Date: 3/30/2008 11:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 15157
She doesn`t sound like a very good friend to me
You should break it off softly. Tell her that you feel you have grown apart. Hun you deserve a better friend than this. (((Hugs)))  |
Date: 3/30/2008 11:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 4995
You eat at HER house and she wants you to PAY for it???? Your so called *friend* is a psycho who needs some serious HELP. DUMP her and RUN. I ended a 15 year friendship not too long ago and I feel FREE. This psycho so called *friend* of mine blackmailed me and threatened me about stuff that would make me lose my boyfriend and my job just cause she had a hissy fit and couldnt have her way cause I stood UP to her. It hurts..trust me..but I feel freer than I have in a LONG time. Get rid of this parasite and go on with your own life. You WILL feel better. I promise. CP.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 11:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 63366
The easiest ways to loose a friend is to barrow money and not pay it back. The easiest way to get rid of said friend is to ignore that friend and never loan then money or do anything for that leach again. In true friendship money shouldn’t be an issue, it should be a two way street though. This person sounds like they have an addiction or compulsion problem and really needs to seek help. Best of luck to you, no matter how you proceed.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 11:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 14909
I agree with these 2 above me.  |
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Date: 3/30/2008 11:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 14909
And Kiki |
Date: 3/30/2008 12:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 60685
She sounds like a leech. I'd drop her.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 12:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 3835
Just politely and quietly let her know that you do not understand why you should have to pay for eating (or what ever) at her house when you feel that is a "payment " in exchange for you driving her to places she needs to go. If she begins to get upset about it or talk mean to you... simply tell her then you have absolutely no choice but to ask her to find another way to get around to places she needs to go, because you do not ask her for gas money or expenses for the up-keep on your car so she can run her errands and do her shopping. After you have told her this, just walk out of her home quietly, and get into your car and leave without looking back. Do not phone her. If she later calls you and asks for a ride some place, ask her if she will be giving you gas money if you are going to be nothing to her but a taxi driver. If she refuses, then apologize and explain to her that she will need to call a cab to get to that place she wants to go..  |
Date: 3/30/2008 12:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 48809
Yes, I suppose it is a hard decision for some people to make... but you either need to walk away from her or let her walk all over you ! It is your decision.... she is using you...don't let her.  |
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Date: 3/30/2008 12:36:00 PM ( Admin )
There is an alternative. If the friendship is worth anything to her see what she does if you don't pay. If she gets mad and drops you as a friend then it wasn't worth the few bucks she would have got. Otherwise, she might learn to just give you things like friends do. |
Date: 3/30/2008 12:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 63725
I am guessing that if you ask her for gas money you won't have to worry about ending the friendship. She will likely end it if she is using you. It's tough but true colors show when one is pressed.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 1:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 30747
There's nothing really hard about this really. She has taken advantage of you long enough and it's time you tell her so. She's not going to just let you walk away without an explanation so just tell her what you said right here. If she argues....walk away. You don't owe her your guilt or anything else. This is YOUR life and you should surround it with people who treat you better than that.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 1:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 21867
Radman/Admin is on the money with this one I reckon. I'd try his suggestion.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 2:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
shes a user and a loser. she is not your friend. just tell her plainly, you dont want to be friends anymore. if she asks why , say you have your reasons and walk away. dont hang out with her, dont call or answer her calls. just shut her out of your life. i have had to do it, it sucks, but its better than being taken advantage of forever.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 2:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 38119
Or you could just passively end the friendship by avoiding her phone calls. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to begin with so why bother being nice about it.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 4:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 45630
Why don't you wait and next time she invites you over for a meal just say sorry I can't afford it.  |
Date: 3/30/2008 6:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
I'd tell her straight up. Before you give her a ride anywhere tell her you can NOT afford gas anymore, and she needs to contribute or she isnt going anywhere. Make it sound like your just took broke to be her taxi...and as for you paying for food when you eat at her house... Dont eat or bring your own grub. Friendships are tricky things. Sometimes people have qualities that make it almost impossible to get real close to them. So, end the friendship or take it for what its worth and learn to work around their negative qualities.  |
Date: 3/31/2008 6:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 4231
Very interesting. Radman, your advice is different but I think your right on sir =)  |
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