Date: 4/20/2003 9:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 59418
Tell your folks you really love him, and you know he's not just gonna use you. Maybe if you could get them to meet each other, they would understand better, and see what kind of person he is and stuff. good luck   |
Date: 4/20/2003 9:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
how old are you?  |
Date: 4/20/2003 9:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 19625
I looked at your profile and it says you're 18 and old enough to make your own decisions. I'm 14 and I dated a guy who was 4 years older than me, my parents had a HUGE problem with that, now I can understand why, cuz I'm so young, and there are legal issues and all, but for you that's not the case. If you and him get along well, and you really like him and think you might have a future with him, explain that to your parents, try to get them to see your point of veiw. You're probably a very responible person, because you're bothered when your parents don't agree with you on something, so you probably know what's best for you and when something really isn't right. Erin-  |
Date: 4/20/2003 10:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 30986
I think as long as you are over 18, you have a right to make your own decisions. I had the same problem when I was younger because I always liked older men... not like they could be my dad older, but older than me. My parents had a fit and it was rough, Only thing I can say is to bite the bullet so to speak. At least you will get it out in the open and won't have secrets hanging over your head causing all kinds of stress. I think once your parents realize what a great guy he is, they'll understand. Strange thing about me though, throughout all the years of likeing older men, I am now married to a man four years YOUNGER than me, LOL! I'm the older woman. But everyone has their preferences, you just have to have faith in yourself and the choices you make and stand up for them.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 10:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 42519
I was with Demon Slayer a little after i just hit 17, and he was 20 at the time. Granted, its not 8 years, but my parents are 9 years apart, and my sister and her husband are 8 years apart, and none of that bothers any of us... we all think its right for a girl to be with an older guy... Within 10 years... Just be confident and have him be himself and you be yourself, cuz eveyone will know when your bluffing... Love ya tonz.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 820
You can't always please everyone, including your family. You can't let anyone but YOU choose who you date. If your parents, grandma, or whoever doesn't like who you're dating, then they don't like him. It's their problem that they can't look past the nonimportant things and see that you two really like eachother. Good luck with all of this.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 12:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
I'm forty and my dear bride is nineteen. How's that for an age difference? It doesn't matter to us, though, and it never has. Age is nothing more than a number. What matters is what is in the hearts of two people. If it's right, all of the rest will just fall into place. You're an adult and you need to make your own decisions instead of sensely worrying about what everyone else will think or say. It's your life and you are the one who will have to live with your decisions. If your family really loves you, and I'm sure they do, they'll want nothing more than for you to be happy. When they see that you are and that he's a great guy, I'm sure they'll come around. If they have the nerve to bring the issue of sex into it, you can tell them this. For one thing, it's mostly the younger guys who are obsessed with sex. The older and more mature they are, the less likely it will matter to them as much. Then again, it's none of their business or anyone else's. If you ever want or need to talk about this, feel free to message me anytime. Take care and have a happy Easter.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 3:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
you are quite young and your parents fear for you two being together... you have alot in the negitive side.... how does he feel about this?? an older guy has different priorities in life...and they fear he has the wrong priorities... if you love him and care for him and he has a good head on his shoulders and a good future ahead of him(not a high school drop out that smokes does drugs and holds a min imum wage job with no cares of furthering education and furthering himself) if he has a good head on his shoulders your parents might be more accepting... remember it's hard for them... your thier baby and they want the very best for you  |
Date: 4/20/2003 4:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
What Kysta said!!  |
Date: 4/20/2003 6:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
You are still young, like what, 17, 18? That is a big deal to be going out with a guy that much older, and even if he is great, I can see where your family is coming from. Take things slow, and let him be around your family a lot so that they can warm up to him as much as you have. I hope the age gap doesn't interfere, but if it is meant to be, it won't. And also, don't break the rules or your curfew with him or else your parents will put up their guard with him  |
Date: 4/20/2003 7:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 60162
Are your parents dating him? I think its unfair for parents to decide who is and isnt right for their children when they are ready to start dating. Just be honest with them, explain to them how special he makes you feel and see what happens. At the end of the day, it is your life and they know that.  |
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Date: 4/21/2003 7:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 59418
oh btw, my parents have a 12 year age gap. |
Date: 4/21/2003 7:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 60395
follow your heart- that's all you can do. *musicgirl*  |
48279 Category:(General Advice) Created:(4/20/2003 9:06:00 AM)