Date: 3/26/2001 10:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 30708
This may sound a little hard but I think all that your boyfriend's father wants is a little comfort, because he's feeling lonely now that his father (your boyfriend's grampa) died. He misses his father... Well well what about your boyfriend who missed his father all of his life until now?
It took a person's death for him to feel what your boyfriend felt for his whole life and realize that he has been a bad father... I think there's nothing he could do now to make it up to your boyfriend. But I think they should meet anyway. You b/f will probably not get hurt as you're afraid, I think they'll end up as friends... but just friends. A quote: "Don't be afraid of those who love you!"
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Date: 3/27/2001 3:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 31014
i think he should meet him ( we dont no all the story so its hard to judge the father and mother ) if he doesnt meet him/them then he will always have this hanging over him wont he? and that will affect you aswell. perhaps you should meet with one of them to say how the son feels, so they cood arrange to meet him instead of him doin all the running , although you cood get in trouble for this someone has to start the ball rolling dont they??? its not something thats gonna get sorted by doing nothing!! but goodluck try and let me no what happens x Blitterbabe x  |
Date: 3/27/2001 4:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Sounds like he really "needs" to meet him. Be there for him when he does. ***Gail***  |
Date: 3/27/2001 9:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 3538
I would step in and help him meet his father.I am sure that his father is curious to know who his son is,too.It sounds like his father needs some comfort and support right now.I know it would be a memorable reunion,one that your boyfriend would never forget.After all,that is his father and I can imagine that your boyfriend is having mixed feelings as to what he should do.Encourage him some more to meet his father.  |
Date: 3/27/2001 11:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 11749
I agree with Gail. Just be there for him. I also think that you should ask your boyfriend if he wants your help with anything. Showing that you care and that you're there for him will help him tremendously, I promise! Hope I helped! ~CaitieAnjel  |
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Date: 3/27/2001 11:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 31623
i know what you mean i was taken away from my father at three 1/2 my mom also ran away when i was two i segest you to do is to sit down with him and talk to him about the consequences of making contact it will help you and him that way you know if he does not want to get hurt he will be willing to work with you that way you two can live a more comfortable life. i lve in a foster home i have been in foster care for almost 14 yrs so i know how much it hurts to not know who your parents are but i also know if he visits his biological parents when hes not ready it will hurt both of you maybe not right a way but in the long run it will come back and haunt you so ill ta\ell you what i dont know if you guys go to church but i do i am a pentacostal christian and will be praying for you both if you need any help at all you can email me @ [email protected] good luck hope to talk to you soon and hear that everything is going better but you should not just step back and wath the other get hurt. so if you do this he will probably stop driving you nuts and he will probably loose interest in seeing them realizing how much they hurt him now this dont mean that it will make things go away but it will fill that whole in the relationship just pray and talk to God for he is always there i have a quick comment if you dont know God as your personal savior and want to email me about how or you can visit a christian web site @klove.com i will be praying for the relationship and the parents but if you want you guys need to pray to if you trust God i know how hard it is to trust somebody after this has happened but God has a plan |
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Date: 3/27/2001 11:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 31623
if you have any questions you can email me this is the same kid [email protected] |
Date: 3/27/2001 4:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 6890
much^ sorry  |
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Date: 3/27/2001 4:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 6890
I say to just tell him to stop! he need to talk to these people and once him meets them you'll see you don't dive by as must |
Date: 3/28/2001 9:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 13619
You are doing the right thing by standing beside him, but go ahead and give him questions or come up with a conversations that he can use to feel more comfortable, once he knows or gets an idea of what to say, it will be esaier, but he needs an idea. Once he is face to face with them it will cone naturally. He needs to stop hurting himself like that and take a step forward. good luck and keep us posted.
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