Date: 10/28/2009 7:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 54444
If a girl says UP FRONT "I would be happy to go (where ever)with you as friends, but I ant interested in dating and don't want you to get the wrong idea." There is no problem. If he should try to cross the line after that, it is him that is the problem and you don't need him as a friend. Honesty up front is the main thing. who pays is another issue altogether. Paying someone's way doesn't merit MORE or mean you OWE them extra favors. It too should be decided up front though . Honesty of intentions up front is the whole key. Most people don't like surprise endings, especially ones that let them down. Don't be an idiot like Bella in twilight and keep your friends confused. Trust me guys hate that.  |
Date: 10/28/2009 7:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
@}~~ as long as the man knows before hand that you are just hanging out and not dating than it is fine. My son always buys dinner for his female friends when they hangout, it is just something he does, he knows they are just friends but his father taught him that a man should take care of a lady and my son does, dating or not.  |
Date: 10/28/2009 8:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
How about before the "non date" you say let's go dutch.
That way you don't wait until the bill gets there and have that awkward moment.  |
Date: 10/28/2009 8:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
This is easy. If you are truly uncomfortable with someone paying for your part, when the waitress comes to take your order tell her that it will be seperate checks, than give her your order. Simply carry on without making a big deal out of it. At the end of the meal she will lay a check next you and one next to him. I do this all the time when I go out to eat with other people and there is no fuss.  |
Date: 10/28/2009 6:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
Chivalry- as in, saying please and thank you and opening the door for you- is fine and dandy. Chivalry- as in letting a guy who you are not even dating pay your way is a load of crud. This isn't the 1950's. Most of us ladies have our own incomes, and we should be paying our own way. Not that you should never let a guy buy dinner for you- goodness knows, you also don't want to date someone who's a total cheapskate- but you should reciprocate (by buying dinner for him) at another point. And I agree with you that allowing someone to pay your way when it's strictly not a date is giving the wrong impression. I would let them know straight from the beginning that I'm splitting the bill with them or paying for the next dinner.  |
Date: 10/29/2009 11:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Pay your own way sweetie, and in doing that he will not get the wrong idea...just my opinion for what it's worth...  |
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