Date: 12/18/2001 10:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 46005
I was an abused child, and thankyou for posting this it may help someone else. ... this is such a sad sad sad sad thing, and unfortunately it will never end, and there will always be victims.... and there will always be people like me who cant move on, and let go  |
Date: 12/18/2001 10:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 45684
I was also abused as a child. I felt myself nodding as I read this. Thanks so much for putting this out for people to read. It helps to know that I'm not alone, even if it feels that way sometimes. ~technicolor  |
Date: 12/18/2001 10:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
Hi Alexanders Mom.. I am so sorry to hear that.  It is so prevalent and yet, so many are uninformed of what it truly means to be raped. So many do not know the emotional scars left can and do hurt for a life time. Letting go, moving on, it is one of the hardest things on the face of this earth. Unfortunately, you are right, it will never end, and there will always be victims. But I will never stand by and let anyone go uninformed of what to look for in their children or other people. In a way, this is my way of helping out. I post these all over the internet. Hoping that it will help someone else. That is all we can do. Tell the story and hope it helps someone else. Love and Big Monkey Hugs!!!  |
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Date: 12/18/2001 10:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
Technicolor, you are never alone. Thousands feel the same way you do, but I do understand how you feel. With each new case, it is never the same. The emotions may be similar, but no one can truly 'walk' in your emotional shoes. But there are many who have been through the same thing who are there for you. Remember that when it gets to be too hard to deal with alone. Seek friends, family, anyone who will talk to you. And remember, you are NEVER alone. Love ya, BIG MONKEY HUGS!!!! |
Date: 12/18/2001 10:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
This is excellent information, many times a victim of rape will never realize the empowerment of becoming a survivor, simply because they may need to know this type of information, you have given some much needed information and at the same time sent a message for anyone who has been raped to reach out and get that much needed support.  |
Date: 12/18/2001 10:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 38751
yeah , this has also happened to me and it would have worked out soo much better if someone had noticed any difference in me , i had changed but they never asked or questioned , if i could say just one thing about this post it would be "dont feel like ur intruding or invading thier privacy , it could save a life"
*blonde-surfin-chica*  |
Date: 12/18/2001 10:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
Thank you, Shadow Ghost!! I know it is different from my usual 'humorous' posts, but in a way, I am tired of not speaking out for those who suffer in silence and feel shame when it was not their fault. I thank you for reading and answering the post, it means a lot to me.  Love ya, BIG MONKEY HUGS!!!! |
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Date: 12/18/2001 10:35:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
Blond Surfin Chica, that is great information, do you mind my adding it to the post? It is exactly right also, if someone is not strong emotionally, it could save a life for interference to be made. It is never interference if it saves a life, and it could. Thank you for that, Love and Big Monkey Hugs!!! |
Date: 12/18/2001 10:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
very useful infromation monk glad you posted it here as not many would see it on mlm.....I fortunately have never been a victim, but I know people who have been......scary world to live in eh? *Sigh*  |
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Date: 12/18/2001 10:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
Thanks Beckster, was at your suggestion that I posted it here. I have been putting it elsewhere on the web also. I am glad you have never been through it, it is one of the most horrible experiences a woman can go through. *SIGH* Information is a good way to fight it, though, and I am doing my part here. Love ya, BIG MONKEY HUGS!!! |
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Date: 12/18/2001 10:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 46683
Been there done that....thank you for this entry. sooo much.. when healing timing is right wonders are done by facing abuser, if possible. RABBITSINK |
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Date: 12/18/2001 10:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
RabbitSink, thank you for reading and replying. I am sorry you went through it. Thank you for the information. I am glad that you were able to find some peace by facing your attacker. Love and Big Monkey Hugs!!! |
Date: 12/18/2001 11:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 15033
Hmmm, I didn't have any of those symptoms. I just beat the guy to a pulp with a board about a year later. Funny how taking matters into your own hands, when it comes to a rapist, can make you feel sooooo much better. :-)  |
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Date: 12/18/2001 11:21:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30743
Hey Thunderhead, so sorry to hear that you have been through it. Not everyone feels the same about the experience, especially to one whose first time was rape. It is also harder for children and teens to comprehend. Every woman who goes through this is entitled to every feeling she has about it. Every man also. I'm glad that you had none of these symptoms. They are terrible. I would like to say though, that ANY feeling is not wrong when something like this happens. Whatever you feel is your way of dealing with it. Also, not every woman is strong enough physically or emotionally to face or beat up her attacker. |
Date: 12/18/2001 11:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 19685
I've been trough this. I didn't have those symptoms really (well some of them I already had prior to the incident because I have depression). I did, however, feel ashamed and mocked. I was friends with the guy and he told all of our mutual friends that he finally got what he wanted from me. Got? pssshhh... took. Stole. A while later I saw him and confronted him about it. I slapped him and yelled at him and of course, by this time he was truly sorry for the act and for his comment. I have never seen him again.  |
Date: 12/19/2001 12:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 27046
This has happened to my best friend so many times its uncountable. I also feel that a parent has a responsibility to talk to their daughters about sex and tell them explicitly what happens from point A to point B. The first time my best friend had sex she was raped, but she had no clue. She went on vacation with her family and her boyfriend went with them. She drank to much passed out and woke up in the middle of it. By that time it was too late, 3 weeks after she came home she found out she was pregnant. I had to tell her she was raped. She was only 17. The man was abusive and still is abusive. He has raped her on several other occassions. Two years ago we went out to a bar and met up with a high school friend, we had seen him out several times and felt comfortable with him. I was too drunk to drive so she and this other friend walked me the two blocks to my home and then he drove her home. He came in her house to use the bathroom and then they said their goodbyes. She went in to change into her pajamas turned and opened her bedroom door to go to the bathroom herself and he was standing in the doorway....he forced her back into her room and raped her in her own house, in her own bed. She never went back to the house and never slept in that bed again. She had someone pack her stuff for her. She lived with me for a few months after that and I tell you the flashbacks that she had were horrible. She keeps her nails very long and manicured. Her daughter came and woke me up one night because she was digging at her neck. While she was being raped her shirt was strangling her and dreaming she was digging her neck for the shirt so she could breathe. She weighs 125 pds and both me and my husband had a job holding her down trying to wake her up. She drew blood to her neck and everything before we managed to tackle her good enough to stop it and wake her up. Right now she has another child that is 6 months old. She is in a relationship with the child's father and she has told me that she puts herself in another place and time when they have sex and she feels dirty afterward. She came to me puzzled and could not understand why she felt like that. I said My God Becky look at how many times you have been sexually abused. She won't go to counseling...she makes me her counselor...many of us have begged and pleaded for her to go and she thinks it will have no benefit...Her biggest enemy....she is beautiful and has a gorgeous body...and men think its okay to take what they want of her...makes me sick!!...  |
Date: 12/19/2001 4:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 27845
My best friend was raped when she was only 15! Her brother had a friend staying over at her house and in the night her brother's friend came into her room and raped her. The trauma that she has gone through can not be expressed. She used to be so happy and talkative and now she is untrusting and gets really nervous around strange men she doesn't know. She has gone to councelling and that has helped but nothing can erase what has happened. This is such a horrible horrible crime commited by the lowest of the low. Great post Monkey Luvr it's about time people had more information about what is happening to todays society and to know what to do when it does happen.  |
Date: 12/19/2001 5:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 30986
This is a wonderful post monkey!!! I hope it will help people to understand and open the doors of healing for many. I love you monkey sis!!!!!!!! Love and hugs,  |
Date: 12/19/2001 5:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 27414
My wife was raped at 16! With a knife at her throat. She'll never be over it but I'm trying to provide a "LIFE" for her...pianoman  |
Date: 12/19/2001 5:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
WOW Monkey my dear, I am almost speechless. This is a wonderfully written Post! I just do not know what to say other than I love you kiddo!  |
Date: 12/19/2001 7:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 11091
MonkeyLuvr, great post. This is very informative and hopefully a child in danger can be saved. I know these feelings all to well.  |
Date: 12/22/2001 10:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 34078
My first wife had an attempted rape. Later becoming a psychotherapist specializing in rape victims.  |
Date: 3/26/2002 8:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 51241
i wasnt abused or raped as a child, but my ex-girlfriend's sister was. i now know the kind of caring and the precautions needed to try and keep them at ease. thank you for shinig more light on this frequently overlooked subject.
Tweeter82*  |
