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Date: 10/19/2010 3:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 63026
I am not a father but my friends daughter who's 3 adores me. Last week we sat on their porch and watched the wind and rain fall. She also has 3 barbie doll dresses(with no barbies) and im always the "mom" dress lol. I let her walk my dog and I listen to her, and we have alot of fun. I hope to have 3 daughters cause to me girls are easier to raise. I want to have date nights with each of them. Take care of them when they are sick, go to their school plays and sports games. Sit and talk with them. Heck I'd even play tea parties with them. Im not afraid to show my sensitive side.  |
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Date: 10/19/2010 4:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
I guess all dads are different, my dad wasn't a big hugger when I was little, but he would wrestle with us and take us hiking and on picnics. Can't remember having indepth talks with him. He wasn't your ordinary weekend dad. For some old fashion men, marriage is about the wife, kids are secondary and maybe that is why your father shows affection only to your mother, but it wouldn't occur to him to hug you or tell you he loves you. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you though! My father-n-law was like that, but he's been a great grandfather. Maybe that's how his father was.  |
Date: 10/19/2010 5:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 30747
I grew up in a house were no one said "I love you" to anyone and still don't. My dad died in '97 and I told him I loved him but he was already gone. I came to realize that although the old man never said it, he showed it by supporting and protecting us. There was no doubt he loved his children by the things he did (not said). So it was never an issue with me. I am completely different. My son and I say it everytime we talk. My mother is just not a motherly type of woman but she does the best she can.  |
Date: 10/19/2010 6:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
why don't you tell your father this...  |
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Date: 10/19/2010 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
Just ask "Daddy, do you love Me?" and when he looks at you in surprise and tells you "yes, sweetheart, yes Of course I love you!", tell him, "Then, would you mind saying I love you once in awhile just so I can hear it?" |
Date: 10/19/2010 7:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
Many men have been conditioned to view signs of affection as an "unmanly" thing. It's not that they don't care. It's just they don't feel comfortable expressing it overtly. Maybe you can ask your dad to spend some time with you- do some father daughter thing together. Like, do a project together, or take a camping trip for a weekend. When you in proximity with each other, you'll be able to talk more, and maybe you can get some of these feelings you have been having out in the open with him.  |
Date: 10/19/2010 8:01:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 63846
How old do you think I am, Nani?  Thanks for your input, everyone. Definitely very helpful.  |
Date: 10/19/2010 8:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 62679
My father is an arrogant jerk, sooo I don't have an answer, sorry   |
Date: 10/19/2010 9:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
My dad didn't show affection in hugging or cuddling but from what I gather he never received any whilst he was growing up, but, in saying that, he showed it in other ways. He made us things, was always there for us and was very protective of us all...and there is nothing wrong with asking your father why he doesn't show affection like Nani said, no matter how old you are if it is bothering you that he doesn't, ask him!!  |
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Date: 10/20/2010 3:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 16916
My advice would be to talk to him about it. It is possible that he was brought up the same way and doesn't even relize that it's an issue. I was brought up by my mom (my dad was busy doing other things) and my mom always to us she loved us but wasn't really cuddly or "huggy" so I grew up with that mentality. I still don't like being hugged or cuddled with. Now that my dad is in the picture, he wants me to kiss him and hug him and stuff and I HATE it! His mom when she saw me would grab my face and kiss me a billion times and it totally grossed me out. So maybe that's where your dad is now..he was just brought up that way.  |
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Date: 10/20/2010 4:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
Jellie, I'm the same way. My mother never showed affection, the first time as an adult when she went to hug me I about jumped out of my skin! It just didn't seem natural. I now suffer through goodbye hugs from her, but I'm the opposite with my kids, I love to hug them and always have. |
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Date: 10/20/2010 5:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 64365
Um, let's see. You're about 14 or 15, now...right? Sweetie, I'm Texan by nature having grown up in Texas. I called my Dad 'Daddy' all my life, until he died. I guess I must have been about 10 when I found out his name was Jerry and not Daddy, but God forbid I should ever call him Jerry. LOL. Nope, Daddy was the name I was used to. I called my mother Mommy until she insisted my sis and I replace that y with an A. |
Date: 10/20/2010 8:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 3680
You have a roof over your head, clothes on your back, and food on the table. So number one, be thankful that your father provides for his family. Think of the alternative. He could be the type of father that hits you, verbally abuses you, or even worse assaults you. Your dad just sounds a bit old school. At the same time, he might not even know that this is a problem. It's not fair for you to talk in a negative way about him, when you won't even tell him how you feel. Let him know. Hope it works out for ya.  |
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Date: 10/20/2010 9:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 63846
Hey guys, thanks for all of the great input. I asked my mother about it and she said that his parents were a little bit cold like he is now, and that's probably why. Thanks for bringing that up, Jellie. It was super helpful. Also, I'm thirteen, Nani. But you can go on thinking I'm twenty-seven if it makes your life any easer. |
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Date: 10/20/2010 10:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
Clearly 14 or 15 means 27! LOL |
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Date: 10/20/2010 10:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 3680
Way too many numbers. I need rain man to interpret this for me. "no...7....definitely 7...k-mart, half price....." |
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Date: 10/20/2010 10:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 11240
With all the accusations of sexual and child abuse that goes on in the world today, I can understand why some men don't feel comfortable showing affection to their teen-age daughters. Anyway, I grew up never hearing my dad say "I love you" until I started saying it to him. Try it, and even if he doesn't say it back, keep it up, especially if you mean it. God Bless.  |
Date: 10/21/2010 11:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 52546
My dad just recently after my mom's death started showing me and my sisters affection. He makes a point to say I love you and is giving more hugs. It something I am not really used to. He would say I love you in the past but I could tell that it was almost forced for our benifit. He has changed since moms death some for the good and the bad.  |
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