UPDATE Too upset to sleep, school vent AGAIN ~FieryMomOf2~

I should be in bed sleeping. But here I sit, steaming. And the worst part is I can't do anything about it until morning. Today Ryan (my 12 y/o that has Asperger's) came home with a note in his folder, that said he swung at his aide, got a level three (the highest level of punishment in the special Community school, who I will refer to as UCCS throughout this post), and that he'd be staying at UCCS instead of going to his home campus for 2 classes the rest of the week.

I asked Ryan about it, and he said he was just flopping his arm, he'd never strike a teacher. I believe him. Random movement is a part of Asperger's. If he was going to hit someone, he'd actually do it, he just wouldn't pretend like he was going to, and he'd never strike out at a teacher or an aide.

On top of that, last week they put him in isolation because he was "sniffling and sneezing, showing symptoms of a cold." It had been cold that morning, and I don't believe he wore a jacket that morning. Everyone here is so paranoid about H1N1 because a kid 2 towns over died from it awhile back. He was showing no symptoms of a cold by the time he got home.

They've isolated him, they've harassed him, they threaten him over the SMALLEST issue, to back us into a corner and keep us locked into that stupid school. Ryan hates UCCS, I hate UCCS and their condescending attitude.

What makes me even madder is I know for a cold hard fact that I'm going to get a telephone call waking me up in the morning, and it's going to be filled with more condescension and reasons why they think THEY know what's best for my son. I literally cringe just hearing the principal's voice in my ear. She thinks I'm too stupid to be a parent to a special needs child, and that they know what's best for him. She's threatened me with CPS before, because Ryan fell out of bed (I didn't see it that morning, my ex was living with me at the time, and didn't know to put a note in Ryan's folder explaining what happened), scraped his face all up, and she said she'd have to call CPS if I didn't take him to a doctor to get cleared of abuse. That was one of the most humiliating things I ever had to do.

But they've got me over a barrel. If I threaten legal action, that puts the authorities square in the middle of my life and my business. She could make good on her threat to call CPS on me. They wouldn't find much, but just the hassle of having them watch me is headache enough. They could start problems over the fact that I'm still on probation and have Bruce living with me. God won't be enough to save that woman if she causes me to lose even temporary custody of my kids.

I don't know what else to do. I'm dreading the phone call tomorrow, but it has to be dealt with. I'm fed up with them constantly finding excuses to move him one step back.

I had started preliminary enrollment in an online public school in Texas, but canceled the enrollment after UCCS jumped and said they'd get Ryan mainstreamed right away. I should mention they get extra money from the state for every child they keep there. Which pays the salaries of the teachers and employees. More kids, more money in their pockets.

Emotionally and mentally, I'm worn out. I'm tired of fighting this battle with them. I don't know what my legal rights are fully, but I intend to find out.

Thanks for listening to me...

*hugs*

Melissa

UPDATE: So after the nasty little note I sent back to the school that I was not in agreement with their decision to put Ryan back in UCCS and to please call me, I get a note home today that said Ryan was not pulled out of his home campus because of the "mistakes" but they're doing "testing" all this week. TESTING!! You think they could've mentioned this to me in the note instead of saying he was being uncooperative and had tried to swing at an aide, then throwing in that he would be at the home campus the rest of the week. It naturally leads one to believe that he's being punished for whatever deed they can think of. Testing...why didn't they say that in the first place? I still hate this place...

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