Date: 12/12/2005 4:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
Bring a wrapped gift to the teacher, without your daughter knowing- explain what is going on, and that you didn't want to call attention to it, but you didn't want your daughter to be left out. That way when everyone gets their gift, have your teacher bring one to your daughter and say, "This was left on my desk for you." That way it will seem really special, and your daughter will forget about feeling left out.  |
Date: 12/12/2005 4:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 63258
Oh, Cool idea Beags! -KT  |
Date: 12/12/2005 4:57:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 63172
oooh good idea Beags  |
Date: 12/12/2005 4:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
Thanks!  |
Date: 12/12/2005 5:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 39370
Yep, I'm with Beags! That sounds like a great idea  |
Date: 12/12/2005 5:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 63209
Well, Beags' idea sounds sort of.. wrong. It is like lying to your child if you bring one yourself.. if you wanted that to happen it'd be the same as having her beg you for a gift and get it for her. I would just bring it up, without sounding obnoxious or rude, and tell the teacher. Or have your child tell her. Not that big of a deal, if you do that the teacher could probably come up with something.  |
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Date: 12/12/2005 5:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
CR- I get what you're saying, but parents lie to their young children every year when they say "Santa brought it." It's not harmful- it's in good fun. My point wasn't to deceive the little girl, it was to take her out of the "left out" spot and put her into the "a mysterious gift was left for you by a real secret santa" spot, you know? |
Date: 12/12/2005 5:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
You can't do the gift in place of. The kid told your daughter that they were not buying her a gift --- the teacher needs to know this and contact the other mother. The teacher might decide to not let the other child participate and give the gift meant for her, to your daughter. If you don't bring a gift, you can't participate in a gift exchange --that is how it was done in school's and church's here. The teachers could decide then to give a gift to the ones left out. I think the whole thing is sad though and your daughter was hurt needlessly. That other mom should not have told her child that...  |
Date: 12/12/2005 5:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 52333
beags idea is a good one... just keep in mind that the girl might also just be mean.... kids do that   |
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Date: 12/12/2005 5:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
Beags does have a good idea but the teacher needs to know and decide what to do. If the other parent is having finace trouble, maybe the gift money is to buy their food. I don't know but let us know the outcome. |
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Date: 12/12/2005 5:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 62849
MagikalKitty- that idea crossed my mind, too.. that the little girl was just talking jibberish and her mom didn't really say that. In that case, if only Melissa and the teacher know about it, the gift can be donated or used as a classroom toy or something. |
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Date: 12/12/2005 5:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 63172
You all have good ideas. I do know this kid is mean. She has delighted in picking on my daughter since she moved to the school. Last year she pushed her down and kicked her. I will bring an extra gift in case she doesnt get one and if she does Ill keep the gift and pick a kid from the tree at kmart that needs it. |
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Date: 12/12/2005 6:36:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 63172
It seems like there is one every year that does this to someone. Last year a students mother picked her gift up,said she was sick,forgot to bring the other childs present and would bring it when school started back. The kid never got it. Dont know which kid was just told this by the mother of the child that got no gift. I think parents like that are teaching their children to lie. |
Date: 12/12/2005 6:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 49739
My daugher's class (she's in 2nd grade) instead of doing agift exchange, they have a tree in their room and each student makes a homemade ornament for the tree (they make an ornament or ahand make letter saying what they love about the class) and when they bring in their ornament, they get a gingerbread man filled with goodies. Then for the gifts, the parents donate school supplies (like a pack of crayons or markers and pencils), and each student gets school supplies for the gift exchange. For my son (who's in kindergarten) each parent brings in a book wrapped up with the stuents name on it from santa and this is what they get for gift exchange. I think these ideas are easier and a lot less complicated then gift exchanges so that no child gets left out or gets their feelings hurt.  |
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Date: 12/12/2005 7:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 63209
Beags- I know what you are saying, but I still don't think it is right. "Santa brought it" is sometimes something people WANT their kids to believe, and that the kids THEMSELVES want to believe. So, it could be done, but it would make me feel awkward and guilty of lying. That is just how I would feel about it, but that may not be true for her. |
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Date: 12/12/2005 7:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
Your last comment brings back forgotten sad memories. The gift that was 'accidently forgotten' over and over and never given, taught that child after a few times of similar happenings becauses promises not being fulfilled, not to believe in people and not to trust. They learned to "believe it when they see it" and know that something usually messes up when it comes to them. |
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Date: 12/12/2005 7:46:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 63172
You are right Penny and it is sad. The worst thing IMO is that the child that doesnt bring the gift will be embarassed in front of the class. Its not the childs fault. I dont want my child left out but I can bring her something. |
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Date: 12/12/2005 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 28946
You have a good heart Melissa and I am sorry thast your little girl had her heart broken. I think some children and their parents have forgotten that Santa still gives out a lump of coal for misbehaving. (((HUGS))) to you and your little girl. |
Date: 12/12/2005 9:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 7830
I was going to suggest buy a gift and take it to your daughter's teacher to give on the behalf of the other girl. It's not the girl's fault and shouldnt be embarassed.  |
Date: 12/13/2005 6:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 19682
That is a very cruel and cheap thing for the mother to comment on. $5.00 is hardly any money to miss.
I think I would pass that information to the teacher and see what the teacher would say. It is not fair to the child especially after committing.  |
