to help decide.

Whatever rings we decide on, they will be Mother's Day type rings that have the birthstones and some even have the names engraved. We'd thought about getting grandmother's rings instead, but most of the rings we found won't let you do that many names/stones.

I'm going to list each problem separately so it will be easier to keep track for both myself and you guys.

I'll start with my mom. My dad bought her a mother's ring years ago when they were still together. Not sure if she has it anymore. If I ask, she'll know I'm up to something and throw a fit that I'm spending money on her when I still can't work (dr still won't let me go back). I REALLY want to get her a grandmother's ring, but she has 7 grandchildren and most of the rings I found only go up to 6. If I do decide on that, what if one of my brothers' has another child in the future (my tubes are tied)? Should I worry about that? I'm seriously thinking about getting her one from Joey and Payne and just doing their names/stones. Is that in poor taste to leave the other kids out? It's not likely that either of my brothers' will have anymore children, but I obviously can't know that for sure.

It's pretty much the same situation with my mother-in-law. She only has 4 right now, but will most likely have more in the future. I'd like to just do my boys' names and stones, but again I don't know if that would be considered rude to not include my nieces. I'm not sure if she has a mother's ring or not, but if I ask it will be the same situation as I mentioned above with my mom (getting upset about us spending money). They both know us well enough to catch on. lol.

My dad's fiance is the hardest one to figure out. She has too many grandchildren to fit on ANY ring (lol), so that is out unless I just do it with my boys. I want to ask my dad if that would bother her (excluding the other kids), but same as above (he will tell us not to get it because of financial issues). I had problems with her when I was preg with Joey (posted about some of them), but all that has changed. Her attitude has changed towards Thomas and I which has changed ours towards her. She has been a huge help to us and she absolutely adores the boys. She is a wonderful grandmother to them and I want to show her that we appreciate it. Here is the other problem with her and the BIGGEST issue. She had 3 daughters, but one passed away. I don't know if she was stillborn or died shortly after. Her name was Kimberly. If I do a mother's ring for her, I don't know if I should include Kimberly or not. I don't want to hurt her but I want to acknowledge the baby because she does. I just don't know if she would appreciate me including her or have her feelings hurt. I'm going to try and get in touch with one of her daughters and ask her what her thoughts are.

What we REALLY want to do are the rings with just Joey and Payne. As I've said several times, I just don't know if that would be in poor taste. My brothers' don't do anything for anyone but themselves. They don't ever call my mom or even call/visit on holidays. I keep thinking that because of that I shouldn't worry about adding their kids' names. That's not fair, though, because the kids can't control that. I guess that's the biggest thing I'm asking... Would it be rude or should I just not worry about it since I'm the one paying for them?

After typing this out and reading back over it, I think I've pretty much decided to just use Joey and Payne because I found some really nice ones where I can put their stones and names. Since it's a gift from just my family and not everyone, I'm thinking it wouldn't be in poor taste to exclude the other kids.



I will be using income tax money to buy the rings. I get a huge discount at a jewelry store I've used for years, so it's not like I'll be spending a large amount of money. Just thought I'd put that out there since I mentioned financial issues several times. These ladies are always here for us and do a lot for us. I want something special for each of them this year.



Would still love your thoughts/ideas!!! Thanks for sticking with me through the entire post!!!

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