Date: 10/21/2009 10:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 63026
There's a big difference in being respected and being a jerk...
Someone who is respected gets jobs done, listens to others, and takes all in consideration.
Someone being a jerk will be wreckless, won't let anyone have input, and disregards others feelings.
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Date: 10/21/2009 10:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 5622
In my line of work Ive had as much as 700 employees( mechanics,operators,clercks,drivers,janitors,electricians,etc) at one time and it works to be strong but not a jerk...you dont need people to like you but to respect you as a fair person who dont take excuses and make things happend in a positive way. There is no way that everybody will like you when you are the bose but is good to know that when you take a desicion and take action over an employee more that 60% will know that you was fair and that person had it coming for lack of performance,discipline or bad attitude. To give you and example I had fired people and they still salude(and some still are my friends) me when they see me...its buisness...not personal and that applies to any line of work...pure buisness...it also applies to your social life. When you dont like something make sure you make it clear(maybe not at moment but think cold and wait for the right moment). When you have something to say dont used disrespectfull language,that only creates a wall between the parties,state your point clear and making sure that is understood.Be strong have character,make others respect you for what you are and respect others even when you dont agree with them. You dont have to laught all the time and you dont have to be a jerk at any time.  |
Date: 10/21/2009 11:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
@}~~ EGO said it great!  |
Date: 10/21/2009 11:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 62918
Well, exactly what I was going to say was already said for me by Uncle Rad and EGO, lol. Just make sure they know that you're not messing around, that you actually mean what you say. A serious look on your face can do a lot.  . . . Stay strong, Sister girl!  |
Date: 10/21/2009 12:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 3835
There is also the saying, "You catch more flies with honey than vinegar"... meaning, you can still be nice, yet tactful and assertive when you need to get a point across, without being down right mean or ugly about it..  |
Date: 10/21/2009 5:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 35178
Be fair, be firm, be friendly. The 3 f's.  |
Date: 10/21/2009 10:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Yep just remember the 3 F's like SA says...you'll never please everyone all the time but remembering those 3 F's will earn you respect...  |
Date: 10/22/2009 7:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 62679
Sometimes it seems like this. It seems like all my friends who are married are total "You know whats" to their hubbies. And me who is sweet and loving, end up with jerks who hurt me..  |
Date: 10/22/2009 12:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 54444
Everone else does not do it (i.e. be mean). and why would you even want to define what you re by what everyone or anyone else does, mystifies me. What you were taught by your folks was and is right. You cannot control nor be responsible for how other people act. but you alone can control how you act and react. so be true to yourself. Be the nice person you are and let the cards fall where they will. Why would you want to even consider being deliberately mean? I don't think you really would.  |
Date: 10/22/2009 2:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 37150
I take this as how I am in the classroom. If I'm "too nice" a teacher, the kids will try to take advantage of me or act up. They need discipline and someone serious. But, I'm also not a scary mean teacher. Like everything there's a balance. You can't bee too nice, but don't be a jerk.  |
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