Date: 10/11/2003 11:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 1225
Well, when my sister had her kids, she couldn't stand NOT to have someone with her at all times. But it's really up to the person. If they want to be left alone, it's their right.  |
Date: 10/11/2003 11:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 3688
I don't have children YET, but I think it's a normal expectation, after giving birth, you're exhausted, probably gonna sleep most of the time anyway so why shouldn't visitors see the baby and the proud papa and wait til YOU are up to having visitors?  |
Date: 10/11/2003 11:51:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Well that is the thing I wanted for me and him to be with our child...I didnt want a whole lot of people to be handling him since he was six weeks early. I figured we had plenty of time to share his birth after I got out of the hospital and was settled in  |
Date: 10/11/2003 11:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 16164
I didnt want anyone near me, but no one listened.I wasnt up for hearing I should do this and I should do that.....if anyone wanted to help or visit they could have visited me at home, I felt so embarrased after my sergeryI wanted to sleep and rest, not have people point out a cateter and laugh at how puffy I got.help when I get home, ot in the hospital.I couldnt walk ya think they came over to visit no and when they finally did the ignorant people laughed at how I couldnt barely pick my daughter up, and told me I wasnt being a good parent because I could get around too good, if she was hungry I should have been right there and than..but I had to practically crawl to get her, they just sat there.I think he is being selfish by saying that to you.if he wanted to share the experience with you, it is a moment for "your" family to share, you, him, the baby.....that is priority the bonding between you guys, they could have made a big family dinner when you got out, to share and enjoy you guys to be together, not cry and pout.  |
Date: 10/11/2003 12:02:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Hairbear I know I totally agree with you. I wont go visit a new mother in teh hospital I may call her or send he flowers or candy or baloons or something but I would wait until after she is home settled into a routine then either pop in(if she is a close family member or good friend) or call and ask her when would be a good time to come by and visit the new baby and mommy That to me is just common courtesy maybe cause I had to deal with unwanted visitors in teh hospital and I thought I was nice to them although I was a tad groggy from all the meds I was on. Oh well life goes on I suppose...I just cant believe he still thinks about that six yeras later!!! |
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Date: 10/11/2003 12:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 16164
I think he should take you to dinner.just because. |
Date: 10/11/2003 12:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
I guess for each person its different. If I DIDNT have visitors in the hospital after giving birth I was lonely and sad..LOL..I would be hurt if they didnt come to see me AND the baby.  |
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Date: 10/11/2003 12:35:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
I can understand that LadyLuck I just did not feel comfortable having alot of people around me while I was not dressed and I was barely able to move around it took me forever just to get to teh bathroom and he was really early and tiny and I was afraid to many people being around him could make him sick. I was just thinking about this today cause he had brought it up to me the other day and I could not believe he was still thinking about it much less still upset over it. Hairbear I would not want to go out with him...we arent still together we split up shortly after I gave birth. Oh another reason why I did not want to have his family there is because they tend to take over and like I thought they would they monopolized the baby for the first two days after he was born I did not get to even se my son until almost a whole day after I had him because of the fact that I was on medication and every time I woke up someone new was holding the baby...and his family did cme to the hospital even though I did not wnat them to |
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Date: 10/11/2003 5:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Totally understandable Jessica and it was YOUR right..We all have different thoughts and feelings and you should not have been made to feel bad because of your feelings. |
